10 Clear Signs You Need a Break from the Dating Scene ...

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10 Clear Signs You Need a Break from the Dating Scene ...
10 Clear Signs You Need a Break from the Dating Scene ...

Being single is nothing to be afraid of. It can actually be very useful to spend time away from relationships, as it gives you time to focus on yourself. Taking time out from dating can also be beneficial if you're continually falling for guys who don't make you happy. So is it time to take a break from dating? Here's how to tell …

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1. You Keep Making the Same Mistake, over and over

Are you constantly making the same mistake in every relationship? Do you drive boyfriends away because you're too needy, keep falling for guys who are looking for very different things than you, or are you unwilling to make the necessary compromises? If you keep making the same mistakes every single time, then you could do with some time out from dating.

2. You're Never Single for Five Minutes!

Have you ever heard of the phrase 'serial monogamist'? It's someone who goes from one relationship to another with scarcely a break in between. Some people have one relationship after another because they don't like being single, but whatever the reason for it some time alone can be very healthy. There's no sense in being in a relationship just for the sake of it.

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3. Your Relationships Are Never Really Happy

It's good - indeed, necessary - to be committed to a relationship and want to make it work. But if your relationships don't actually make you happy, then what is the point of them? It's far better to stop wasting your time and that of your partner, and stay single until you find the right relationship.

4. You Need to Work on Yourself

Taking time out from relationships can also help you grow as a person. It gives you the space to learn about yourself and what you need out of life. It also allows you to work on being able to bring more to a relationship (it's not all one-sided!). The more mature and fulfilled you are, the greater likelihood of your relationship working.

5. You Need to Focus Your Attention on Other Things

There are times in our lives when we just don't have the time and energy a relationship requires. If you have other demands such as studies or really need to focus on your career, then it could be wise to rule out dating for a while. Sometimes we just have other priorities.

6. You've Had Your Heart Broken

It's also really good to avoid rushing into another relationship if you've just had your heart broken. We can jump into a rebound relationship as a way of proving to ourselves that we're still desirable. But it's really wise to take time out to grieve the loss of the last relationship before starting another one.

7. You're Afraid to Be Single

Paradoxically, if you hate the idea of being single then being single could be exactly what you need. People often fear that they will be lonely if they don't have a partner, or that it means they're not attractive enough to anyone. But that's not a very healthy foundation for a relationship, so learn not to be afraid of those times in your life when you're single.

Have you spent more time in relationships than on your own? What do you think are the best things about being single?

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Been tremendously taken advantage of in my two previous relationships :( I'm using this time to heal

It's hard but I'll get through this like I always do :)

Hectic.

I've had my heart broken so many times and I've just had enough in having some 'space' away from this guy who I really like but he says he just wants to be 'good friends' and take things slow? Which I'm okay with but I need someone who will be there for me

I'm giving him and myself time away to work on what we both want.

Cause I can't be intimate with someone who just doesn't see himself with me,

Thank you for the advice ! :) I'm not texting calling or messaging him so it's really up to him to decide if he wants me or not, but i don't know if I should talk to him on Wednesday just for a 'chat'? What do you guys think?

Not someone who wants to be intimate without the label

Wow this really opened my eyes! I'm a serial monogamist!!! I'll stay single as long as I can, I need to get to know myself instead of these guys