Why You Should Try to Remain Friends with Your Ex ...

Why You Should Try to Remain Friends with Your Ex ...
By Lyndsie • Jun 21, 2025

Let me start off by saying that I am not endorsing anyone to stay friends with every ex, nor am I encouraging anyone to remain friends with a dangerous, abusive, violent, or otherwise horrifying ex. You simply can't remain friends with every ex you'll ever have, generally speaking. I think we've all had at least one relationship where we've genuinely wanted to remain friends after breaking up, though. If your ex is a good person, if your breakup was amicable or at least calm, and if you're doing it for the right reasons, however, then there are plenty of valid reasons to remain friends with your ex.

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1. You Played Important Roles in Each Other's Lives

emotion, I'm, just, girl,, looking, Short-term, long-term, it doesn't matter – some people simply affect your life more deeply than others.

2. Your Ex May Genuinely Be a Good Person

Clip art, person, facial expression, film noir, emotion, Breaking up with someone doesn't automatically make the other person horrible.

3. If You Were Friends First, You Don't Want to Lose Your Friendship

black, white, photograph, painting, black and white, This is one of the best reasons to remain friends, providing that your relationship didn't kill the foundation of your friendship.

4. Falling out of Love Doesn't Always Mean Falling out of like

person, facial expression, singing, singer, you, You can like someone very much, even if you aren't in love with them any longer.

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5. You Might Simply Feel like You Make Better Friends

person, religion, alcohol, emotion, mean,, This happens more often than you might think.

6. Your Romantic Relationship Could Have Faded into Friendship

person, facial expression, smile, emotion, MPERIALBEDROOMS, In fact, if you simply grew apart romantically, then you might even recognize that you're better off as friends.

7. If You Have Children Together, Being Friends Has Many Benefits

woman, We're, friends, that, all, This goes without saying – it's an ideal situation and it's not possible for everyone, but when it is possible, it's so much better for everyone involved.

8. Ditto if You Have Pets Together

person, hey,, let's, friends, I'm, Same.

9. Your Ex Might Be One of the Only People Who Gets Your Humor

photo shoot, pattern, formal wear, Who, are, That's pretty big, especially if you have a weird, dry, or dark sense of humor.

10. Plus You Know Everything about Each Other

person, are, literally, the, most, Granted, some exes will know more than others, but you get my drift, right?

11. Sometimes, It's Simply Hard to Let Go, Even if the Romance is Gone

person, singing, model, photo shoot, one, If your ex makes you happy on any level, even after you've fallen out of love, letting go sometimes feels impossible.

12. It's Possible That You're Also Close with Their Family

person, combat sport, Wanna, know, secret?, Breaking up with an ex's family is awful when you really love those people.

13. And You May Have Tons of Mutual Friends

blond, sunlight, photo shoot, spring, flower, Ugh, same.

14. So You Won't Have to Go through a Friend-divorce

person, hair, facial expression, portrait, smile, Seriously, friend-divorces are devastating.

15. Neither of You Will Be the Bad Guy

person, black and white, emotion, love, Come, Wouldn't that be refreshing for a change?

16. You Can Help Each Other with Future Relationships

BBC Radio Wales, person, profession, BBC, One, After all, you know what worked, what went wrong, what you both like, what you hate ...

17. You Won't Have Nearly as Much Baggage in Your Next Relationship

clothing, beauty, model, dress, fashion, You may still have some baggage, but it won't be due to an acrimonious ex.

You should never stay friends with your ex because you want to get back together or because you're still hung up on the relationship – that has so much potential to hurt you – but there are times when staying friends is the best bet. Have you ever remained friends with an ex?

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  • Reham

    2016-07-08T19:39:27.410Z

    Nah this post is just sad.. You only keep them in your life if you have kids together.. Otherwise you're always better off!
  • JTLWN

    2016-07-08T20:40:41.653Z

    Please read my article only one on my page I need help
  • Crazed

    2016-07-08T15:03:48.836Z

    Maybe I sing
  • Aaditi

    2017-07-30T05:01:44.120Z

    I have always stayed friends with my exes..they get me..I get them..and there's always that soft corner :)
  • Pl0x

    2016-07-08T14:41:43.111Z

    Don't agree with the baggage part. An ex that is still in the picture can be of significant importance in the next relationship as well.
  • Gadija

    2016-07-09T05:41:37.647Z

    Yes i have and still am. Many of these things really do apply so i guess you need to assess what works for you both
  • Crazed

    2016-07-08T15:04:18.683Z

    Key word maybe sometimes it is best to go
  • Ana

    2016-07-09T13:04:27.208Z

    There's a very good quote by Maxim Gorky on this subject.. And I agree with it. I'll try to translate it from Russian the best I can.
  • April

    2018-07-22T17:39:29.510Z

    I just got a divorce after 24 years my choice . Ex had a new girlfriend and putting it all o er Facebook and on front of our teens but days he still loved me and cries. I started off wanting to be friends but I have been wavering from hurt .
  • Crazed

    2016-07-08T15:03:56.623Z

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