Do you always wait for guys to make the first move? You shouldn't. Guys love it when women approach them! And since we expect to be treated as equals, we shouldn't wait for men to do all the running. These are the reasons why men love it when women make the first move …
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1. It Shows You're Interested
Guys can be nervous about making a move because they don't know for sure that you'll be interested in them. But if you're the one to be bold and do the asking, they know for sure that you are! So if they like you, but they're too shy or uncertain to ask you out, you'll score major points - and a date.
2. Men Can Be Shy Too
Believe it or not, there are plenty of shy guys who don't fit the stereotype of men being brash and confident. Shy guys can be the best ones to date, but since they're too shy to approach you, they may not give you the chance to find that out! So by being the one to make that move, you're giving him the chance to get to know you.
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3. It's a Refreshing Change from Normal Expectations
It's kind of tiresome how we always expect men to be the ones to ask us out. Come on, girls, this is the 21st century! We're modern, confident women, so let's use that confidence. Guys will love it as well that they're not being automatically expected to do the asking.
4. Guys Love a Confident Woman
Many guys absolutely love a woman who's confident and prepared to go for what she wants (especially if she wants to get to know them!). If a guy is put off by it and thinks it's not her place to do the asking, would you really want to date someone with such an outdated attitude? A woman who knows her own mind, on the other hand, can be immensely appealing.
5. They're Afraid of Rejection
Yes, guys are afraid of rejection too. Nobody likes to risk being knocked back, so it can take a lot of courage for them to approach you and ask you out on a date, or even just get chatting to you. If you make the first move, you could be approaching one very happy and relieved guy!
6. They're Not Sure How to Approach You
Guys aren't born with the knowledge of how to ask a woman out, and they know full well that you might say no. Most guys are going to worry that they might mess it up. If you're the one to make the first move, you've immediately taken the heat off him. He knows that you're interested now, and doesn't have to decide how he should approach you.
7. It's Flattering
Having a woman make the first move is immensely flattering for a guy. She's saying 'Hey, I like you' - and who doesn't appreciate that? You're effectively telling him that something about him grabbed your attention, and that you'd like to get to know him more. What an ego boost that is!
So take a chance and make the first move when you like a guy! If you're afraid of being turned down, remember that guys face the possibility of rejection when they approach us. Have you ever met a guy under unusual circumstances?
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Travelgalxo: A guy will almost always cherish something he has to work for and sees value in. Be confident Ladies and the right guy who deserves your heart will try and earn it :)
Nathalie: I think I prefer to be hard to get. Approaching a guy yourself is like a being an easy prey.
Whit: Love this post. I ask my current boyfriend for his number & we are still together now.lol I seem something in him & Got the courage to ask him out. From that point on it's be smooth selling. That was my first time
Megan: I once had a guy tell me that he liked when the girl chases him, but as soon as I chased him he ran away! So I prefer to be old-fashioned, and let the 'man' make the first move.
Francesca: Nope, not going to do that. To get my attention takes initiative and shows that he's willing be go after me.
Ash: I kinda just realized, it's summer at the moment, how do we talk to our crush if were not at school or some other place revolving around work? I mean, I'm not complaining. I like this article but, it's kinda hard to go after this advise if you can't.
Neonindian86: What about when your a black girl and approach a white guy and you find out he isn't interested.
Isabella: Ladies, if it feels right, go for it! I did it myself and it was the best decision I've ever made.. And he was a shy guy when we first started going out. 4 years down the track and he is now my fiancé - I am all for making a move, have faith and be confident!!
Anna: Well maybe we should be the one to propose as well. It's not that easy if a guy hasn't made a move yet then it's probably because HE'S not interested. I've had experience where a guy has liked me but as soon as I told him that I liked him he ran the other way.
Rosy: He's crush on me, approach me everytime meet, texted and called me several times. He crushes on me. But how to make him to ask me out, plz give some ideas
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