Relationships take a lot of hard work - any mature adult will be able to tell you that with authority. A partnership evolves and changes over time, and it is up to the both of you to make sure that you can adapt as you go, and sometimes do things out of your comfort zone if you think that it will be good for you in the long run. Risk taking is vital in improving a relationship, so long as you agree to take the risks together! Here are seven **calculated risks to take together to strengthen your relationship. **
1. Sharing Fantasies
Get together and open up to one another about what your biggest sexual fantasies are. It’s risky in the sense that you don’t want to intimidate your partner or make them feel inadequate, but it can also bring you together more than ever if you find common ground and can start acting out some of the fantasies you have detailed. It takes your sexual connection to whole other level!
Maybe it’s time to move in together? There is only so far a relationship can go when you are living in separate places. Take the risk together and get a place to share; your bond will be so much stronger when you become a permanent fixture in each other’s everyday lives.
3. Couples Therapy
The thought of going to couples therapy is scary to some because they see it as the end of the road, but it’s absolutely not. It’s a safe space where you can go and work out important problems with the help of a professional who won’t let things get out of hand.
4. Starting a Family
Perhaps the biggest risk of all, but also the most rewarding! If you want until you feel 100% ready to start a family, then you never will, because the truth is it scares the hell out of everyone! It’s not until you start out on that journey together that you realise just how bonding it is.
Staying in the ‘dating’ stage can feel nice and safe, but at some stage you are going to have to have to discussion where you finally commit to one another. This doesn’t have to be in the form of a proposal necessarily, but more just a mature progression where both parties make it very clear that they are in this for the long haul!
6. Speaking up
You might think it risky to find the confidence to actually speak up about something that you aren’t happy with, but you can only make a relationship stronger by voicing your problems and opinions. How else will your partner know that it needs rectifying?
7. Joint Challenge
Put some fun and determination into things by committing to doing a joint challenge together. Climb a mountain, train for a marathon, anything that is going to require lots of shared training, and that will test your limits and bring you closer together for the shared experience.