15 Warning Signs You Need to Watch for to Know if He's Just Using You ...

By Heather

15 Warning Signs You Need to Watch for to Know if  He's Just Using You ...

Some signs he is using you can be right out in the open, but you might not know it! If you have a feeling that he is using you, it might not be a healthy relationship to be in. Below, I've got the top signs he is using you for your money, for sex or even just for a place to crash. Ladies, you deserve better than just someone using you!

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1

You Pay Every Time You Go out

person,lady,beauty,girl,model, Even though the guy is supposed to pay in the beginning, you constantly find yourself paying for every single thing when you two go out. Does that seem to be the case with your relationship? That's definitely one of the top signs he is using you. While it's okay to split the bill, you shouldn't constantly be pulling your wallet out to pay all of the time.

2

He's Only Available when He Needs Something from You

hair,color,human hair color,red,face, What about his availability? Do you constantly find that he isn't available unless he needs something from you? This is definitely a sign he is using you. After all, don't you want a guy that is going to be available when you need him to be? Not just when he needs you?

3

Financially Dependent on You

20th Century Fox,hair,facial expression,face,person, Not only do you pay for everything, but he is actually financially dependent on you. He expects you to pay all of the bills that you two have, no questions asked. He doesn't even contribute to the monthly bills that he has racked up with you. This is a sign he is using you and you shouldn't stand for it!

4

You Are His Convenience

brown hair,black hair,screenshot, Are you constantly finding yourself his convenience for a ride or for an 'allowance'? That should never be the case when you are in a mature relationship. Everything should be even; you should never be someones 'convenience'.

5

Emotional Blackmail

color,hair,red,person,image, Is your boyfriend constantly blaming you for things that go wrong in his life? Does he constantly say that it is your fault that he doesn't have a job or any direction? This is a sign that he is using you girls, and you shouldn't stand for it!

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6

He Never Buys You Anything

hair,face,person,nose,photography, Do you constantly buy him things, but he's never, ever gotten you something back? Does he ever buy you anything? That's a sign ladies. After all, shouldn't your boyfriend buy you some things sometimes?

7

He Doesn't Need You for Anything but Things That He Needs

hair,human hair color,blond,face,hairstyle, Does your boyfriend not take into account your needs? Maybe it'd be nice once in a while for him to pick you up, instead of you constantly picking him up. Does he not take any of your needs into account when he makes decisions? It's a sign girls!

8

He Never Takes Your Feelings into Consideration

black,black and white,photography,monochrome photography,monochrome, Does your boyfriend take any of your feelings into account? Does he even think about how his actions affect you? This could be a sign he is using you ladies!

9

He Only Comes Home at Night

hair,face,person,photography,brown hair, Once you see a pattern that your partner comes home late at night, it is a sure red flag in your relationship. Although it is typical for some men to come back late after a night with friends, usually this as a frequent and cyclical pattern can only mean that he wants you for one thing only. And that doesn't include anything along the lines of emotional bonding.

10

He Never Takes You out in Public

hair,face,beauty,blond,hairstyle, Dating, especially at its early stages, should not be done in secret unless there are extreme circumstances. Your partner should feel comfortable being seen with you, no matter the time or day. However, if he insists on a private relationship, you know that it will be doomed sooner or later.

11

He Never Goes through with Your Plans

hair,person,nose,photography,girl, If a men is interested in getting to know you, he will put in every effort in order to see you and get the chance to talk to you. Therefore if you notice that your partner doesn't seem to care about spending time together, his relationship with you may be due to an ulterior motive.

12

He is Not Interested in YOU

face,person,nose,beauty,mouth, Once you realize that your partner has no interest in getting to you as a person and what you stand for, you know that he can't possibly be genuine about his feelings toward you. After all if his interest doesn't lie in you, unfortunately he might be using you for something else.

13

He Doesn't Plan on Introducing You to Friends or Family

person,mouth,finger,FOX41,WDRB, We all know that the next step in a serious relationship is meeting the friends and the family. However, if your partner never comes around to it and keeps changing the subject, you know that he doesn't see a future nor does he plan it with you. If he doesn't take the relationship seriously, he will have no intention of bringing you into his inner circle.

14

Your Gut is Warning You

hair,human action,beauty,hairstyle,long hair, Sometimes when your head says one thing and your heart says another, you have to listen to your gut. You might have doubts about your other half for a reason and it only makes sense to explore them to ensure the validity of those feelings. If you feel that something is not right, don't just ignore what your gut is telling you because believe it or not, sometimes everything is not what it seems.

