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13 Ways to Deal with Your Crush Having a Girlfriend ...

By Heather

We've gotten a ton of feedback and comments on what to do if your crush has a girlfriend. Well girls, you asked for it and we're here to deliver! Below, I've got the top 13 ways to deal with your crush having a girlfriend and what you can do about it! After all, you never want to break up a relationship, but what can you do when your crush has a girlfriend? Let's take a look below!

1 Respect That He is with Someone

Having a crush on someone can bring on a ton of strong feelings, but girls, how would you like it if someone had a crush on your boyfriend and was acting on it? You've got to respect that he's with someone in order to move forward. If it doesn't work out? He's free game, but until then, you will have to just respect that they are together. I know that's really hard when your crush has a girlfriend and you still have strong feelings, but there are ways to work through it!

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2 Back off

While you may respect that your crush is with someone, the next way to deal with your crush having a girlfriend is to back off completely. You don't want to put yourself into a situation that will hurt you and that can actually break them up. So if your crush has a girlfriend, I would back off a little and avoid meddling in.

3 Listen to See if Things Don't Work out

If you do go the friend route with your crush, it could actually work in your favor – it'll give you a chance to see if things don't work out with his girlfriend. Of course, I am not encouraging you to break them up, but one of the ways to deal with your crush having a girlfriend is to keep your eyes and ears peeled for opportunities that you could be Ms. Right for him!

4 Love Yourself More

Girls, the biggest takeaway from this list on how to deal with your crush having a girlfriend should be to love yourself more. You never, ever want to disrespect yourself enough to lower your standards – or to go after a guy that is involved with someone else. You want a boy that is all your own and someone that will love you for you right?

5 Do Not Become the Other Woman

Part of loving yourself is making sure that you do not become the other woman. Remember girls, you want to love yourself more and you want to respect that fact that he's with someone else. If you do become the other woman, you are just lowering your standards and you are allowing your crush to cheat on his girlfriend with you – how would you like that done to you?

6 Avoid Them until You've Healed

If you have a lot of emotions and very strong feelings toward your crush, it might be necessary for you to avoid your crush and his girlfriend until you've had some time to get over it, until you've had some time to really let your feelings go. It can be hard ladies, but it will be so worth it in the end.

7 Don't Make It Awkward

One tip when you are dealing with your crush having a girlfriend is to not make it awkward for them. If you have a feeling that you are going to make it awkward for your crush and his girlfriend, it might be a better idea to avoid them, until you are able to not make it awkward. After all, it is no one's fault that your crush and you aren't together.

8 Let Yourself Hurt

Finally girls, it's okay to let yourself hurt. It's okay for you to allow yourself to feel the pain of not getting the person that you really like. After all ladies, we are all human and you have to take the time in order to heal yourself.

9 Let Your Jealousy out Harmlessly

Sometimes no matter how you are feeling, the best way to feel better is to let out the negative emotions harmlessly. The most effective way to do that would be talking to your closest friends whom you can trust or writing down your feelings on a piece of paper. Trust me, you will feel better after letting all of your negative thoughts out!

10 Take a Break from Social Media

It's important to take time for yourself without getting the reminder of your crush's relationship and the best way to do that is stay clear of social media. No matter what happens, information has its way around social networks and you want to limit your knowledge on that relationship.

11 Remain Friendly

After you've had some time to calm down, it might be time to face your crush and remain in contact by being friends. After all it is all you can be at this point and if you would rather still be in his life, it's seem like a better option. Just make sure you are ready to hear about his new relationship without hurting too much.

12 Hang out with Your Girl Friends

Hey, if your romantic life is not at its best at this point, you always know that your friends will be there for you. So take time to hang out with your friends instead! Go shopping, have lunch at your favorite place or watch a movie, it will freshen up your perspective and clear your mind.

13 Try to Move on to Someone else

If it seems like your crush's relationship is going strong and there is no chance for you, it might be time to move on and the best way to do that is to throw yourself into something new. By that, I mean try to free yourself for another crush and I don't mean forcefully find someone to like, but be open to someone new and let go of your old crush.

There you have it ladies! If you are dealing with your crush having a girlfriend, these are my top 13 ways to handle it. So girls, what other ways have you handled your crush having a girlfriend? Any other tips?

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