Men are often stereotyped as being shallow and valuing a woman's looks above her other qualities. They're not alone, however, as women can be just as focused on a man's physical appeal. Looks are certainly part of the package when it comes to being attracted to someone, but their inner qualities are much more important. So how can you be sure you're attracted to the real man and not just his appearance? Here's how to tell if you like him for more than his looks …
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1. Just Talking to Him Makes You Feel Good
Does it make you feel good when you're talking to him, especially when you're talking on the phone? Does the sound of his voice cheer you up? This is a sign that you're not just focused on his appearance. You're drawn to his personality as well as his looks, and he makes you feel good.
2. You Can Imagine a Future with Him
Can you imagine a future with this guy? Do you see yourselves growing old together? That definitely suggests that you're into more than his physical appearance. Looks don't last, and most of us aren't going to be that stunning when we get older! So if the prospect of him getting older doesn't bother you, you're not just into his looks.
Frequently asked questions
If you find yourself thinking about him when he's not around, and you're genuinely interested in his thoughts, feelings, and personality, it’s a good sign you like him for more than his looks.
It's totally okay to start with physical attraction. Take your time to get to know him better. Sometimes, people reveal their best qualities once you get past the initial stage.
Yes, it's definitely possible. Relationships are complex and can be based on deeper connections like shared values, humor, and emotional support.
If you enjoy talking to him, respect his opinions, and feel comfortable and happy in his company, these are great signs that you value his personality.
Genuine feelings usually grow over time and remain steady. If you find your interest increasing as you learn more about him, it's likely genuine. Infatuation often fades quickly.
3. He Acts like a Gentleman
A decent guy acts like a gentleman. So if you've noticed that he's respectful towards women and the older generation, you're looking beyond the superficial and noticing how he behaves towards others. You're aware of his character and personality. So you're definitely interested in what's going on inside his head.
4. He Makes You Laugh
Does your guy make you laugh, and do you smile when you see his name pop up on your phone? If he appeals to your sense of humor, you're on to a good thing - and that doesn't just involve having a handsome face to look at. It also shows that it's not just his looks that appeal to you.
5. You Feel on the Same Wavelength
Do you feel that you and your boyfriend are on the same wavelength, and that he 'gets' you? You're not just connecting on a superficial level based on looks. It's a meeting of minds, and you understand each other's needs. If it was only about looks, you wouldn't care about connecting emotionally.
6. You Didn't Fall in Love Straight Away
Was your relationship a slow burner? Instant attraction can often be superficial, whereas the best relationships often take time to develop. So if you didn't fall in love with him straight away it's likely that your feelings are based on more than physical attraction. A relationship developing slowly means that you've fallen for him as you got to know him, rather than simply becoming smitten with a handsome face.
7. You'd Date Him Even if He Looked like Shrek
Another simple way to tell if you're into more than his looks is if you'd date him whatever he looked like. There's been some unkind comments online about guys who are 'punching above their weight' by dating girls who are much better looking than them. But these girls love their boyfriends for their personalities, not their looks. It's a much better foundation for a relationship.
How would you feel if a guy was only interested in you because of your looks?
Comments
Catherine: I think every woman needs to read this
Raven: That sums up everything I have between the man I love. So true
Wendy: A man is perfect except he doesn't look like shrek lol
Emma: Number 6... Load of crap! I met my now husband 10th feb one year and we kissed sparks flew.. I got scared as kisses shouldn't feel like that when you don't know someone!!! I ran out he followed! The next day we started going out! We fell in love instantly and had never met before!
Keyanna: Very important
Splashhhh: Looks r importsnt but seroisly I wouldnt stay with a guy who is good looking but scts like a jerk. Beside they say lov is blind.
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Beverly: his jokes are so good and original 👌🏼👌🏼
Beverly: omg so tru
Sasa: Looks matter... I have to think about the kids.
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