Sex should be pleasurable. It should make you smile and feel happy. It should make you feel closer to your partner and strengthen your emotional and physical bond. But when sex is bad, it sucks in so many ways. But women don’t have to just lie back and think of England anymore. We have the right to good sex. Good sex is good for us, our partner and our relationship. Don’t put up with bad sex – do something about it.
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1. Give Him Options
One way of how to tell him he’s lousy in bed without really hurting his feelings is to give him some options and ideas yourself that might help him to give you (and him) a better experience. A man’s sexual ego can be a very fragile thing, so the best way to get around is to encourage him to do more without letting on that what he is already doing is not great at all!
2. Verbal Encouragement
You can sort of guide him to the right actions by verbally encouraging when he starts to do something that you actually enjoy. The more you tell him that its feels great when he does ‘that’, the more he will do it! Sometimes guys like a little feedback with regards to which of their moves makes women feel good, so don’t be afraid to voice your opinions and guide him towards giving you more pleasure!
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3. Take Control
Hey, if what he’s doing isn’t doing it for you, then it’s time to mix things up and take control in order to guide the love making in a direction that pleases you as much as it pleases him. Hopefully he will be perceptive and pick up on what makes you hot and bothered and he can learn for future reference what parts of your sex life are your favorite and what parts you skipped all together! Also, it’s good for you to take turns in control; sexual equality for all!
4. Try Different Positions
If you tend to stick just to boring old missionary then there is a chance that your lack of enjoyment is stemming from boredom and the fact that your sex life has gone a bit stale. I’m not saying get the Karma Sutra out, but it can be fun and invigorating to try out a few different positions every now and then to spice it up a little bit. You never know, you might discover a position that hits the spot better than any other and your problems could be solved!
5. Be Reassuring
If your partner is perceptive and has picked up on the fact that you are not enjoying the sex as much as he is, then sit him down and reassure him that this is not a problem that cannot be fixed. Sex and the enjoyment of it is all about exploration and fun so don’t let him be disheartened. Suggest to him that you want to try some different things out to see if you can increase your mutual pleasure.
6. Don’t Fake It
No matter how sorry you feel for him, you should never fake it. Faking it gives your partner a false sense of satisfaction with regard to his sexual ability, and if you want to rectify the situation you have to let him see that he is not quite getting you there and must try harder to bring you ultimate pleasure.
7. Give Him Ideas
Get your juices flowing by telling him some of your biggest sexual fantasies. Guiding him in the right direction will definitely help you to feel greater pleasure and he will be grateful that you trusted him enough to open up like that and he will also love that you have chosen him to be a part of your deepest fantasies.
It’s a tricky subject but bad sex doesn’t get better unless you do something about it. Have you ever been in a relationship where the sex sucks? How did you deal?
Comments
Wendy: Practice
Katie: The worst is when they don't try. I hate it when men think that their pleasure is the only thing that matters.
Tiffany: He struggled with first time nerves for awhile, but when he got over it out sex life improved immensely
BrittanyBAKER: Bad sex is the worst!
Angela: When us girls go on Snapchat while having sex, you already know you are doing something wrong while having sex.
Lisa: This is difficult to deal with
Jessica: I used to fake it with my ex sometimes, the one time I was honest he threw a hissy fit... (hes my ex for a reason :P)
Sabra: He never tells me when he's going to come! He just does it like bing badda bam! I'm usually not ready so end up feeling disappointed after sex.
RhondaJames: God forbid the man who doesn't look after my interests as well as his own.
Moriano: Sometimes you gotta fake it to you make it
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