7 Ways to Get over Someone You Never Had ...

Finding the right ways to get over someone that you've never, ever had is difficult! We've all had that crush that we can't get over, we've all had that feeling of trying to get over someone that we've never had before , but how do you actually move past those feelings? Below, I've come up with the top 7 ways to get over someone you've never had and how you can move on from the relationship that was never yours.

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Don't Dwell

Firstly, you've got to remember that you shouldn't dwell on something that you've never had! This is one of the surefire ways to get over someone you've never had – don't dwell! Dwelling on how well they looked passing you in the hallway or how great they smelled that one time you interacted isn't going to help you move on.

Don't Obsess over Small Things

While this might seem similar to dwelling, obsessing over the small things, such as a small touch, a light conversation or even an invitation to eat lunch together doesn't mean that you had the person and it certainly isn't a cause for obsession. You've really got to make sure that you don't obsess, as that is a surefire barrier that will hold you back from moving on.

You Might Have Remembered It Wrong

How about your memory? Do you really think that the person you are interested in was interested in you? Do you remember their moods and how they reacted to you correctly? Did they really … actually flirt with you? If they didn't pursue a relationship with you outright and didn't want to become at least friends to find out more about you, those little things you are obsessing over – you might have remembered them wrong.

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Keep Active

You've really got to make sure that you are keeping yourself active when you are trying to get over someone that you've never, ever had. Why not take up a hobby or even start something new and fresh that you've never done before? Exercising is also a great release of nervous energy!

Make Plans on Your Own

While keeping active is great, you've also got to make plans of your own. For example, going out for a night out on the town with your girlfriends or even heading out on your own to dance the night away is absolutely one of the greatest ways to get over a relationship that you never had.

Realize You Never Had Them

While you might live in the future, where you might have been in a relationship with this guy or girl, but you weren't. Facing this reality is so, so hard but it will really help in getting over them. Remember girls, keep your chin up!

It's Okay to Cry

Finally, it's okay to cry! A lot of people think that crying isn't something that you should ever do, that you shouldn't ever allow yourself to mourn the relationship, but that simply isn't true. So cry all you want girls, get it all out.

Now that you have some direction on how to get over that relationship that was never yours, what other methods do you have? Share them below with me! I'd love to hear how you get over relationships.

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Definitely needed to read this. I have a crush on a younger guy & it sucks! At first he seemed legitimately interested in me then it stopped but I think he's an all around nice guy which is hard to find in my town. Ahh the way he smiles is amazing , it's why I fell for him.

Write a comment ...I'm currently going through the same thing for the second time in my life... A co- worker that drives me crazy with distant locked gazes, nervous talk and silence. This went on for more than year, my intuition told me we were both attracted to each other but too shy or scared to both make a move. After a few told that he asked of me while i was away, not by name but description. I decided it was time for me to read his moves and see if it confirms. I did notice all the signs, nervous talk in person and by phone (work related not personal), always a surprised look to see me, could never muster a word for me... Only hi and he always imitated my tone. He is also very comfortable with everyone, except me. And because that, I became even more closed up... Also he intimidatingly good looking( the best one at work). After a few more awkward exchanges of gazes and looks, a drunk fb add gone wrong, I figured that an attempt at flirting might give him the hint. Instead, he became more nervous... Not even able to say hi. But still managed to find time to check me out while he's working. Now, we never speak actually, all I feel is this weird cosmic pull towards him. It's almost as if my body know he's close by and sure enough as I turn around He pops up out of nowhere. Super intense. My bad flirting skills probably scared him away... Or in his case brought him to old/new flame, since one night we both spotted each other on a busy street and all i noticed was his surprised expression and a small shadow holding his hand. I'm in the midst of ending the dwelling/obsessing over scenarios and moving towards I never actually had him.

I have a crush on a boy who's the same age as me I tried lil ways to show that I like him but it's like he doesn't get the signal and i just wished that he realized I like him and hopefully he would like me back

I has this fling with a guy from my school 2 years ago, i told him i wanted nothing with him so we obviously stopped talking. We became sort of like extrangers again but i started having feelings for him. Now he has a girlfriend and is about to graduate while i am a junior. We started talking again and of course the flirting started again. I felt the need to stop him bc of his girlfriend but the fact is that he has another girl plus his girlfriend. I have way strong feelings for him but he is leaving for collage. I never expected this to be so hard. I want him to come back to me, but im aware that wont happen. :/

I have feelings for a guy I never dated. I'm pretty sure I never even had a chance with him. He flirted a lot, then we hung out and after that, it's like we aren't friends. I even work with him. I enjoyed talking to him outside of work because I felt I had a real friend. I'm trying to forget about "it" all, but it's really hard. He even knows how I feel, but he constantly flirts with other girls right in front of me. I feel like I just want to cry.

This is the story of my life, getting over people who I've never had

I have a crush on my best friend and it sucks because I keep on reading his signals wrong. I just want him to like me and I know I have to get over it but I'm not ready yet

Omg I love this article. #3 so in point you really didn't get to know them, don't sweat it! #6 gf's could be a great reminders of that, seriously! Lol speaking from experience!

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