7 Warning Signs of a Controlling Partner That You Should Pay Attention to ...


If you believe that lately your significant other has become more concerned with controlling you than with making you happy and you fear that their behavior has started to interfere with your well-being, then maybe you should pay attention to these next few warning signs of a controlling partner, so you will know if you should take some action in order to correct their behavior. There is a very thin line between a controlling and a loving partner and sometimes you may not even realize you have a problem, even though most of your friends and family members tell you the opposite. We all try to control our partner in a subtle way and we all wish we could improve or change certain things about them. Yet, you shouldn’t let this urge turn you into someone you’re not, someone who manipulates other people to get what they want. Experts have concluded that somebody might be tempted to act in such a manner because they are “scared of that vulnerability that comes with loving and trusting someone.” Most of the people who behave this way have been hurt before, they have been betrayed by someone that they cared deeply about or they may have grown up observing relationships in which such a behavior was considered to be the natural thing to do. Here are a few pretty obvious warning signs of a controlling partner that you should pay attention to, if you think that your partner’s behavior has change significantly lately, and not in a good way:

1. You Lose Contact with Your Loved Ones

One of the most obvious warning signs of a controlling partner is the fact that you notice that lately you’ve lost contact with your loved ones, your friends, your family members or even your work colleagues. Your partner may not allow you to go out with them, they may not let you answer your phone when your friends are calling, not to mention answer the comments or messages they left you on your Facebook account. If you’ve started to miss all those people you care about and the person who is to blame for this situation is your partner, maybe you should do something and not allow them to isolate you.

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He also shows lot of affection at times. Does so many things for me but when he is angry without any reason he counts all tht. Always tell me wht I hv done for you. Even small small things
Pretty much all these traits describe my boyfriend but he also has the sweetheart side of him and that part makes me want to stay. I can't imagine not being with him, not coming home to him etc. I'm torn.
Amy J
This helped a lot, I've been with mine for twelve years and I have been so happy with my independence since he got put into jail, this helps make my decision a lot easier.
Cheyenne Rivers
Oooh wow, definitely 5 & 6 for the relationship I just ended. I had no idea those were signs! I just found them unforgivably irritating and self esteem damaging. Good thing it's done now :) great, informative article.
Cindy collier
Divorce is an option. Guess it depends on what quality of life you want... Toxic or healthy?? We all know which option will end bad. Wish you all the best.
@kay kay Hey Kay sounds like I had the same situation as urs unfortunately I couldn't change my relationship for good so I had to leave (hope u don't have to) but try to make this person feel the sa...
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