There are some trustworthy ways to make peace with a hurtful relationship in your life. I know it seems there aren’t but there truly are. I have found some ways to make peace with a hurtful relationship in my own life that I will share with you. All of us come up against people who are difficult and hurtful in their behavior toward us at times. It could be a family member, an in-law, a coworker or even someone that used to be your friend; it really doesn’t matter who it is because these tips can be helpful in each of those situations.
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1. Accept It Happened
If something has happened between you and someone you care about or cared about in the past, don’t continue trying to act as if it didn’t. Accept that it did. Allow yourself to grieve over it if you need to. I know I have felt the need to grieve over hurtful relationships in my life. This is one of the best ways to make peace with a hurtful relationship and we all have had them happen to us.
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When it comes to making peace with a hurtful relationship in our lives, it can be difficult to move forward. We may feel like we’re stuck in the same place, unable to move on or heal from the hurt. But it is possible to make peace with a hurtful relationship and start to heal.
The first step is to accept that it happened. Trying to deny or ignore the hurtful relationship won’t make it go away. Instead, it’s important to acknowledge the hurt and allow yourself to grieve over it. This can be a difficult process, but it’s an important step in the healing process.
The next step is to practice self-care. This could mean taking a break from the hurtful relationship and giving yourself some time and space to heal. It could mean journaling about your feelings, or talking to a trusted friend or therapist about the situation. Taking care of yourself is essential for healing.
It’s also important to practice forgiveness. Forgiveness doesn’t mean you have to forget what happened, or even forgive the other person. It simply means that you are letting go of the hurt and anger, and allowing yourself to move on.
2. Do Your Part
If you can look back at your hurtful relationship and see that you were in the wrong, then do your part and apologize for the wrongs you committed. Usually, there are two sides to every relationship fallout and a lot of times, we are at least partially responsible. Apologizing may not fix things and in fact, probably won’t if the relationship has grown so hurtful between you and the other person. But it will ease your conscience and allow you to know that you have done the right thing, even if the other person doesn’t do their part. You can walk away much easier this way.
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3. Don’t Go Deep
Sometimes, the person whom we have had a hurtful relationship with is not someone whom we can cut out of our lives. It may be that it was a family member, coworker or other relationship that you can’t just cut off. If this is the case, you need to know how to deal with them after the relationship has grown hurtful. My experience has taught me it is best to not go deep with these individuals. Choose to keep conversation light and on easygoing topics.
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When dealing with a hurtful relationship, it is important to remember that going deep with the individual can often lead to further hurt. This is especially true if the relationship is with a family member, coworker, or someone else you cannot simply cut out of your life. It is best to keep conversation light and on easygoing topics.
Rather than going deep with the individual, focus on making peace with the situation. Take a step back and look at the relationship objectively, and try to identify the root cause of the hurt. This will help you to understand why the relationship has become hurtful in the first place.
It is also important to set boundaries and communicate them clearly. Let the other person know what behavior is and is not acceptable. If the individual does not respect your boundaries, then it is important to take a step back and distance yourself from the relationship.
Additionally, it is important to practice self-care. Make sure to take time out for yourself and do something that you enjoy, such as reading a book, going for a walk, or doing something creative. This will help you to clear your mind and process your emotions.
4. Use Distance to Your Advantage
Use distance to your advantage. Sometimes, you can use distance to cut this relationship completely out of your life, like with someone that used to be your friend. There are no ties in that situation. But other times, when you have to continue contact, you have to use distance differently. You can still be distant but only to an extent and that is okay. Figure out what extent that is and use it to help you deal.
5. Extend Grace
You know, we are all hurting people in this world. We have been hurt and we will hurt others, at times. Realize that the person you have a hurtful relationship with is doing the best that they can. They may be acting out of scars that you know nothing about. If you can develop a sense of compassion for them, it can really benefit you here. Pray for them and do your best to forgive them.
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When it comes to hurtful relationships, it can be difficult to know what to do. It is easy to feel overwhelmed and unsure of how to move forward. However, it is possible to make peace with a hurtful relationship in your life. Here are seven tips to help you do just that.
First, remember that the person you are in a hurtful relationship with is likely hurting too. It is important to be aware of the fact that they may be acting out of pain and insecurity. Try to extend grace and understanding to them, rather than responding with anger or resentment.
Second, take some time to reflect on the relationship. Acknowledge the hurt that has been caused, but also think about the positive aspects of the relationship. This can help you to gain a more balanced perspective.
Third, practice self-care. Make sure to take time for yourself to relax and unwind. This can help to reduce stress and give you the energy to handle the situation.
Fourth, focus on yourself. It is important to remember that you cannot change the other person, but you can change how you respond. Make sure to focus on your own behavior and how you can make the situation better.
Fifth, extend grace.
6. Use Wisdom
Sometimes we have a hurtful relationship with someone and they want to continue having it just so they can continue hurting us. This is not wise. You need to know when to say when. Be wise about your decisions concerning a person you have a hurtful relationship with. Remember it is your job to take care of yourself; no one else knows what you need better than you do.
7. Find Other Relationships
When you have dealt with a very hurtful relationship it can be tempting to cling to it and stay at that place. But this is not always healthy. Find other relationships in your life that are nurturing, caring and uplifting for you. This does not mean that you don’t still care for the one you have a hurtful relationship with. What it means is that you are making the healthiest decisions that you can for yourself.
Making peace with a hurtful relationship in your life is difficult, no matter who it is. What have you done to reach peace with hurtful relationships in your life? We can all help each other here.
Comments
Kinza: nice .. forgiving is easy but forgetting can be so tough esp if it's someone close !
Lita: "extend grace"- beautifully put and it's not just grace that your giving but also letting go and being kind to your self
Takiya: omg is that Sauli Koskinen in that picture? He's so hot!! lol
Phylincia: How can u do that
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