Did you know that right up until the mid-1970s it was claimed that only men had sexual fantasies? Absurd right? Although it still seems a bit of a taboo to even suggest that women enjoy sex as much as men, female sexual liberty has come a long way since then. We might not openly discuss our sexual fantasies in the same way men ubiquitously joke about the threesome or girl on girl action, but we sure can dream about what turns us on. And the fantasies most common to girls are …
This is a classic. Haven’t we all thought about how hot it would be to make a connection with a perfect stranger and suddenly find yourself checking in to a hotel for a steamy night of unadulterated passion? There is something about the lack of inhibition that makes this scenario so popular and so exciting!
Some women who have never experienced sex with more than one person at a time will often fantasize about what it would be like to invite more people to the party! Whether it’s a threesome or foursome or fivesome or sixsome, the thought of getting down and dirty with multiple people is a classic turn on for some!
This fantasy often includes various dynamic scenarios, like being the center of attention or engaging in a more voyeuristic role where she watches others before joining in. The taboo nature of group sex, breaking away from societal norms, is particularly alluring, fuelling the fires of imagination. It's an escape into a world where sexual exploration knows no bounds and the traditional guidelines of intimacy are gleefully tossed aside. Safety and consent remain paramount, but within those confines, the possibilities for adventurous pleasure are nearly endless.
Another popular and common female fantasy is the idea of becoming the powerful one and taking over in terms of sexual dominance and decision-making. You might want to spank your man, or tie him up, or order him to perform certain acts, or all of the above. You do you!
It's all about reversing the traditional roles and exploring a different dynamic in the bedroom. For those curious to dip their toes into this fantasy, consider starting small with playful commands or light restraints. It's important, though, to have a candid conversation with your partner beforehand to ensure boundaries and safewords are established. Embrace your inner goddess as you take charge; whether it's with a confident glance or with authority in your voice, you might find this power exchange thrillingly liberating. It's a chance to express a part of yourself that might not always have the spotlight.
A fantasy that is becoming increasingly popular is the desire by a woman to be watched by multiple sets of eyes as she is having sex. This does not necessarily mean having sex with more than one person, but the feeling of being watched by others can be a real turn on for some.
The sense of being the center of attention and the thrill of potential exposure may add an exhilarating edge to the sexual experience. It's not just about the act itself; it's the charged atmosphere and the heightened awareness of one's own body and desires that can be so alluring. For many women, the thought of indulging in such a scenario remains strictly within the fantasy realm, where the safety of imagination permits exploration without risk. Others might find consensual opportunities to play out this exhibitionist dream in a controlled environment.
The 50 Shades phenomenon has made it much easier for women to express their fantasy of being dominated by a partner. The world of BDSM is no longer taboo, and women are now comfortable enough to admit that they want to be treated just as Anastasia Steele is treated by Mr. Grey!
The 50 Shades of Grey series, penned by E.L. James, has truly reshaped conversations around female sexual empowerment and desires anchored in power dynamics. The willingness to explore bondage and disciplinary scenarios reflects a broader cultural shift wherein women's sensual imaginations are liberated and validated. Ironically, through the exposition of such narratives, society witnesses an expansion of what is considered 'normal' in the bedroom. This ripple effect emboldens women to openly seek elements of control, surrender, and the thrilling interplay of dominance and submission in their own intimate experiences.
It’s a classic fantasy that many women have had: the desire to see what it would be like to be intimate with somebody of the same sex. Whether that is in a group setting or simply one on one, there is pretty much an entire pornography industry dedicated to the realization of first time woman on woman encounters!
Exploring a same-sex experience can be about more than just the physical; it's often a journey into personal sensuality and understanding one's own desires. For some, it represents a chance to break free from traditional boundaries and connect with femininity on a deeper level. It's a space where curiosity meets liberation, and the thrill of the unknown can lead to profound self-discovery. The fantasy isn't solely about the act itself, but about the freedom and intimacy that comes with expressing one's sexuality without judgement.
Another common fantasy for women is the thought of performing an act, whether it full sex or something like a lap dance, and then getting paid for their actions. This fantasy comes with a lot of feelings of empowerment.
Many women find the idea thrilling as it flips traditional power dynamics. The act of being desired so intensely that someone is willing to offer compensation transmits a strong sense of control and allure. Moreover, the taboo nature of such an exchange can heighten the excitement, turning an otherwise mundane act into forbidden fruit that is both tantalizing and transgressive.
The majority of threesomes you see in TV and movies usually involve one guy and two women, but lots of women actually fantasize about switching it up and having two men to enjoy all to themselves!
In these scenarios, the attention is lavishly split between passion and power as both men cater to her desires. For some women, it's the ultimate form of pampering, where she can relinquish control and indulge in the sensory overload. It's not just about the physical pleasure, but also the psychological thrill of being the focal point of such intense desire. Communication and consent are key, as this fantasy often requires a high level of trust and clear boundaries to ensure a safe and enjoyable experience for all involved.
Without a doubt one of the most popular fantasies women have is the idea of switching positions with the partner and ‘being the man’ for a night. With a simple strap-on toy, you can gain all the power and swap up the sexual dynamic in a really fun way!
Exploring this fantasy allows for the exploration of role reversal and power play, leading to a thrilling change of pace and enhanced intimacy. By adopting this atypical dynamic, women can experience a sense of dominance and control that is often considered taboo. The intrigue of stepping into a more assertive role sexually can be liberating and totally titillating. Plus, it's a cheeky way to introduce variety into the bedroom, keeping the flames of passion burning bright. Just remember, clear communication and consent are key to enjoying this shared adventure.
Phrases like “rape fantasy” are something that I’m firmly staying away from, but there is no doubt that millions of women around the world fantasize about their partners taking more of an aggressive approach to love making, with things like being pushed up against a wall, hands held over their head etc, being very popular turn ons!
So you aren’t a freak or strange for having a sexual fantasy or fantasies. It’s healthy and normal!