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Read This before You Get Back with Your Cheating Ex ...

By Lyndsie

It's not uncommon to want to get back with your ex after you've split. Sometimes, you want to get back with your ex even if s/he cheated on you and that's what ended the relationship. It's easy for outsiders to look at your situation and judge or give advice – most of which consists of “NO!” The inside of a relationship are different from what everyone sees, however, and the issues therein are personal to every couple. Maybe your ex just made a mistake. Maybe s/he had lots of affairs. Whatever the case, at least consider these points before you decide to give your cheating ex another shot.

1 Weigh the Pros and Cons

Weigh the Pros and Cons What do you love about your ex? What do you dislike about her or him? Weigh up your issues, look at the circumstances of the cheating, and reflect on your happiness as a couple. Is it worth potential heartbreak? If it was one night of cheating or a short, purely sexual affair, can you forgive and move on, or is the trust irrevocably broken?

2 Consider the Reasons S/he Cheated

Consider the Reasons S/he Cheated This is so important that it deserves its own point. There are different ways to cheat. Most women are certain that they would never, ever get back with a cheater, but when it's your relationship, things are different. There are all sorts of things to think about. If you have an otherwise wonderful relationship, do you want to let a single mistake uproot your whole life? If it was a full-blown love affair, however, can you ever really trust your ex again?

3 Are You Able to Forgive Her/him?

City, automobile, vehicle, sport utility vehicle, coupé, This is a big one. See, you can't say you forgive your partner, then continue to bring up the cheating, make it your focus, or let it stand in your way. I'm not saying that it shouldn't stand in your way, either, because some people can't get over cheating and that is absolutely okay. What I mean is that forgiveness means being able to move past the issue. You might not be able to do that.

4 Do You Think You'd Be Able to Respect Her/him?

Do You Think You'd Be Able to Respect Her/him? This is an important question to ask yourself, too. Not only do you lose trust in the person who cheats on you, but you can lose respect for her or him, as well. And can you be with someone for whom you have no respect?

5 Will Your Ex Respect You?

Will Your Ex Respect You? A person can cheat on someone but still love and respect them. A person can get back with their partner after cheating and still respect their partner. Sometimes, however, the person who cheats does so because s/he has no respect for their current relationship, and if their partner takes them back after their indiscretion, they may stop respecting their partner. Pretty convoluted, right?

6 Can You Let It Go?

Can You Let It Go? Think hard. Can you really let it go? Can you trust that your partner isn't going to do it again? Will you be constantly worried and suspicious?

7 Are You Compatible?

Are You Compatible? Maybe that's why the other person cheated in the first place. Maybe the two of you simply aren't a good fit, but s/he didn't have the guts to say so before cheating on you. It's possible that the best course of action is to let your partner go.

Being cheated on is never easy. Never. It always hurts. The urge to get back with a cheating ex is both strong and understandable, but it's not always the best idea. Have you ever gotten back with someone who cheated on you?

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