Finding the right ways to get over someone that you've never, ever had is difficult! We've all had that crush that we can't get over, we've all had that feeling of trying to get over someone that we've never had before , but how do you actually move past those feelings? Below, I've come up with the top 7 ways to get over someone you've never had and how you can move on from the relationship that was never yours.
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1. Don't Dwell
Firstly, you've got to remember that you shouldn't dwell on something that you've never had! This is one of the surefire ways to get over someone you've never had – don't dwell! Dwelling on how well they looked passing you in the hallway or how great they smelled that one time you interacted isn't going to help you move on.
2. Don't Obsess over Small Things
While this might seem similar to dwelling, obsessing over the small things, such as a small touch, a light conversation or even an invitation to eat lunch together doesn't mean that you had the person and it certainly isn't a cause for obsession. You've really got to make sure that you don't obsess, as that is a surefire barrier that will hold you back from moving on.
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3. You Might Have Remembered It Wrong
How about your memory? Do you really think that the person you are interested in was interested in you? Do you remember their moods and how they reacted to you correctly? Did they really … actually flirt with you? If they didn't pursue a relationship with you outright and didn't want to become at least friends to find out more about you, those little things you are obsessing over – you might have remembered them wrong.
4. Keep Active
You've really got to make sure that you are keeping yourself active when you are trying to get over someone that you've never, ever had. Why not take up a hobby or even start something new and fresh that you've never done before? Exercising is also a great release of nervous energy!
5. Make Plans on Your Own
While keeping active is great, you've also got to make plans of your own. For example, going out for a night out on the town with your girlfriends or even heading out on your own to dance the night away is absolutely one of the greatest ways to get over a relationship that you never had.
6. Realize You Never Had Them
While you might live in the future, where you might have been in a relationship with this guy or girl, but you weren't. Facing this reality is so, so hard but it will really help in getting over them. Remember girls, keep your chin up!
7. It's Okay to Cry
Finally, it's okay to cry! A lot of people think that crying isn't something that you should ever do, that you shouldn't ever allow yourself to mourn the relationship, but that simply isn't true. So cry all you want girls, get it all out.
Now that you have some direction on how to get over that relationship that was never yours, what other methods do you have? Share them below with me! I'd love to hear how you get over relationships.
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Sterre: I had this with one of my teachers for more than a year. We had to work together and i wanted him to like me so bad that i read his signals wrong(and realised that too, so i was in a sane place )..or so i thought. Then, at a 3-day school trip, with alcohol involved, we had this long conversation about our feelings. Turns out he had liked me that entire year. We couldn't really create any distance between us because i was in his course 2 days per week. Finally, after this years' summer holiday, when we saw each other at school after seven weeks no seeing, most of our feelings were gone. Now i'm incredibly happy with my new boyfriend and he is happy with his new girlfriend. Things can seem , and be, pretty messed up but it can turn out perfectly well for both :-)!
cassey: Been trying to get a guy out of my head for many months. #3 is so on the mark. Good riddance, that's what I say :-)
Joey: I met someone over 3 months ago - HUGE chemistry and he expressed how interested he was in me and cared about me. Unfortunately things in his life started to get complicated (VERY) and took a toll on him. He travels a lot due to military and due to his situation he said he needed some time to sort things out. For 2 months during his travels we communicated daily via email or text. He opened up to me and I was fully supportive. Unfortunately....my fear came true. I know too much about his skeletons now and in turn he is seeing someone else that knows nothing. I know its helping him "escape" his wounds by being with someone else he can hide it all from. Im just dealing with the feeling of 'losing' him. Ive been going out on other dates....but I compare all of them to him. I had just hoped once his life calmed down we would be able to explore a relationship. Now Im a friend, a confidant, and 'very important to him' he says. So in a way, I did have him....but lost him due to being a good friend to him in the worst times. :(
Sara: Im lost cause I really like this guy and he knows I like him but idk how to persuade him or show him that I could be the one and to just give me a chance what should I do?
Erin: How can you get over someone when they know you like them and you try to ignore him but he continues to flirt? But also flirts with other girls?
shont: This is my life as we speak smh!
Helen: Really like your advise
Donna: I have a crush on a boy who's the same age as me I tried lil ways to show that I like him but it's like he doesn't get the signal and i just wished that he realized I like him and hopefully he would like me back
amouramor: Write a comment ...I'm currently going through the same thing for the second time in my life... A co- worker that drives me crazy with distant locked gazes, nervous talk and silence. This went on for more than year, my intuition told me we were both attracted to each other but too shy or scared to both make a move. After a few told that he asked of me while i was away, not by name but description. I decided it was time for me to read his moves and see if it confirms. I did notice all the signs, nervous talk in person and by phone (work related not personal), always a surprised look to see me, could never muster a word for me... Only hi and he always imitated my tone. He is also very comfortable with everyone, except me. And because that, I became even more closed up... Also he intimidatingly good looking( the best one at work). After a few more awkward exchanges of gazes and looks, a drunk fb add gone wrong, I figured that an attempt at flirting might give him the hint. Instead, he became more nervous... Not even able to say hi. But still managed to find time to check me out while he's working. Now, we never speak actually, all I feel is this weird cosmic pull towards him. It's almost as if my body know he's close by and sure enough as I turn around He pops up out of nowhere. Super intense. My bad flirting skills probably scared him away... Or in his case brought him to old/new flame, since one night we both spotted each other on a busy street and all i noticed was his surprised expression and a small shadow holding his hand. I'm in the midst of ending the dwelling/obsessing over scenarios and moving towards I never actually had him.
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