It's not a crime to get back together with your ex. However, sometimes it can be a huge mistake. But if you have your heart set on going back to him, there are a few things you should know. According to Women's Health, here's what you should do when getting back with an ex:
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1. COOL YOUR JETS
Even though you've already dated, it doesn't mean you need to skip past the initial stages of the relationship. Don't rush into things. Get used to spending time together again before you move in together or get engaged.
2. DON’T VIEW IT as a NEW RELATIONSHIP
He's not a totally different person than the guy you used to date. “It is important for a couple to build on the past relationship, warts and all." That means you should talk about the issues you've had in the past and try to resolve them.
3. BE REAL about YOUR TIME APART
It might hurt to hear, but it's important for you to know what he did during your time apart. Ask him if he dated anyone else or slept with anyone else. And, of course, you should return the favor by telling him what you did.
4. And WHY YOU WANT to GET BACK TOGETHER
If you only want to be with him, because you're suddenly lonely, then you should resist the urge to talk to him. However, if you two have real reasons for wanting to get back together, it's a sign you should move forward.
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5. COVER OLD ISSUES
If you broke up, because he was friends with an ex you didn't like, you need to talk to him about the issue right away. If he's still friends with her, then you're going to have to deal with it. Otherwise, don't date him again.
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6. KNOW WHAT YOU’RE GETTING into
He might've changed a little, but he didn't change a lot. That means your relationship will be pretty much the same as it was the first time around. Can you handle that?
Are you planning on getting back with an ex?
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Paris: I've definitely considered it. My ex and I broke up almost a year ago. But we talked daily and have hung out. We still care for each other tremendously. I'm just not sure if I'm ready to get back into a serious relationship. Although it seems like we are kinda together now. The thought of officially getting back together seems really heavy.
Aleina: Its complicated, and Im afraid of suffering again but ready to go
Diana: What to do if my boyfriend stopped calling me and stopped liking my photos on facebook ? Pleaase I need some practical advices 😘😘 he used to be so sweet and used to call me often and then suddenly he stopped and become distant ...
Hpyspdlvr1: I recently broke up with my ex ... we didn't talk for a little while but now we are trying to just be friends with benefits ... I know this is wrong and after having two encounters with him he wanted to cuddle ... well he just told me he has no feelings 😟
Emma: I'm open to getting back with my ex because he was so good to me. But I'm not in the right mindset now. *sad face*
Moyo: I feel just the same way Aleina does. I hope its worth it again. The problem for us was distance and changes not exactly human flaws hence the I feel the need to try again since those factors are now out of play.
Steph5: I have an old ex I needed to break up with because the relationship was occasionally toxic (2 and a half years ago). Since then I've been in another relationship, only to get taken advantage of (it's been one year since). My old ex from 2 and 1/2 years ago is still deeply, deeply in love with me and hasn't moved on since I left him almost three years ago, but I just can't get back together with him. I'm not ready for any sort of relationship with anyone since the events that took place in my last one a year ago. I still think of my old ex from time to time very fondly, but it wouldn't be right to get back together. I'm just not ready. I don't know how to break it to him, he's so fragile. Why is love so complicated?
Leslie: He is not attracted to me any more he said. His new chick is meeting his needs i did not. It is nit healthy for me to think about him. I just hope he gets hurt as much as he hurt me!!
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