Going on dates can be really exciting, but there are some dating red flags you shouldn't ignore. There are so many fishes in the sea and there is a good chance you'll find the right one. Unfortunately, not all dates will be good. The good news is, dating can help you weed through different people so that you can find the perfect one for you. Here are 5 dating red flags you shouldn't ignore.
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1. His Opinion Triumphs Yours
Ever met a man or woman who just keeps talking on without giving you a chance to speak? That's definitely one of the dating red flags you shouldn't ignore. He just keeps going on and on about how things should be done or how society should be. Then he asks for your opinion, only after he finishes telling you his. If you disagree with him, he starts telling you why you are wrong, even before listening to your explanations. If you agree, he says that you're smart and move on to talk about how stupid others are for not seeing it his way.
In a relationship, communication is very important. You want your partner to understand your feelings and share your thoughts with him. If he does not bother to hear you out, it is very hard to resolve any problems or issues you have with each other. Talking helps to strengthen your relationship and helps you understand the thought process of one another.
2. He Brings You down
Imagine this: You finally finished your college course or you finally closed that business deal. Instead of having a supportive partner that sincerely congratulates you, he says things like “Congrats on getting a useless degree,” or “Took you long enough,” in a really snarky tone. Now, instead of having something to celebrate, you don't feel good about it anymore.
When you get in a relationship, you want to feel appreciated and lovedo. Both parties should be helping each other to improve and better themselves. When your partner brings you down, it affects your self-esteem negatively. This may cause negative side effects such as depression.
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3. He Uses His Zodiac Sign to Justify His Actions
Horoscopes are fun to read about. They are broad statements that apply to most people, but they should not define you or your partner. Imagine seeing your partner flirting with someone on the dance floor and when you bring it up, he says, “I can't help it. I'm a Sagittarius, I'm promiscuous!”
This may sound like a silly red flag, but it does happen. Some people use it as an excuse to justify their actions and it is not okay. Unless you are in an open relationship or have discussed with your partner prior, a relationship should only be between two people and no one else. Using his zodiac sign as an excuse is like saying “all men cheat”. It is simply not true, and should not be used at all.
4. He Hides Things from You
No, not hiding like stashing away your secret birthday present or tickets to a concert you want to go. He hides things like, where he is really going on a guy's night or who he is texting. For example, your partner says he is going for drinks, but really he is going to a strip club.
Privacy should be respected, but be honest. If you have nothing to hide, why are you afraid of speaking the truth? Honesty and trust go hand in hand and they are important in a healthy relationship. When you hear about people checking each other's phones, it is usually because they don't trust each other. If you do not have much trust in your partner, it can cause paranoia, which may eventually strain your relationship.
5. He Acts Differently when People Are around and It Doesn't Feel Good
When it's just the two of you, everything is perfect. He is loving, caring and makes you laugh all the time. He gives you hugs, kisses and he says he'll never let you go. When there are people around, strangers or friends, it changes. He is no longer hugging you or kissing you. He barely acknowledges you. You feel alone and confused. When you ask him about it, he says that he just doesn't like public displays of affection.
This red flag does not apply to everyone, but it is important to know if it affects you negatively or not. If you are okay with less PDA, then you will be okay. However, for those who feel confused and unloved because of it, you must decide whether or not the relationship is worth it. Many people feel like they are being abandoned or used, and that is not what you should feel in a relationship. In worse case scenarios, there are people who develop anxiety or a negative impact on their self-esteem.
Now that you know these red flags, stay safe and find your perfect one!
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