So about eight months ago I was working at a local store in my hometown where this guy worked with me. We hit it off at first and then about two to three weeks later he got back together with his ex girlfriend, but kept flirting and messaging me most of the time. When things started to get confusing, I started to ask him questions that he really didn't want to answer or questions that annoyed him, but he always came back and continued to message me. About two months ago we started sexting on snap chat and almost had sex a couple of times. This would happen about every two weeks. Then, a couple of weeks ago, we had sex. It was my first time so I was pretty nervous and told him to stop a couple of times, but we started back up soon after. After we were done, he hugged me and told me that we would hang out again sometime. I ended up messaging him a couple days after and a conversation got brought up about that night, and I said maybe we can do it again sometime, and all he said was maybe. That next Thursday he ended up messaging me telling me to come over to hangout and when I was about a minute away from his place he called me and said that he had to cancel and that I couldn't come over anymore. We haven't talked in about a week, and I feel like he just used me for sex that one time and then forget about me.

Yea well I've never actually talked about this online..umm so there's this guy that I've been gushing over for about six years now. It's the typical neighbor hottie that's the football quarterback and we go to that same church and ugh it's just horrible because I know a guy like him would never go for a girl like me we had a class together but we didn't really talk. I feel like such a stalker becuase everywhere I look he's there and he probably thinks I some loser that has an obsession. My friends tell me to talk to him but I know that won't help anything and I'm too shy. Ugh. I just need to get over him and accept the fact that he'll never like me. Hmp. Any advise?

I feel in love.. Yes I'm in grade 10 yes I'm to "young" but I love him so much and he fell for me to. I could see it. :( but then he took my virginity.. And left me :'( after that he never told me why.. And I'm going on my 4th month and still crying over him.. What can I do..

Very toughtfull article!

I had this with one of my teachers for more than a year. We had to work together and i wanted him to like me so bad that i read his signals wrong(and realised that too, so i was in a sane place )..or so i thought. Then, at a 3-day school trip, with alcohol involved, we had this long conversation about our feelings. Turns out he had liked me that entire year. We couldn't really create any distance between us because i was in his course 2 days per week. Finally, after this years' summer holiday, when we saw each other at school after seven weeks no seeing, most of our feelings were gone. Now i'm incredibly happy with my new boyfriend and he is happy with his new girlfriend. Things can seem , and be, pretty messed up but it can turn out perfectly well for both :-)!

Been trying to get a guy out of my head for many months. #3 is so on the mark. Good riddance, that's what I say :-)

Definitely needed to read this. I have a crush on a younger guy & it sucks! At first he seemed legitimately interested in me then it stopped but I think he's an all around nice guy which is hard to find in my town. Ahh the way he smiles is amazing , it's why I fell for him.

Also if you truly WANT to get over someone, let go of the possibility that you have a chance. Still having that hope in your heart won't help you move on.

I must admit that I feel a little silly about commenting on one of these... But an impartial third party would definitely help. I am a high school/college student with a little bit of dating under my belt. I haven't dated in two years, though- my last relationship ended in an absolutely horrid manner and I have been reluctant to trust anybody since. He is a college freshman (a complete nerd, like me) with absolutely no dating under his belt. We met at work in September and I quickly developed feelings for him. This was a surprise for me. So, anyways... We started going to movies and stuff (in groups and alone), but I always initiated these outings. As he went to high school with my friend, I knew quite a bit of his background and assumed it was because he was shy with girls. So, last Friday night I revealed to him (using a flip book) that I "was wondering if he go on a date with me?") He smiled the entire time I presented the flip book, and said that he "would love to go on a date with me." He confirmed that it would be his first. (I FEEL LIKE I'M WRITING A BOOK FOR YOU GUYS- please be patient with me). So we arranged to go to Thor on Sunday at 7. We're both comic nuts. We talked in the parking lot for around 30 minutes after the movie and he asked if he could kiss me. And I, of course, said yes. So we kissed once. It was his first kiss. It was chaste. But super sweet. Afterwards, I texted him. I told him I had an amazing time and he said that there would be a second date. But when I texted him on Thursday, asking him if he would be able to do something over the weekend, he didn't even respond. I mean, I wouldn't have been angry had he said no. But it does bother me that he doesn't seem to deem me worthy of a response. And on Friday, at work, he treated me in the same way he always does (which isn't bad) but didn't even seem to acknowledge that I had sent the message or even that the date had even occurred. I really don't want to seem overly clingy.... But I have never put my heart out on the line like I did before... And to be honest, I kind of regret it because I now feel ridiculously vulnerable. I keep thinking it could be because of my body (I'm 5'6 and weigh 171 pounds, so I'm kind of fat) and he's ridiculously skinny (he's probably 5'10 and he once told me he weighs 170)... But anyways, we don't look that awkward together. I mean, I'm losing weight and since he's taller than me, I don't look like a giant next to him. I've rambled long enough. To the point- Has he already lost interest? Was he never interested? I know you haven't met him, but... I tried to be as thorough as possible. PS- please don't sugarcoat it. If the information that I have given indicates that he doesn't want me, then please tell me.