Have you started getting suspicious about the new guy you’re dating and looking for signs you’re the other woman in his life? There are some great men out there, but there are plenty of bad apples too. Take a look at this list of 8 telling signs that you’re the other woman and see if this new guy is worth keeping around! After all, being able to tell if you’re the other woman isn't easy.
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1. Your Dates Are in Secretive Locations
A good indicator that you’re the other woman in his life is if all of your dates are in odd, out-of-the-way places like a dive bar or hole-in-the-wall diner that’s nowhere close to your place or his. Also, does he accompany you to places like the mall or in town running errands? If he always has excuses as to why he can’t go certain places, he might be trying to avoid being seen with you. This might be one of the signs you’re the other woman.
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The other woman is a term used to describe a woman who is in a romantic relationship with a man who is already in a committed relationship with someone else. The other woman is usually unaware of the man’s existing relationship and is often kept a secret.
It is important to be aware of the signs that you may be the other woman in order to protect yourself from getting hurt. One sign is if all of your dates are in secretive locations, such as a dive bar or hole-in-the-wall diner that’s nowhere close to your place or his. Additionally, if he always has excuses as to why he can’t go certain places, he might be trying to avoid being seen with you.
Other signs that you may be the other woman include him not introducing you to his friends or family, him not wanting to take pictures with you, him not wanting to talk about his personal life, him being overly protective of his phone, and him never staying the night.
2. His Phone Calls Are Private
Another sign that you’re the other woman is if your man always leaves the room to take his phone calls. Sure, we get private calls every now and then but not all the time! If he can’t answer his calls in front of you, he’s likely talking to his girlfriend or wife and trying to avoid any trouble from her and you. Another sign is if he always has to call you back or he’s always unreachable. He's probably at home with his woman and has to call you back when it’s more convenient for him.
Frequently asked questions
Look out for things like him being secretive about his personal life, always contacting you at odd hours, and never introducing you to his close friends or family. These are big red flags.
If he's constantly dodging questions about his personal life or being super vague about significant details, he might be hiding another relationship. Trust your gut on this one!
Notice if he avoids bringing you to his place, always comes to yours, or has tons of excuses for why you can't visit him. These can be signs he lives with someone else.
First, take a deep breath. Then, decide if this is a situation you can handle emotionally or if it's better to walk away. It's important to prioritize your well-being.
It might have to do with the type of partners you attract or your own relationship boundaries. Reflect on past relationships and consider talking to a counselor to break the cycle.
3. You’ve Never Seen His Place
A big red flag warning that you’re the other woman is if he always comes to your place and you’ve never even seen his house. If a guy is really into you, he’s going to eventually take you to his place regardless of his messy roomies or whatever excuse he comes up with. If he’s always avoiding going to his house for some reason, he’s probably shacking up with his girlfriend or wife.
4. Your Dates Are during off Hours
One of the most telling signs that you’re the other woman is that your dates are always during weird hours like late nights and you can’t ever spend holidays or special occasions with him. If he’s always unavailable on certain nights, can’t see you until the wee hours of the morning or if he can only stay the night every now and then, he’s probably spending the majority of his time with someone else.
5. You Can’t Make It Official on Facebook
This might seem like a silly way to tell that you’re the other woman but if he says no to even being friends on Facebook or keeps his Twitter account secret, you have a reason to be suspicious. If he lies about having either, that’s another red flag. Even if you are friends online, don’t get too comfortable yet, some guys have multiple Facebook accounts to keep certain things private.
6. He Hates Pictures
Another one of the telling signs you’re the other woman is that your man hates taking pictures together or having his picture taken at all. He’s probably afraid of the photo getting posted online and it being seen by the “wrong person.” If he doesn’t keep any pictures of you around, that could be another sign that you’re the other woman. He doesn’t have to have your picture as his screen saver but c’mon guys shouldn’t mind taking photos with you or keeping at least one pic of you!
7. He Gets Nervous
One of the main signs that you’re the other woman is if he gets ants in his pants when you ask to borrow his phone or use his computer. Even if it’s a work phone or work laptop, there’s no reason for him to get nervous when you need to use his things. If you’ve seen him use either item for non-work stuff then you know he’s hiding something and he’s not just trying to be a good employee and follow work policy.
8. You’ve Never Met His Family and Friends
Another one of the significant signs that you’re the other woman is if you’ve never met his friends or family. Sure, you might know the guy that he was with when he met you, but do you hang out with his homies on the regular or ever go out for meals with his siblings? I know meeting the parents is a huge deal, but if you’ve never met any of the important people in his life, you’re probably the other woman.
