10 Tips ๐Ÿ“ถ on How to Turn Friends with Benefits ๐Ÿ’ into a Relationship ๐Ÿ’– ...

Most of us have had it happen at least once in our lifetimes. You become friends with a guy, and everything seems to be pretty platonic. But somewhere along the way, you both stop and notice that youโ€™re attracted to each other. Now what? How to turn friends with benefits into a relationship?

However, neither of you are looking for something serious. But as time goes on, it happens. That dreaded thing- you catch feelings that go beyond the casual sex youโ€™re used to. โ€œWhat happens now?โ€ you think.

Well, here are 10 things to do if you think youโ€™re ready to take your FWB situation to relationship status.

1. Go out in Small Groups to Start

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Chances are, asking him to spend time one-on-one might scare him off, especially if itโ€™s something you're not used to. Spending time as part of a small group of three or four is a good idea and one of the best ways to take your friends with benefits relationship to the next level. You might even want to invite some of your couple friends with you to set the mood.

2. Spend Time outside the Bedroom

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This doesnโ€™t mean that you have to have a candlelit dinner for two. However, if you are friends, casually grabbing a coffee or something to eat shouldnโ€™t be seen as a big deal. Itโ€™s about the amount of time you spend with him at this point. You can worry about the quality of that time later on.

3. Stop Talking about Other People

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If youโ€™re both used to talking about how great your experiences are with other people, stop doing so. Besides, if you really want him to yourself, chances are you arenโ€™t going to be thinking too much about other people anyway. You might even want to subtly steer him away from that topic the next time you two talk.

4. But Let Him Know Youโ€™re Desirable

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Ah, the art of chasing and being chased. Difficult to master, isnโ€™t it? But if done to the right extent, it can be life-changingโ€ฆor in this case, relationship changing. Donโ€™t talk about other experiences, but mention the last guy who asked you out. Itโ€™ll make him know youโ€™re not just his to have.

5. Text More Oftenโ€ฆand NOT about the Next Hookup

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The point is to steer away from the topic of just the physical. As part of every healthy relationship, physicality is involved, but it doesnโ€™t have to mean sex right away. Spend time texting just to say โ€œheyโ€ or talk about a show you both follow. It doesnโ€™t have to be anything big, just something to let him know the next fling is not the only thing on your mind.

6. Talk before and after

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Most naturally flowing conversations start out casual and can build slowly into something better. But for a second, consider getting away from the small talk. If youโ€™re used to just getting in a room and getting it over with, thereโ€™s no time in between to get to know the person that well. Even if he is already your friend, thereโ€™s definitely more to learn about him.

7. Make the โ€œduringโ€ More Meaningful

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Since you probably wonโ€™t stop right away, itโ€™s a good idea to make what youโ€™re doing have a deeper meaning to it instead of just immediate satisfaction. Spend time on what youโ€™re doing (whatever youโ€™re doing.) Make it an expression of how you really feel.

8. Donโ€™t Be at His Beck and Call

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This one is All. About. Power. To you, of course! You donโ€™t want to make him think he's in control of your little rendezvous. Make up an excuse. Say youโ€™re busy. Maybe itโ€™s work or youโ€™re out with friends or you just respond a couple of hours late. Whatever it is, make him know heโ€™s not in charge.

9. Express How You Feel

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While this may seem scary, it is perhaps the only option you have left after youโ€™ve exhausted the others. Or maybe youโ€™ve just really wanted to be in a relationship with him for a while. If so, donโ€™t be afraid to express that you have developed real feelings for him.

10. If It Doesnโ€™t Work, You Can End It

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No matter what, donโ€™t EVER feel pressured into keeping your FWB situation going if youโ€™re no longer interested in it or if you're just not comfortable anymore. You have the right to make your own decisions about your body and your love life. Never feel like you โ€œhave toโ€ just because youโ€™re used to it.

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