Having a crush can be a beautiful experience or a torturous one. It all depends on your mindset (and on how nice your crush is). However, there are a few ways to increase your chances of getting with the guy you like, no matter who he is. All you have to do is avoid these few things that could ruin your chances with him:
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1. Assuming You're Not Good Enough for Him
We always put our crushes on pedestals, but you have to realize that he's a human, just like you. If you think of him as some unreachable superstar, then you're going to assume you don't have a chance with him. If you think that way, then you aren't going to try to get him out of fear of being rejected. You might even overlook the signs he's giving that show he likes you too. So keep your confidence high and know that you're good enough for him and anyone else you meet.
2. Trying to Make Him Jealous by Flirting around
You want your crush to know that other guys are interested in you, but it's easy to take this idea too far. While it's good for him to see that you have other options, it's dangerous for you to flirt with other guys in front of him. He might get the wrong message and assume that you don't want him.
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When you attempt to stoke the flames of jealousy, you're treading on thin ice. Subtlety is your ally here. If he catches you being overtly flirtatious, he could perceive it as genuine interest in someone else, potentially causing him to back off. You want to avoid sending mixed signals; it's about piquing his interest, not pushing him away. Aim for a balance that suggests you're in demand but still approachable and interested in him. It's a delicate dance of making him realize what he could miss out on, not give him a reason to miss out on you.
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3. Not Being Yourself
Don't lie about your interests and your opinions. The right guy for you won't judge you for having a different taste in music. After all, how boring would it be if you liked all the same things and had all the same thoughts?
4. Trying to Move Way Too Fast
Don't tell him you've dreamt about marrying him when you're on your first date. Strong relationships take time to develop, so take things step by step. You shouldn't discuss baby names after your first kiss, even if he's into it.
5. Texting Him Too Often
You don't have to wait a half hour to text him back so you look like you have a life. However, you don't want to send him five texts in an hour when he didn't respond to you the first three times. Take it easy or you'll end up looking desperate.
6. Stalking Him Online or in Person
It doesn't matter if you're following him home or liking every picture on his Instagram. Either way, he's going to be a bit creeped out by your actions. It's fine to do your research, but don't advance into stalking territory.
7. Never Letting Him See the Real You
When you like someone, you always want to look your best around them. However, you shouldn't cancel plans with him if you have a bad hair day. If you end up in a relationship, he's going to see you when you look messy. You're not perfect, and neither is he, so there's no sense in being embarrassed by your "flaws."
When you find the right guy, he won't mind that you've made a few mistakes. However, to be safe, try to avoid doing these things if you want to land a special someone as your boyfriend. Has a man ever lost interest in you after catching you doing one of the things on this list?
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Melanibarbi: Great tips and very true!!!!!
Kzzzk: This is not all true. Every folk have different results. Sorry gals. I don't agree to some of this!
mermaidvictoria: yes! my ex boyfriend thought I was stalking him and I wasn't :( and I put him on a pedestal and it just was bad! thank you for this I love it! it's like my little guidelines 😁😁
Moviedoll: That pedestal thing is so true, a guy I really truly liked put me on one and I became an unattainable thing he could never approach, only admire from up close and afar.. I was never real to him tho I tried he never actually let me be real and human. It goes both ways
Miss: This is very true. Thanks for this
Michelle_El: My ex boyfriend broke up with me because he thought I was too good for him. Now he's seeing a girl he met off tinder. I'm just absolutely shocked and heartbroken can't believe it.
bb22: great advice... I have a special someone that I really like but he's really hard to get. we see eachother occasionally and various event and we always hit it off well. but he hasn't asked me out yet. I know for a fact that he's not dating anyone else, and that he really likes me. but he hasn't asked me out yet. the waiting is so hard but I just reminding myself that I am worth more than a diamond and he has to do a hella more to get my attn
Elly: Wow this is really a up lifting and good message! Way to get women out there with that advise... Cuz it's good advise!
Beryl: Easier way is to watch the film Play Misty For Me .the awful woman who fancies Clint Eastwood pursues shows you what not to do !
Ask: Thank you I am single 61 if ever get another chance Will remember these pearls of wisdom
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