If you have ever been in a long-term relationship, you will know that even the best ones take a lot of hard work and compromise. You tend to coast through on the honeymoon phase at the beginning, still excited to learn more about each other and still filled with that initial lust, but what about when that period is over? What about when you love someone but you seem to have lost that special spark that was there before? Here are six ways to keep the spark alive in your relationship.
1. Be Spontaneous
Try not to get too stuck in a routine with your partner because that is how things get boring and predictable. Indulge in surprise dinners every now and then, even something bigger like a surprise vacation. Just fun acts to show that you still have lots of affection for each other that can’t always be expressed in a routine and mundane way!
2. Date Nights
Keeping a regular date night is really important because it gives you something to look forward to and gets you out of the house that might have kids running around! It’s a time in the week when you can be together and just focus on your love for one another, hopefully with some delicious restaurant food to keep you going!
3. Be Selfless
Try to maintain that attitude of selflessness that you had at the start of the relationship. In some unfortunate cases people become more selfish once they have ‘secured’ a partner, thinking that that is the end of it, but in order to keep things going you need to be willing to give yourself and your time to them just like you were when you were dating.
4. Increase Intimacy
Of course, having sex is a big deal in a relationship, but that isn’t the only form of physical intimacy that you should be enjoying. Try to add lots of little touches into your daily life like massages, foot rubs, cuddles, hand holding, anything that can up the levels of intimacy outside of just the bedroom and keep a physical connection going.
5. Don’t Be Proud
You have to be willing to admit that you are wrong sometimes because the blame for relationship issues can’t always be put at the feet of your partner! If you don’t want them to withdraw from you, you need to be open and vulnerable and accept your portion of the blame in arguments. When they see they you can do that, their affection for you rises once again.
6. Hard Work
Just remember that relationships are hard work! If you get too comfortable and stop holding up your end of the bargain, the spark can disappear very quickly. Think about it as fuelling a fire of passion and love, if you stop doing the work, the fire will die out. A combination of all of the above tips will definitely go towards keeping your relationship strong.