How to Win the Breakup ...

By Holly • Jan 17, 2019

When you separate from your partner, there's a common desire to try to "win" the breakup. Even after you and your ex are no longer together, the urge to impress him doesn't go away. In fact, it gets stronger. After all, if you "win" the breakup, then your ex will feel like a fool for letting you get away. Love shouldn't be a competition, but if you have your heart set on "winning" the breakup, then here are a few ways you can do so:

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1. Never Drunk Text Him

It's normal to miss your ex, but you should refrain from drunk texting him. If you send him sloppy messages about how you wish things would've worked out, then he could lose respect for you. One drunk text could ruin your chances of "winning" the breakup, so stay sober (or at least keep your phone far away) if you want to keep your dignity.

2. Let Him See You Happy

Maybe your day at the beach with your friends is the only time you've been out of the house all month, but he doesn't need to know that. If you post pictures of yourself smiling in your bathing suit, then he'll assume you've been having the time of your life without him.

3. Don't Badmouth Him

Even if your ex did something low like cheat on you, you shouldn't stoop to his level. You need to act maturely if you want to "win" the breakup. That means you shouldn't spread rumors about him. No one but your close friends need to know the details of your split, so take the high road by keeping your comments to yourself.

4. Get a New Look

When you bump into your ex, you want his jaw to drop. The best way to do that is by buying new clothes, getting a haircut, or getting in shape. Do whatever you can to make him wonder why he broke up with you in the first place.

If you're looking to engage your partner in intriguing conversations, why not try some hypothetical questions for couples? These fun queries will not only keep the conversation lively but also stimulate deep thoughts and potentially reveal insights about each other's personality and thought processes.

5. Do Something Productive

If you can't impress him with your new look, then you should impress him with your intelligence. Take up a new hobby, like learning how to play the guitar, or try hard to get a promotion at work. Once you succeed, make sure to tell him all about your accomplishments when you run into him. Your success will make him question all of his life decisions.

6. Don't Get Revenge

Don't key your ex's car or burn the clothing he left at your house. Don't stalk him on social media, either. You might think that those things are helping you get closure, but they're only going to make you feel worse about yourself.

7. Be Happy on Your Own

The ultimate key to "winning" the breakup is to be happy with your life. Even if you never see him again, and he never sees what an amazing life you've led, at least you know how you feel. He might not know that you've "won" the breakup, but you'll know it, and that's all that matters.

At the end of the day, it's important for both you and your ex to be happier apart than you were together. That way, you'll know that the breakup was the right thing to do. Do you feel like you've "won" your latest breakup?

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  • Kerry

    2015-10-08T01:39:28.358Z

    I am mad. I had just ended a difficult relationship 3 years ago. I met a person who seemed to be a friend only. but they kept persuing me. I realized they were involved in some things I couldn't handle, and I see their life and mine could not coexist. I blocked his numbers out of my phone. Some lifestyles cant mix. it doesn't matter how many makeovers you get. it just doesn't work out. I am a little disappointed by this. You cannot change another human being. If you have different places you are going in life, you cant change that. but it is not easy!!!!! I will not get a new dress and walk by him, it will be back to the same thing. I am DONE. Add comment
  • Selina

    2018-01-04T03:28:43.240Z

    @Rebecah Celeste yesssss! 🙌🏽💯💪🏽
  • Kimberly

    2015-10-04T16:32:13.349Z

    Great advice for every doll out there
  • Kayla

    2015-10-04T15:49:24.891Z

    Get hot and "accidently" bump into so he can see you
  • Rebecah

    2017-07-14T03:09:28.012Z

    coconut oil, face masks, meditation and friends are all we need to over come this.
  • Rebecah

    2017-07-14T03:08:57.441Z

    girls were all hot as fuck, show them WE DONT NEED THEM. we're still stuck on the mentality that they're the only ones we need and want in order to be happy and it isn't true. There is so many guys out there willing to treat us how we deserve and love us
  • Sashna

    2016-12-06T16:58:03.715Z

    I was with someone for 7 years. He broke up with me I became a flight attendant. That kept me busy and I forgot about him. 5 years later he finds out and asks me to marry him. 😂 no chance and I won!
  • Sarah

    2016-12-29T01:22:05.528Z

    But what if he wants to stay friends and refuses to acknowledge that the relationship happened unless you're really obviously upset by it...  That makes it kind of difficult to move on...
  • Cheryl

    2015-10-07T21:36:41.162Z

    Good article. Ladies - i agree - revitalize yourselves after a breakup - it's a powerful feeling to give you back your self confidence. Keep yourselves busy so there is less chance of contacting your ex. Remember that when one door closes, another opens.
  • Rebecah

    2017-07-14T03:09:54.431Z

    and maybe finding a cute guy to get our mind off of it even if we think we can't get someone better or we don't want anyone
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