Guys are the masters at sending mixed signals, aren't they? They say that women are bad, but when a guy is sending mixed signals it can last so much longer! So ladies, I've got the break down of all of the different ways you can tell if a guy is sending mixed signals to you!
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1. Mood Swings
Mood swings are absolutely one of the top ways you can tell if a guy is sending mixed signals. He is happy one second and then sad or depressed another. It could be something in his personality that makes him go through his mood swings, but truthfully, he is probably covering up the fact that he is shy and doesn't know how to act around you.
2. Ignores You in Public
If your guy is constantly ignoring you in public, it could be one of the signs he is sending you mixed signals. How do you get around it? Well, talk to him! Express how you feel about the fact that, when you are in private, he is fine, but when you are in public, he ignores you.
3. Flirts with You in Private
One of the signs he is sending mixed signals is if he only flirts with you in private. When you are with a guy, you want him to flirt with you all over the place, not just in private. This is another conversation you might have to have with your man!
4. He’s Coy
When a guy is coy, it could be one of the signs he's sending mixed signals, but truthfully, he could just be shy. When a guy is coy, it could also be perceived as he is trying to play hard to get. Just be assertive and really put yourself out there. Who knows? He'll probably crack his coyness!
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Understanding a coy guy can be like trying to solve a puzzle with missing pieces. Is he interested or simply bashful? Sometimes the best approach is to take the lead, showing him that he's in a safe space to open up. Be a little flirty, send a clear signal that you're into him, and pay attention to his response. If he's into you, your confidence might just be the key to unlocking his affections. Remember, even the most reserved hearts have a way of speaking their truth when given the right encouragement.
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5. He’s Testing You
Just like girls, guys test us too. While you might think he is sending mixed signals, he could just be testing your responses and flirting. Trust me ladies, if he is testing you, test him right back!
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6. He Plays Hard to Get
Remember the coy piece? It's probably because he is playing hard to get! If the guy that you are into is playing hard to get, play it up and play it right back. It'll make you seem more attractive and put him in his place!
7. Mixed Signals Are a Defense Mechanism
Did you know that if he is sending mixed signals, it could be a defense mechanism for him not wanting to get hurt? Just like we have defense mechanisms that are set off by certain things, when a guy is sending mixed signals, it could mean that he is super shy and wants to feel you out first!
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Just like we have defense mechanisms that are set off by certain things, when a guy is sending mixed signals, it could mean that he is super shy and wants to feel you out first! He might be unsure about how you feel and doesn’t want to risk getting hurt by putting himself out there too soon. By giving mixed signals, he can gauge your reaction and protect his emotions. This can lead to him acting distant one moment and affectionate the next, creating a confusing but understandable pattern as he navigates his feelings and fears of vulnerability.
8. He Talks about You to His Friends
One of the biggest mixed signals that I find with a guy is when he constantly talks to his friends about you, but doesn't talk to you! What do you do? Well ladies, upping your flirting a bit and making him come to you is a great way to quash him from sending mixed signals and let him know that you like him!
9. He Tries to Control the Situation
If the guy tries to control everything you do and says, "I'll let you know" or "I'll call you," it's probably because he is sending mixed signals. He is not sure what he wants yet so he wants to be the one who tells you when the next date will be and if he has time for you. However, you should stand up for yourself and tell him you don't have time to just hang around waiting for him.
10. Days Go by without Talking
Things are going great, it's your third date and you're pretty sure that by the fourth date, you'll be official. But then he goes days without calling you or answering your text messages, and you don't know why. Well that's because he is afraid to take the next step with you and make a commitment. This is when you have to decide if you want to stick around and wait for him to be done sending these mixed signals or you would rather leave him a message that you're done!
11. Only Wants to Hang out Together with Friends
Every time you text him to get together he mentions bringing his buddy with him, even when you thought it was a movie date. If his friends always seem to be around when you're together, this may be a sign he is sending you mixed signals and isn't sure what he wants. If you've had enough, just ask him about it!