I hope you never find yourself in the situation where you’re looking for signs you’re the other woman and you have to ask yourself these questions, but there’s nothing wrong with being cautious if the guy is raising some red flags. Give the guy the benefit of the doubt at first, but if his behaviors are continuously suspicious, consult this list and move on if necessary. So ladies, have you ever thought that you’re the other woman? Share your experience!
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Pooja: Ok so this sort of describes my case. The thing is when I started talking to this guy, let's call him "X", he lied and told me he's not committed. I got to know that he lied through a common friend about 6 months later, and by that time, I was pretty into him and not ready to let go of the friendship or whatever it was we had. So now it's going to be two years, and we're still stuck at the same place, with me being the "other woman" and just recently I have decided that I'm not going to put up with it anymore and I'm going to end things with him. Although it's probably going to be one of the most difficult things I've done, I'm proud of myself for being so strong, because I didn;t know I could do it, and I know I deserve much better, and I have amazing friends who are really supportive of this decision and all I can hope for is to be much happier without him, because I was happy before I met him, so I know I can be after him, too.
Lahni: i met this guy last week tuesday and we talk and we did the wrong thing the first night at the hotel.We suppose to talk about are life's but we end up having sex the first night. Ever since then he never respond until he wanna have sex with me but we only did it once but, he never ask me to go out he don't want me to near his place or know where he stay at. He's kind a weird he only text me when he wanna talk naughty and he also don't want me to take picture with him . He never call me or talk to me about something else but sex .What should I do i kind a don't want him anymore I think he's using me for sex, He's not the guy I'm looking for .
Bond: Reading some of these replies gives me a headache. Take responsibility for your part. It takes 2 people to have sex. If you were forced or drugged that's a different thing. Women really need to understand that if you sense a guy does have feelings for you then take it and grow it. Ever wonder why so many women pine. Life is short, enjoy the moments. If the guy lied about things that is different. If he lead you on then that is different too. What you can do is to bring it up and say something like hey, tell me if you are seeing other ppl or involved because I will respect you more for that and you will gain more brownie points with me. I find by telling women things up front it gives them the power to decide. I have dated up to 4 women at the same time even sat at a table with 3 of them with others around. Later one said it was just fun for the time and she never wanted anything serious but she enjoyed being with me. I had a 3some with 2 of them and they even said it was a good experience and felt clean and safe. The thing was they even asked me to do it again. It was odd they both asked me several weeks later almost on the same day. Either way, if you can figure out what a guy is about then you can adapt or leave. You are not perfect, keep that in mind. Men are visual, men are driven biologically by ego. That is how nature made us. Men today are watered down and weak imo. They act like little girls and resort to stupid crap to get a woman in bed. Women need to recognize that both men and women change in time. You damn well know in one date or two that YOU are not his kind of woman e.g. if he seems to talk about blondes or look at big chested women. If he says I am an ass or breast man yet you do not have that feature he listed guess what, then take it for sex or take it for the experience and eject yourself. Or be a WOMAN and say, you know I don't think I am really your type but let's have fun and keep it at that. And in walks life for some ppl that moment turned out to be a lifetime of good moments. Life is not a soap opera or a movie.
Anonymous: Hey, basically I'm 14 yrs old and I know this guy for over a year now ( he is my mum's friend's son), I see a very good deal of him and there has been something going on between us two for a year or so now. I have to admit that it has been on and off. Let's just put it this way, whenever we are alone stuff happens e.g. holding hands, hugging, we even kissed once. One time my mum caught us hugging and then she started questionning me on what has happened and then she told me that his mum said that he has a girl friend and that really broke me and I haven't spoken to him since and tried replacing him with two other guys but that failed and now I don't even know what to do. I want to talk to him but I don't want to look like a beg because I've realised that most of the time I was the first one to do stuff and he just went along with it and I don't get the whole thing because I told him that I loved him and he said that he likes me and maybe that's the difference but I really don't know what to do, I think he might be a player. please help !!!!! x
Belle: At the end of February I found my boyfriend had another girlfriend, that he'd been with for awhile. We had just made it exclusive in the beginning of the month. She lives in Michigan, so I was always at his house, but he would take calls outside for a long time. The time i found about him having a girlfriend is when he told me he was going to canada for business and on my birthday i found him at Dave and busters for her. He told me he was going to break it off with her, he needed time, and he didnt know what he wanted, because I wasnt a saint myself. Then he decided he would be with her. At the end of April they decide to go their separate ways now he's wanting to be with me again. We tried to make it work and i saw his change, and how much he was trying but I couldnt let go of the past. and he had his own trust issues with me. I'm still stuck in between trying to make it work or moving on. HELP
margie: that's how I feel like I'm being used lahni I've been like that for 2 years now and I want more
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