8 Tips to Get over Your First Love ...

Heather Oct 19, 2024

8 Tips to Get over Your First Love ...
8 Tips to Get over Your First Love ...

Your first love is the hardest to get over, but there are tips to get over your first love that do really work, if you use them. There are many times when you never, truly get over your first experiences with love and romance, but these tips to get over your first love can help ease the pain. It's going to be hard, but it is so worth getting over and so worth moving on.

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1. Don't Keep Reminiscing

There are tons of times that you are going to dwell on the past, times that you are going to go back into your memories and draw from them, but don't do it right away. Try not to think about the past, try not to dwell on your ex boyfriend or girlfriend. This is one of the many tips to get over your first love that can save you a lot of heartache and pain.

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Reminiscing can often turn into a cycle that fuels your pain and prevents you from moving forward. While it's natural to reflect on the sweetness of your first love, constant dwelling can keep those emotional wounds fresh. It's essential to give yourself the space to heal. Redirect your focus to the present and future—you have so many new experiences and opportunities waiting for you. Your personal growth and happiness are now the top priority, and though it's not easy, learning to let go of the past is a vital step in that journey.

2. Give Yourself Time to Grieve

However, even though I don't want you to dwell on the past, you've got to give yourself some time to grieve the relationship. You have to do this with every relationship, but your first love is going to be the hardest. It can take months, even years to fully get over your first love, but as time passes, it does get easier.

3. Remember, You Will Love Again

Just because you got burned doesn't mean that you'll never, ever love again. Don't think like that. To be honest, you'll probably love a lot sooner than you expect, especially if someone really clicks with you. Don't rush love of course, but don't ever think that you aren't going to love again.

4. Let Your Emotions Heal

You've been burned. You've been hurt. That takes a lot of time to get over and it takes a lot of time for your emotions to heal themselves. Don't jump immediately into another relationship, just because you want to find that feeling you experienced with your ex again. You might not feel that for a while, just let it happen.

5. Support Groups

Support groups within your family and friends are going to be a lifesaver for you. Remember, this is your first love, it is so much different than any other love you experience. Support groups are going to save your life and really make sure that your emotions heal a lot quicker.

6. It'll Be Worse before It Gets Better

When you are trying to get over your first love, you've got realize that it is going to get a lot worse before it gets better. You are going to feel horrible and you are going to be upset a lot, but that doesn't mean that it'll never, ever get better. It will, you've just got to let it.

7. Write in a Journal

When I was trying to get over my first love, I started a journal that I could write in. That really helped me get through the bad times, and I could actually look back and see exactly what I was feeling during those times. Start a journal, it really does help!

8. Let Yourself Cry

Finally, let yourself cry whenever it feels right. If you bottle it all up, it will only make it worse. You've got to let yourself extract all of those emotions that you have pent up instead of keeping them inside. Trust me on this one!

So, if you're having problems getting over your first love, take a look at our tips! They do work and while I know it is hard, it is so worth it to follow these tips. So, what was your experience with getting over your first love?

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Well I was begging in a relationship w this cute boy not so long ago he and I got along so well and we agreed on everything but a few days ago my supposedly friend told him I kissed a boy which I never did. He confronted me about it.. I explained everything to him b coz I wasn't scared I wasn't guilty .. He believed me but now he says he wants to start over and b friends n gt to know each other idk what to do or how to Handel all this.. I can't b just friends w someone I had a relationship

I love a guy that I've been involved with since October. He's lovely and makes me fall in love with him more when I see him and he knows that but he just doesn't want a relationship even though he said he cares about me. Makes me feel horrible because we are good for each other but I will just have to get over it, it's hard though when you see someone all the time as well!! </3 xx

Much needed!!! After 7.5 years and the following weekend there's someone new. Journal has helped and a goal of achievements I want to reach this year for me! One thing not to do, drink!!! Until you know your ready to deal with that.

Look i dont know much about relationships because ive always been in one while my friends were partying BUT what i do know is this- if that person loves you give them sometime to clear their head and they might just try to contact you.

When I went through my first breakup, I just stopped eating, sleeping and taking care of myself. That was four months straight. I would've loved to have read this then.

@Abby you aren't the only one who holds back. I know I do. I have been in the same situations where I got into relationships with best friends and they didn't work out. One thing I have learned is to not regret anything. And I learned to channel all of my emotion somewhere else so I started exercising and I saw a difference in not only my body but my attitude on just about everything!

My now- ex boyfriend told me a few weeks ago that he wanted to be single in the future (not now but in the future). We had been dating for 3 years and living together for 6 months. I asked him to move out and asked for a break because i knew that i could not be in a relationship with someone who does not truely want to be with me anymore. I do know that what we have had the last few months was not a good relationship and did not resemble the other 2 and a bit years of loveliness but it does not make it any easier. He was my first love. I am honestly scared. The uncertainity is terrifing. I have gone out and meet new guys and that helps to feel 'wanted' or 'desirable' again. But i have never ever felt this pain before. We are meeting up next week to end the 'break' i know i say i want to 'break-up' for good but am just painfully scared.

My ex and I broke up in October of last year. It was a 3 and a half year relationship that ended badly. There were hard feelings and a lot of words that went unsaid. I have a lot of anger toward him that has become an issue in my life. It's anger that's bottled up and spills into other aspects of my life. It doesn't help that my ex still triesto contact me. though I have told him I wanted nothing to do with him. However, I did meet a spectacular individual at school and we got together in the middle of November. and have been going strong. He is amazing to me and very understanding of the struggles I deal with when it comes to my ex.

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