Finding the right ways to get over someone that you've never, ever had is difficult! We've all had that crush that we can't get over, we've all had that feeling of trying to get over someone that we've never had before , but how do you actually move past those feelings? Below, I've come up with the top 7 ways to get over someone you've never had and how you can move on from the relationship that was never yours.
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1. Don't Dwell
Firstly, you've got to remember that you shouldn't dwell on something that you've never had! This is one of the surefire ways to get over someone you've never had – don't dwell! Dwelling on how well they looked passing you in the hallway or how great they smelled that one time you interacted isn't going to help you move on.
2. Don't Obsess over Small Things
While this might seem similar to dwelling, obsessing over the small things, such as a small touch, a light conversation or even an invitation to eat lunch together doesn't mean that you had the person and it certainly isn't a cause for obsession. You've really got to make sure that you don't obsess, as that is a surefire barrier that will hold you back from moving on.
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3. You Might Have Remembered It Wrong
How about your memory? Do you really think that the person you are interested in was interested in you? Do you remember their moods and how they reacted to you correctly? Did they really … actually flirt with you? If they didn't pursue a relationship with you outright and didn't want to become at least friends to find out more about you, those little things you are obsessing over – you might have remembered them wrong.
4. Keep Active
You've really got to make sure that you are keeping yourself active when you are trying to get over someone that you've never, ever had. Why not take up a hobby or even start something new and fresh that you've never done before? Exercising is also a great release of nervous energy!
5. Make Plans on Your Own
While keeping active is great, you've also got to make plans of your own. For example, going out for a night out on the town with your girlfriends or even heading out on your own to dance the night away is absolutely one of the greatest ways to get over a relationship that you never had.
6. Realize You Never Had Them
While you might live in the future, where you might have been in a relationship with this guy or girl, but you weren't. Facing this reality is so, so hard but it will really help in getting over them. Remember girls, keep your chin up!
7. It's Okay to Cry
Finally, it's okay to cry! A lot of people think that crying isn't something that you should ever do, that you shouldn't ever allow yourself to mourn the relationship, but that simply isn't true. So cry all you want girls, get it all out.
Now that you have some direction on how to get over that relationship that was never yours, what other methods do you have? Share them below with me! I'd love to hear how you get over relationships.
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Joey: I met someone over 3 months ago - HUGE chemistry and he expressed how interested he was in me and cared about me. Unfortunately things in his life started to get complicated (VERY) and took a toll on him. He travels a lot due to military and due to his situation he said he needed some time to sort things out. For 2 months during his travels we communicated daily via email or text. He opened up to me and I was fully supportive. Unfortunately....my fear came true. I know too much about his skeletons now and in turn he is seeing someone else that knows nothing. I know its helping him "escape" his wounds by being with someone else he can hide it all from. Im just dealing with the feeling of 'losing' him. Ive been going out on other dates....but I compare all of them to him. I had just hoped once his life calmed down we would be able to explore a relationship. Now Im a friend, a confidant, and 'very important to him' he says. So in a way, I did have him....but lost him due to being a good friend to him in the worst times. :(
Sara: Im lost cause I really like this guy and he knows I like him but idk how to persuade him or show him that I could be the one and to just give me a chance what should I do?
Sarah: So about eight months ago I was working at a local store in my hometown where this guy worked with me. We hit it off at first and then about two to three weeks later he got back together with his ex girlfriend, but kept flirting and messaging me most of the time. When things started to get confusing, I started to ask him questions that he really didn't want to answer or questions that annoyed him, but he always came back and continued to message me. About two months ago we started sexting on snap chat and almost had sex a couple of times. This would happen about every two weeks. Then, a couple of weeks ago, we had sex. It was my first time so I was pretty nervous and told him to stop a couple of times, but we started back up soon after. After we were done, he hugged me and told me that we would hang out again sometime. I ended up messaging him a couple days after and a conversation got brought up about that night, and I said maybe we can do it again sometime, and all he said was maybe. That next Thursday he ended up messaging me telling me to come over to hangout and when I was about a minute away from his place he called me and said that he had to cancel and that I couldn't come over anymore. We haven't talked in about a week, and I feel like he just used me for sex that one time and then forget about me.
Maria: I has this fling with a guy from my school 2 years ago, i told him i wanted nothing with him so we obviously stopped talking. We became sort of like extrangers again but i started having feelings for him. Now he has a girlfriend and is about to graduate while i am a junior. We started talking again and of course the flirting started again. I felt the need to stop him bc of his girlfriend but the fact is that he has another girl plus his girlfriend. I have way strong feelings for him but he is leaving for collage. I never expected this to be so hard. I want him to come back to me, but im aware that wont happen. :/
Kimberley: Definitely needed to read this. I have a crush on a younger guy & it sucks! At first he seemed legitimately interested in me then it stopped but I think he's an all around nice guy which is hard to find in my town. Ahh the way he smiles is amazing , it's why I fell for him.
Lex: Tearsss* :(
Rose: Also if you truly WANT to get over someone, let go of the possibility that you have a chance. Still having that hope in your heart won't help you move on.
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