15

There is No Emotional Connection

color,facial expression,face,hair,person, If there is no emotional connection between two people, the only reason for the existence of a relationship between them is purely based on selfish interests. Think about it, if there is no emotional and psychological link between two people, the only thing that is anchoring them to each other are physical needs or selfish motives.

Ladies, if you see any of these signs he is using you, it isn't a healthy relationship. So girls, have you ever been in a relationship that had any of these signs he is using you?

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When it comes to relationships, it is important to be aware of any signs that could indicate that someone is using you. Some signs of being used include a lack of emotional connection, a one-sided relationship, and a lack of respect.

If there is no emotional connection between two people, then the relationship is likely based on selfish interests or physical needs. This type of relationship is not healthy and should be avoided.

Another sign of being used is if the relationship is one-sided. This could be evidenced by the other person not reciprocating effort or time spent in the relationship. If you are the only one putting in the work, then it is likely that the other person is taking advantage of you.

Finally, a lack of respect is another warning sign that someone is using you. This could include the other person not considering your feelings or needs. If the other person is not respectful or considerate, then it is likely that they are taking advantage of you.

It is important to be aware of any warning signs that someone is using you. If you notice any of the signs mentioned above, it is best to reassess the relationship and determine if it is healthy or not.

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I don't know what to do because I still love and care for him but he keeps telling himself that he not the right person to be around

In NYC I've met the serial daters and figured out they had a different guy buying them dinner a few nights a week. Its expensive to date. And its hard for a guy to figure out if you like him or not or just using him. So from a guys POV who has dated a lot I'm more inclined to pay for dates later on vs upfront b/c upfront I'm also trying to figure if I like the girl enough to see her again also. Dinners can be upwards of $80 etc. That's a lot of $ for an exploratory date that likely won't end in marriage etc. Have to kiss a lot of frogs etc is the saying. So with the introduction of online dating and internet etc there is less and less up front due diligence / in person interaction. So it may not be that he's not into you he just may be skeptical or used to getting burned by female serial daters. Split the bill, keep everything casual so no feelings of getting taken advantage of on either side of the table. Unfortunately a lot of females abuse the "men should pay" cultural expectation which leads to long responses like this : ) trying to explain the other side pov frustration

jesus, reading the comments on here makes me cringe. some of you women are putting the rest of us 2 shame! dont get me wrong I bitch bout my boyfriend quite alot when hes bein a dick (being male this is a regular occurance) but I no he gets equally pissed off with me when im bein a complete bitch (being female quite a common occurence). at the end of the day if you truly love eachother and are emotionally as well as physically connected then it surely it must be worth it? I love my boyfriend 2 death, including his flaws and I wouldnt change him 4 the world xx

So if a man begins to act like the average female, then you need to break up with them immediately! Remember ladies, only you have the right to be the mooch in the relationship! What's the man going to do, threaten you with no sex? Puh-leez! That's your role! Remember, a relationship is only worth having if you can benefit financially from it!

I agree with what I just read but what if he wasn't like that. What if he did the opposite from it but still hurt you! He was nice, he listen to me when I was sad, he will always spend money on me and still looked at you like he loved you! When in reality he just broke my heart into pieces and told me it was over because college was just too much for him and a relationship was even more overwhelming in his life. But then a month later he ends up dating someone else and then you find out that while he was with you and did have time because you were away that he was sleeping with a good friend of yours.! What would you call that? I did everything he asked me to do and I believed and trusted him but now I have a hard time trusting and believing

I've been dating this person for nearly 2 months now He lives up the road from me&we go to the same collage. He asked me to meet up with,so I did, we became close since then.we got off off and then he finally asked me out after he walked me home from collage. Now he's just ignoring me. He's seeing skl my messages but won't reply. I've sent 22. He's replied 2 times. What do I do? X

Im dating this guy for 10 months before he was nice to me he even said he miss me and he always send heart emoji or kiss emoji and i thought that maybe hes genuinely realise now that its time that we get serious, so i trust him so much and i do miss him too, so we end up catching up i thought he gonna pick me up at the hotel but instead he let me walk and meet him in the bar and we did had a great night then he stayed in my hote the next morning he said i cant stay long day with you babe i have to work but it was weekend and he just leave me alone in the hotel he didnt even realise that i make an effort to see him then he just said lets meet in the night time

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