7 Undeniably Horrifying Signs You're Dating a Narcissist ...

Wow that's all the traits this guy I used to have a crush on have 😐

Narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder are two WAY different things. The disorder is when it's multiplied tons and is uncontrollable. Just being narcissistic doesn't mean you have a disorder.

Those are the exact traits of ppl I know. Omg.

Alyx, I believe we are on the same page. Possibly, I did not communicate effectively before I began discussing how people interacting with those afflicted can often expect their relationship to end. While the criteria in the DSM are different, the association many have with NPD/BPD individuals is quite similar. I didn't clump them together, the professional community has done so when they put both under cluster B in the DSM along with Antisocial Personality Disorder. The first source that came up on google shows the following rates of comorbidity with Narcissistic Personality Disorder: Histrionic Personality Disorder 53% Borderline Personality Disorder 47% Paranoid Personality Disorder 36% Avoidant Personality Disorder 36% Passive-Aggressive Personality Disorder 28% Antisocial Personality Disorder 16% Remember that with all the possible permutations, BPD can manifest itself in 250+ ways. Therapists often have difficulty identifying in their patients. Misdiagnosis is not uncommon by those working in the field. Certainly you have seen the variety if you will, in the way your father presents and what you have encountered occupationally. My ex for example, is unlike those you will find in the mental ward. She is extremely high functioning, has held a job with a 6-figure income for many years, and appears to have no issues until she encounters events that are stressful for her. She is one of the "invisible" borderlines who will not appear in the healthcare system. Like many of those afflicted with NPD, when life's hurdles inevitably appear, accountability goes out the window. It is not uncommon for those with both disorders to blame/project on to someone else. The partner is left dumbfounded, wondering, "what happened?" I think it is necessary for those of us who have encountered unfortunate souls afflicted with NPD or BPD to reach out and warn those who are unsuspecting exactly what they can expect. I don't wish the inevitable heartache on anyone. I was fortunate that my ex and I were never married. I commend you on your efforts with your father.

After 2 years of putting up with his silent treatments, discarding and coming back. Telling me things I want to hear and then hurting me. I finally said I am done. I have gone no contact for 4 weeks and it was and still is hard but I am already starting to feel better about myself.

I just got out of a relationship wit a narcissist I'm as happy as can be now. He pulled me so down. I was so depressed all the time and had no idea why and then I realised it was because of him so advice to girls if ur boyfriend has a narcissistic personality or biopolor and u not happy get out and run.

Again, JP, borderline personality disorder and narcissistic personality disorder are two WAY different things. People diagnosed with BPD can be narcissistic, but that has nothing to do with the disorder. My father is borderline, trust me I've dealt with this my whole life, they are no where near the same thing. Disorders shouldn't be clumped together like that. Especially ones that are very different. BPD and bipolar disorder are similar, but pbd and narcissistic personality disorder are two WAY different things. I work in a hospital with a very large mental health wing. I deal with these disorders every day, and personally with my father. It's stigmatising like this that spreads misconception.

Just dumped him- emotionless - sulky if he doesn't get his way - unloving unless in the mood - only does a good turn because he's getting something - lies first even if the truth is a more viable option - pray he's gone for good- really do

I agree with most of what you said, but you shouldn't out them to others. My father has BPD, and I have severe depression and anxiety, which is possibly bi polar disorder, (I have to track everything on a calendar for a year to be sure), and I would HATE if someone told people who I only just met. My ex told all his friends about my personal mental health issues, and I told him to stop, but he told everyone, if I took 3 seconds to decide what kind of dinner I wanted, he'd tell the waiter I have severe anxiety and go into detail about what it is. So I left, but we had tons of friends in common and it was incredibly difficult to find someone, I am all for telling my partner, but I want to do it and not have it be a negative thing, which mental illnesses often get stigmatised as. They are not awful, and once you find the person who understands or at least tries to, it can easily work out in a relationship. But if you go into that relationship with the thought that the other person is crazy and is going to be hard to handle, its doomed. After the guy that spilled my life every 5 seconds, I dated a friend who I told, but he had already knew, and he only thought about the horror stories he's heard about "crazy people" in the news, I was doing extremely well at the time, and had everything in my life under control, but he'd ask me if I was depressed if I didn't want to do anything and would (not intentionally in a rude way) threaten to call the hospital and get me committed. But after I met new people, and explained myself how it works and they heard the truth and not exaggerated examples or stories, it worked. I've had two very successful relationships since, one only ended because I don't want children and he did, and I'm in one now with a lovely girl who completely understands, and didn't listen to the stigma around mental health issues. Even if your warning is online and not directed at someone, its still negativity stigmatising mental health disorders. People with BPD and npd can function fully, and even have successful relationships. There's a guy in my hospital who comes in every week for therapy with npd, and he has a wife and a baby on the way, and his whole life he was in committed relationships, and yes, when shit hits the fan he stresses and blames others, but his wife gets that he can't control that, because it's a chemical imbalance in his brain, not something intentional. I may have felt a bit too personal over your response, and I really apologize for that, but I have been on the other side of that "warning" and it made me miserable. You can't take away a chance at a relationship with someone just because (and I don't want this to sound like an attack, because it's hard and there's only a handful of people willing and wanting to do it) that can handle and love people with these types of disorders, but they need to find out themselves, and not have (what could be realistic or exaggerated) negative expectations going into the relationship. It's not always going to fail. But it's like if you get told to try the milk because someone thinks it tastes funny, you're going to taste a funny taste because you were expecting it to be negative. I deal with people with mental health disorders every day, and I've seen professionally and personally how even just a bit of googling can ruin a healthy at least decently happy relationship, and it's horrible for them. So even though you think you're protecting the person going in, you're hurting the person indirectly in something (even those with npd need companionship, even if they aren't happy) crucial to human life, and in what with most cases lead to depression or even suicide unfortunately, even in people who don't feel the need for love, or for those who don't care about others, lack of human companionship is easily the worst thing for any human.

Sounds like psychopaths too! I had one charm his way into my life, and I'm now finally good riddance of him.