Sometimes you’re with a man that doesn’t treat you as well as he should. This is a hard place to be. I understand because I’ve been there. I’ve was once with someone who had several of these personality traits but I can now tell you that a healthy relationship doesn’t have any of these issues. Dump your boyfriend if he has any of these traits, pronto!
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1. He’s Controlling
Healthy relationships are ones where neither party tries to control the other. If your boyfriend is controlling, that’s not a good thing. He should never try to control who you talk to or how long you’re away somewhere. He may have a dominant personality and enjoy taking the initiative in making plans for the two of you and that’s different. But true love gives freedom to make your own choices.
2. He’s Violent when He’s Angry
My heart hurts thinking about some of you that may be with a man like this. If you’re with a man that’s violent when he’s angry then you need to get away now. This stands even if he’s never been violent toward you. His temper could quickly turn. A man that’s violent when angry has anger management issues and that’s a red flag telling you there's potential for abuse.
3. He’s Outlandishly Flirtatious
You have to be careful here not to mistake friendliness for flirtatiousness. What you don’t want to see is your boyfriend is all over other women in front of you. He seems to undress other women with his eyes. He makes inappropriate comments such as telling another woman he’d love to take her out in front of you. This sort of outlandish flirting should have you dumping him STAT.
4. He Stays Lost in Self-Pity
We all have days where we feel sorry for ourselves. Life can get you down. But if you’re dating a man that’s stuck in self-pity and sees himself as always being the victim, no matter the situation, that’s not a good thing. Each of us needs to be able to take responsibility in our lives. A guy with a victim mentality doesn’t have a bright future.
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When every hiccup in life is deemed as a personal attack, it becomes a draining experience for any partner. Worse yet is when these tendencies spiral into constantly blaming others for his troubles, never acknowledging his own role in his misfortunes. It's crucial for a healthy relationship to consist of two individuals who confront challenges head-on and grow from them rather than wallow in perpetual discontent. Growth is pivotal, and without it, you're signing up for a partnership that's more of a one-sided emotional labor than a mutual journey.
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5. He’s Self-Centered
The fact that he wants to go golfing or to shoot pool every Saturday instead of hitting the mall with you doesn’t make him self-centered; it makes him a normal guy. What you want to be on the lookout for is a guy that never thinks of you or does thoughtful things to show he cares. He’s out for himself in every way. You have to ask yourself if you want a future with a guy like this. You deserve someone who loves you truly and wants what’s best for you. It’s okay to think of your own needs in a relationship but you should also think of your partner.
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6. He Belittles You
If a man belittles you, kick him to the curb! Never tolerate a man that talks down to you or speaks to you in a degrading way. You’re better than that. Losing a boyfriend like this is no loss, ladies. Wait for the man who loves you and will treat you like a princess.
7. He Has a Major Problem with Jealousy
A little jealousy is cute. It shows that your boyfriend cares. Problem jealousy is over-the-top and senseless. It’s the kind where you can’t walk in a gas station and buy a soda without your boyfriend flipping out when a male cashier rings you up. If your boyfriend is like this, kick him to the curb.
These are 7 personality traits that you should dump your boyfriend over. Are you in a difficult relationship? I hope this article offers you encouragement to find a man who values you for the wonderful person you are!
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Amy: Jessica Lowndes!
Sharon: I noticed it on time, but it doesn't make it easier!
peony: the Number of women I know who stay on violent relationships freaks me out. I don't get it. Have some love for yourself as a human being and leave. And it is not easy to say. We have things in place to look after women faced with such madness. In countries where violence against women is seen as nothing even there women would escape violent partners if they could. So please let's not love men who are violent in any way shape or form.
Natalia: Is hard to leave someone liked that specially if there is kids but you can do it
Ash: I do not agree with number two. If he's extremely violent when he's mad, this is probably not a good sign for his mental health and, would make the situation even worse if his girlfriend broke up with him in the process.
Maryana: Wish I saw this sooner, I was with a guy for a year and in that year I changed. I would cuss, be negative, impatient. Everyone told me I wasn't ever allowed to do anything I wanted because of him. And still to this day I get messages saying "if I can't have you no one can" but just like my mom said if he does anything what can you do, nothing. It's his action he will take and I can only stay positive and not be scared and hide in my house my whole life. He was very aggressive. Tip: make you you know someone as a friend for at least a year and then take the leap to be in a relationship. ANYONE can easily fake a personality and once they have you become someone different.
Zelig: Well what if some of these personality traits showed up over time in a woman too .. There is always 2 sides to a coin! This goes for a woman too!
N8alie: I don't have a boyfriend T-T
mojo: It's hard to see it when you're experiencing it first hand. But this is a great list to start recognizing the signs. No one should ever make you feel this way. Remember that always!
Bobbie: Ladies, run if you are with a man with even one if these issues. You will never be happy
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