If your past relationships were full of games and deceit, you might bring baggage from the past into the present. But if you want to move forward with someone and have a long, solid relationship, it's important that you recognize a good thing. Here's a look at seven signs that you're in a mature, healthy relationship.
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1. You Rarely Argue
Every couple has arguments. You are two different people with two different opinions and viewpoints. However, if you notice that arguments in your current relationship are few and far in-between, this is a sign that you're finally in a mature, healthy relationship with someone who doesn’t nitpick or stir up unnecessary drama.
2. Your Arguments Are Easily Resolved
Not only do you fight less in this relationship, when arguments or disagreements occur, you’re able to handle them like mature individuals. Instead of yelling and talking over each other, you give yourself time to calm down and express how you feel without belittling the other person.
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3. You Trust Each Other
In the past, maybe you didn't trust your partner. Maybe you were cheated on, or perhaps your partner was a habitual liar. If you absolutely, 100% trust the person you're with, this is a good sign that the relationship is moving in the right direction. You don't feel a need to go through your partner’s cell phone or emails to make sure he's being honest, nor do you feel the need to question his whereabouts every second of the day.
4. You Give Each Other Space
Some partners are extremely clingy and want to be together every minute of the day. Everyone needs space. As you become older and start establishing mature relationships, you'll understand the importance of giving your partner space, and taking space for yourself. You have a life outside the relationship, so don’t feel bad about hanging out with your friends or family alone, or exploring personal interests.
5. You Know How to Communicate
Good communication is important in any relationship. Now that you're in a mature, healthy relationship, you and your partner communicate in a way that builds each other up and strengthens the relationship. There's no name-calling or belittling. If you learn that your partner doesn't like the way you talk to him, you make an effort to change the behavior.
6. You Bring out the Best in Each Other
Another sign of a good, healthy relationship is bringing out the best in each other. Your partner might motivate you to follow your paths and dreams, and you might give him support or encouragement when he's feeling down. When it's all said and done, you want to be the best girlfriend.
7. He Puts Your Needs Ahead of His Own
A selfish, one-sided relationship isn't healthy or mature. If you think about your partner’s feelings more than yours, and if you’re more than happy to put his needs ahead of your own and vice versa, the relationship will likely get stronger and you'll become a closer couple. Relationships don't work when people only care about their needs.
Hopping from boyfriend to boyfriend gets exhausting, and you might prefer a long-term committed relationship. If you haven't had much success in the past, be confident that your prince charming is around the corner.
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Sassy121: Yeah def agree. Some friends say that is up to their partner to make them happy. In a healthy happy relationship it is a two way street.
Kirsty: Glad to be reading the rarely argue part. Most people say if you never argue you're basically doomed to fail. I will never understand their logic. I think if the communication and trust is there then there is no need to argue at all
Zeekiah: Immature people is kinda exhausting to be with.
Wins: That's realistic and true
Kameron: Wish I could say these things about my relationship
Laraw: I've been married 21 years and have to say this is so idealistic. And probably written by someone who hasn't been married or is only in the first few years of it. I digress. You will fight, you will have moods, you will hate each other at times. Marriage is real it has ups and downs, it goes through hardships probably works its way through every vow you made at the wedding as well. What makes marriage work ? Gumption and the belief that you two are bigger than any problem life throws at you. And the assumption that your vows were made to last. There is no get out clause. I'm saying this as a wife who has never suffered mental or physical abuse, obviously that is a different situation. I know my hubby is the one because I cannot imagine life without him. It would be like losing an arm or a leg. I need him just as much as I need my extremities !!! Year 22 coming on ...
Jess: This is me and my husband to a tee! I swear we were made for each other because it's perfect! We never fight. Trust each other completely and we never suffocate each other! This is a good read!
Splashhhh: Trust trust and honesty if its not in a relashionship its garbage
The: My relationship with my boyfriend is getting better and it is exactly like this
Mikayla: Definitely agree with this. My grandparents were together 35 years and had only one argument because they had great communication, trusted each other, had their own hobbies, and my grandpa always made sure my grandma was happy. My relationship is the same
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