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11 Ways to Deal with a Love Triangle ...

By Heather

A love triangle is hard to deal with! It's actually one of the hardest things in the world to even think about dealing with. If you found yourself right in the middle of a love triangle, I gotta tell you, there are ways to deal with it. Below, I've got the top 11 ways to deal with a love triangle that might open your eyes to the guy that you really like.

1 Who do You like Better?

When you are in the middle of a love triangle, you have to keep your thoughts in check and figure out who exactly you like better. Things like a personality meshing, how well you know someone and how you get along with someone are all key items. Ladies, love triangles aren't fair to anyone involved, so you want to make sure that you are making a decision based on who you like better.

2 The Connection Matters

Relationships are not easy to be in. You are truly meshing two different personalities together and the connection that you have with that other person really does matter. If you find that you have a better connection with one guy over the other, it might be a better option to go with him as your boyfriend!

3 Personality Matching

The connection is of course important, but his personality connecting and meshing well with yours is important. If you're going to be with someone, you should probably have some personality common ground, such as your sense of humor. If you can't think that a guy is funny or can't understand his sense of humor, that isn't going to make for a good relationship at all!

4 Be Honest

One of the biggest mistakes that most girls make when they are in a love triangle is not being honest with themselves. When you are in a situation like this, you have to make sure that you are honest with your feelings. That you really and truly figure out who is going to like you and treat you best!

5 Evaluate Your Feelings

Being honest also means that you have to evaluate your feelings and see who you truly do like better. Whether it is because the connection is better or because you just like one guy over the other, you want to make sure that you are really exploring your feelings. After all, you owe each guy that.

6 Talk about It

If you are still at odds about which guy you are going to choose in your love triangle, talking about it always makes a huge difference! Whether it is with a close-knit group of friends or you are thinking about talking about it with your family, make sure that you have some sort of support group!

7 Do It for You

You might want to get out of the position you're in as quickly as possible, but this isn't something to take likely. Your decision affects three people, not just one, but when it comes down to it this is a decision that has to be made for you. Don't think about how the other people will feel in the end, think about yourself. Of course, this doesn't mean be cruel to the other people involved, but understand that this is about you.

8 Repercussions?

Does choosing one or the other impact your life in any big way? Do your friends or family hate one of the people that you're stuck between? These are things you have to consider when making this choice. When it comes down to it, this is your choice, but you need to think about people in your life. Having a significant other that you parents hate could make your life harder, think about if your choice is worth the repercussions.

9 Remove Yourself

Take yourself out of the situation. You need time to be alone and figure out what you want. If you tell the other people this and they aren't accepting of what you need, then you shouldn't be with either of them anyway. You're in a tough spot and you need to have a clear head to think. Spending time with either of them could make things more confusing, so take some time alone.

10 Acceptance

There are a few things you're going to have to accept here. The situation you're in is hard and it's going to suck sometimes. The other thing you need accept is that in the end, you have to make a choice. I'm a very indecisive person, so if you're like me you'll be tempted to drag this decision out, but you need to accept that in the end you need to make a choice.

11 Think about Your Decision

Finally ladies, the last thing you should do whenever you are in a love triangle is think long and hard about your decision. Love triangles are really difficult to be in and typically, someone always gets hurt. That means that you really should put a lot of thought into who you choose and why.

Sometimes, love triangles are not something that can be controlled, after all, you can't really control who you like or when you like them. If you find yourself in the mist of a love triangle, just take a look at these tips ladies, they should help! Have you ever been in a love triangle? Share what happened to you!

This article was written in collaboration with editor Lydia Sheehan.

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