12. You Haven't Kissed Yet
You've been on a few dates and he still hasn't kissed you yet. This could either be a mixed signal he is sending out because he isn't sure what he wants, or he isn't sure whether you're ready and wants you to kiss him first.
13. He Starts Flirting with Someone else
You thought things were going great and you thought your dating relationship would go to the next step. However, you noticed that he has started to flirt with one of your friends and now you're just confused. Is he trying to make you jealous or is he moving on?
It's hard when a guy is sending mixed signals, but that doesn't mean you should stop trying to hook him! Do you know of any guys sending mixed signals right now? What do you do?
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Maly321: There is this shy guy at work who has a crush on me and he\'s always clumsy around me. So I decided to give him a call after I took his number from the work schedule sheet. Luckily he answered and we talked for about 5mins, keeping the the conversation professional and I also gave him my cell phone number that he can feel free to call me anytime. I waited for about two weeks and he never called, so I took the initiative to call him and also text him, but he didn\'t answer or neither reply my message. The next day when he saw me at work he got nervous and bumped his head on a shelf when I asked him to open the scanner gun office door which he mistakenly locked. Sadly I couldn\'t ask him why he didn\'t answer my call or reply my message because I felt like I was desperate and rejected. It\'s been 2 months now and the guy is still acting weird around me. What should I do? Should I ask him why he didn\'t answer my call? Or should I give him a third chance by calling him? Although I\'m 4 years older than him, but the truth is we both like each other.
shaina: hi there..there is this guy who showed me a lot of signs that makes me think he's interested in me..like for example borrowing my cp and then returning with a recorded song from im saying at the last part i love you..i asked him about it but he said it's not for me. shows me mixed signals,then ignores me..i just really dont understand him
Anonymous: Hi all i have learnt from experience when a guy sends mixed signals he is probably shy and unsure about his feelings for you but does like you. They are tough ones to figure out and it does become annoying
Fabulousnicki: Okay soo I really need help okay there's this guy his name is Steven and he's been sending me weird signals and will I'll tell okay he stared to flirt with like all the signs tht he likes me and one of my friends he told him that I like him and he said he already knew that I liked him and soo then this girl in my class told him that I liked him and he said no but that was yesterday but today he hugged cause if he didn't like me why would he keeped flirting with me you know and then today he hugged like make up your mind do u like me or not sooo I really need help soo please please help me
anonymous: Hi, heather I read the article and the guy that I'm interested in (we hung out for the first time this past weekend) definitely flirted with me in private earlier this week through text and he didn't ignore me but he only talked to me when it was necessary this weekend... I didn't over-do-it but we texted a lot during the week before we met up and I think I might've made him lose interest because when we did talk it was usually the same mundane questions like "how was work?" "Did you have a good day?"but the first two days we talked he seemed really interested asking me if I'd wanna go to dinner with him and calling me "dear"..originally he was supposed to come visit with me for a while on Friday before he went to his camp but I came down there instead and spent the whole weekend (if it's getting confusing: I'm gonna fill you in & tell you he's a friend of family who I hadn't seen since I was about 9 or 10 and now we're 19, he's 20, this all started with him randomly messaged me on Facebook a week ago) anyways do you think he's upset that I kinda invaded his guy-time eventhough his friends seemed to like me? Also, he made a comment to his friends while I was present "I'm enjoying being single; saving my money and spending it on myself" and later the next day I saw him post a Facebook status directed at some other girl I'm guessing because he in a non-cocky or mean way stated why she had the wrong impression of him and how he's such a great person blah blah blah. Also we side-hugged twice this weekend and I think he might've smiled at me a few times? I guess what I'm saying is, is where do you think I stand with him? I'm going down to his camp next weekend so if you suggest confronting him about it, I'll have the oppurtunity... Sorry this was so long, but I'm just SO CONFUSED.
anonymous: Please help me! :(
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