13 Ways to Deal with Being the Other Woman ...

By Heather

13 Ways to Deal with Being the Other Woman ...

Being the other woman is a tough situation isn’t it? This is especially true if the guy is married and not just in a relationship. There are ways to deal with being the other woman and here, we’ll explore some of them. We’ll also talk about maybe getting yourself out of being the other woman.

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Face the Truth

When you’re in a situation where you are being the other woman, it can be really difficult to see the truth. Is he really going to leave his girlfriend? Is he going to stick with his wife? Why hasn’t he left his girl yet? These are all questions that you should ask yourself. In general, most guys want their cake and eat it too, that doesn’t go for every single situation and man, but in most cases, if a guy has a girlfriend and a wife, he’ll want to keep both of them.


Develop outside Interests

Just because you are the other woman doesn’t mean you have to invest all of your time in the guy you are seeing. Develop some interests that are all your own! Do you like to paint? What about write? These are the things that you can focus on instead of who your man is with!


Support System

Being the other woman is not easy. It’s actually really difficult and if you’re in a situation like this, it might be key for you to get a support system. Pull together some of your friends and family. Believe me, it’ll make all of the difference if you do happen to ditch the guy.


Being the other woman is a difficult position to be in, and it can have long-lasting consequences if it's not handled with care. It's important to remember that you're not alone in this situation, and building a support system is key. Reach out to your close friends and family, and tell them what's going on. They'll be able to provide you with a shoulder to cry on, and offer advice and support.

It's also important to remember that you're not the one to blame. Even if you feel guilty, the blame should be placed on the person in the relationship who is cheating. Don't allow yourself to be taken advantage of, and don't let anyone make you feel like you're the one at fault.

It's also important to consider the consequences of your actions. While it may be tempting to stay in the relationship, it's important to think about the long-term consequences. If the relationship is discovered, it could have a negative impact on your reputation and your relationships with other people.



Just because you are the other woman does not make you normal. There might be something in you that you need to get help with that has put you in this situation. Therapy might be a great idea in addition to your support system. That way you can figure out the underlying feelings that might have put you in this situation!


Stop Thinking in Black & White

If you are the other woman, you can’t think in blacks and whites. Everything should be in grey. You can’t think that you are the only one at fault, because he is the one cheating too. Just because you’re the other woman doesn’t make you a bad person, it is just a tough situation to be in.

Famous Quotes

One who gains strength by overcoming obstacles possesses the only strength which can overcome adversity.

Albert Schweitzer

Don’t Tell

Typically, when you are in this type of relationship, you can’t tell anyone, as it can all leak back to his family right? Well ladies, I say that if you are keeping your relationship a secret, you deserve better. So while it might be a first instinct not to tell, if you are really thinking about stopping the cycle, it might be time to talk to your family about your relationship!


Think about Ending It

This should be a constant thought of yours, to think about ending your relationship with him. You may love him, it might be difficult the first couple months, but once you realize that you are better than a secret relationship and deserve more, you’ll dwell more on ending it.


The end of a relationship is not easy, especially when it is a secret one. It may take time to come to the realization that one deserves better than a relationship hidden from the world. During this time, it is important to consider the consequences of ending the relationship. It is possible that the other person may not take it well, and it is important to keep in mind that the other person's feelings should be taken into account. It is also important to consider the impact that the end of the relationship may have on family and friends. It is important to be prepared for the possible reactions that may occur.


Understand His Partner's Position

When you are in a relationship like this, it's hard to admit that you are the other woman, but ... you are. You've got to understand his partner's position, you've got to see things from their side too. Keep that in mind if you are the other woman and how you would feel.


Being the other woman in a relationship is an incredibly difficult situation to be in. Not only do you have to deal with the guilt of knowing that you are in a relationship with someone who is already in a committed relationship, but you also have to deal with the potential backlash of the other person finding out. It can be a very emotionally and psychologically taxing experience, and it is important to understand the other person's position in the situation.

The other person is likely feeling betrayed and hurt by their partner's infidelity. They may feel embarrassed and angry that their partner has chosen to be with someone else. It is important to remember that they are feeling a range of emotions and it is important to be compassionate and understanding towards them.

It is also important to remember that the other person is likely feeling a range of emotions, including confusion, anger, hurt, and betrayal. It is important to be mindful of this when interacting with them and to not take any of their emotions personally.


Don't Settle

Settling for being the other woman is never a great option. You should be pushing it, you should be determining if you are going to stay put and let him walk all over you or if you are going to move on and find someone worth it.


Think about Your Future

How is your future going to look with this guy? You've got to consider that whenever you are in this type of situation. You never want to just stay in the now.


Know How It Can Effect You Emotionally

How do you think that you are going to be able to handle another relationship if you are the other woman? How do you think you are going to handle other relationships in general, even if this one doesn't work out?


Find Yourself Someone Single

When you are the other woman, you aren't ever going to be number one girls, you aren't ever going to be the perfect person to him -- so why not find yourself someone single? Why not find yourself someone that is worth your time?


Does He Get Jealous?

Finally, does he seem controlling and jealous, even though you aren't at all 'his' and he is in another relationship? This is something that you've got to weigh too!

Being the other woman definitely isn’t a piece of cake or a walk in a park, it’s hard. Just remember, there are ways to deal with being the other woman. Keep your support system close, talk about ending it and definitely know that you deserve better. So ladies, have you ever been the other woman? If so, share your story!

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@thecalicofrog. you need to walk away from the relationship 100%. when HE is legally separated like yourself then u 2 can move forward. if he loves u as u say he will tell u he has to stay in his marriage bcz of his kids & tell u to move on or he will file for legal separation. step away.

I fell in love with a guy, i had no idea he was married, we would flirt all the time etc. so one day i got up the courage to tell him i really liked him. this is when he informed me that he was married and genuinely had no idea that i was unaware of that fact. So we continued being friends... we talked about maybe having an affair, but neither of us could go through with it. My problem is that i do honestly love him, he is the only person that has ever made me happy... truly happy just to be around, he could be complaining the whole time and i would still pick hanging out with him than anyone else. i think we handled the situation responsibly but it still sucks.... and i do feel like a bad person because everyday i wish for someone else's marriage to end.

I'm in love with a married man, a man i have known more than 1/2 my life. he was my 1st for everything, we parted ways moved on with our lives, and somehow got back in touch i fell in love or I never stopped idk all I know is everything was good we were taking it slow and then the bomb fell i found out he was married. I love him its so hard to leave, he tells me he is leaving and filling for a divorce. I left him, i found some strength but i am dying inside without him.

If he cheating on her to be with you what you think he won't do the same to you

I think another thing people should take into account is the fact that scientifically documented studies show that worldwide there are 2 women for every man; not counting China because of it's one child policy causing their population to opt to keep male babies only. So there may not really be someone out there for you Ladies unless you share a man as distasteful as that may be to you.

Sorry about the novel, i just needed someone to vent to because this situation is embarrassing and i havent told any of my friends or family. Great article though, i will take it into thought.

I was going to type a long response putting in my two cents on the topic, but all in all I just wanted to say I admire your balls in writing about such a controversial topic and from an equally controversial perspective. Very thought provoking.