It's not a crime to get back together with your ex. However, sometimes it can be a huge mistake. But if you have your heart set on going back to him, there are a few things you should know. According to Women's Health, here's what you should do when getting back with an ex:
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1. COOL YOUR JETS
Even though you've already dated, it doesn't mean you need to skip past the initial stages of the relationship. Don't rush into things. Get used to spending time together again before you move in together or get engaged.
2. DON’T VIEW IT as a NEW RELATIONSHIP
He's not a totally different person than the guy you used to date. “It is important for a couple to build on the past relationship, warts and all." That means you should talk about the issues you've had in the past and try to resolve them.
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3. BE REAL about YOUR TIME APART
It might hurt to hear, but it's important for you to know what he did during your time apart. Ask him if he dated anyone else or slept with anyone else. And, of course, you should return the favor by telling him what you did.
4. And WHY YOU WANT to GET BACK TOGETHER
If you only want to be with him, because you're suddenly lonely, then you should resist the urge to talk to him. However, if you two have real reasons for wanting to get back together, it's a sign you should move forward.
5. COVER OLD ISSUES
If you broke up, because he was friends with an ex you didn't like, you need to talk to him about the issue right away. If he's still friends with her, then you're going to have to deal with it. Otherwise, don't date him again.
6. KNOW WHAT YOU’RE GETTING into
He might've changed a little, but he didn't change a lot. That means your relationship will be pretty much the same as it was the first time around. Can you handle that?
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RhiHamilton: after three months of being broke up, my ex told me exactly what i wanted to hear... no one was happy at first, but we decided to take things slow and we are so happy, we talked about everything that went wrong, and ways we have both grown and changed.
Crystal: I don't have an ex...
Emma: I'm open to getting back with my ex because he was so good to me. But I'm not in the right mindset now. *sad face*
Leslie: He is not attracted to me any more he said. His new chick is meeting his needs i did not. It is nit healthy for me to think about him. I just hope he gets hurt as much as he hurt me!!
Hpyspdlvr1: I recently broke up with my ex ... we didn't talk for a little while but now we are trying to just be friends with benefits ... I know this is wrong and after having two encounters with him he wanted to cuddle ... well he just told me he has no feelings 😟
peony: An ex is ex let it go!
Aysha: I'm absolutely sure this post is sent from heaven to me. I have thought about getting back with my ex, whom I broke up with 3 months ago. And some hours ago I texted him, just to hear if he was alright. I'll definitely use the guidelines in this post when considering getting back together with him. I've just realized that I can't stop loving him.
Daniel: I am so confused about everything because I think even if we get back together it might still just be the same tho I want him back
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