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What to do when Your Ex Texts You ...

By Holly

Your ex never texts you when you're missing them. Somehow, they always time it so their message comes through right when you're doing fine in life and aren't thinking about them at all. Of course, that text can change everything. But instead of letting it drive you mad, you should stay calm. Here are a few different options you have when your ex texts you:

1 Have a Normal Conversation with Him

Have a Normal Conversation with Him If you miss having him in your life, and want to be friends with him again, then you can try to have a normal conversation with him. Of course, that means you shouldn't get flirty. Otherwise, you'll cross a line. You shouldn't act jealous when he talks about his new girlfriend, either. If you sound like you're still bitter over the breakup, then you probably won't end up as friends.

2 Tell Him It’s Not a Good Idea for You to Talk

Tell Him It’s Not a Good Idea for You to Talk If you don't want to talk to your ex, but don't want to be rude, then you can tell him the truth. Let him know that you appreciate him reaching out to you, but don't want to put yourself through the pain of letting him back into your life. The truth can go a long way.

3 Go out to Get Your Mind off of Him

Go out to Get Your Mind off of Him If getting a text from your ex upset you, then you should do something to get your mind off of him. You don't want to stare at your phone, debating what to do or say for hours on end. That's unhealthy. It's better to have fun with your friends and forget all about the boy that once broke your heart.

4 Ask Yourself if You Really Want Him Back in Your Life

Ask Yourself if You Really Want Him Back in Your Life Before you text him back, ask yourself if you actually want him back in your life. Texting doesn't seem like a big deal, but it can be. That's why you should only respond to his messages if you honestly think you can handle talking to him again.

5 Check His Social Media

Check His Social Media If you check his social media, you might be able to figure out why he's suddenly contacting you. If he just broke up with his new girlfriend, then he might be looking for a rebound. It he just lost his job, he might be looking to you for comfort. Of course, that doesn't mean you should be there to help him feel better.

6 Just Don’t Respond to Him

Just Don’t Respond to Him You don't actually have to respond to his messages. Just ignore them if you want. There's nothing he can do about it. After all, even if he shows up at your house and knocks on your door, you can ignore the sound just like you ignored your text message alert.

7 Block His Number

Block His Number If you can't even stand the thought of seeing his name pop up on your phone screen, then you should block his number. That way, it'll be impossible for him to contact you. Just don't forget to block him on Facebook and every other piece of social media, as well.

Everyone's situation is different. You know whether it's a better idea to text your ex back or throw your phone across the room, so make the right decision. Do you keep in contact with any of your exes?

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