When you separate from your partner, there's a common desire to try to "win" the breakup. Even after you and your ex are no longer together, the urge to impress him doesn't go away. In fact, it gets stronger. After all, if you "win" the breakup, then your ex will feel like a fool for letting you get away. Love shouldn't be a competition, but if you have your heart set on "winning" the breakup, then here are a few ways you can do so:
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1. Never Drunk Text Him
It's normal to miss your ex, but you should refrain from drunk texting him. If you send him sloppy messages about how you wish things would've worked out, then he could lose respect for you. One drunk text could ruin your chances of "winning" the breakup, so stay sober (or at least keep your phone far away) if you want to keep your dignity.
2. Let Him See You Happy
Maybe your day at the beach with your friends is the only time you've been out of the house all month, but he doesn't need to know that. If you post pictures of yourself smiling in your bathing suit, then he'll assume you've been having the time of your life without him.
3. Don't Badmouth Him
Even if your ex did something low like cheat on you, you shouldn't stoop to his level. You need to act maturely if you want to "win" the breakup. That means you shouldn't spread rumors about him. No one but your close friends need to know the details of your split, so take the high road by keeping your comments to yourself.
4. Get a New Look
When you bump into your ex, you want his jaw to drop. The best way to do that is by buying new clothes, getting a haircut, or getting in shape. Do whatever you can to make him wonder why he broke up with you in the first place.
If you're looking to engage your partner in intriguing conversations, why not try some hypothetical questions for couples? These fun queries will not only keep the conversation lively but also stimulate deep thoughts and potentially reveal insights about each other's personality and thought processes.
5. Do Something Productive
If you can't impress him with your new look, then you should impress him with your intelligence. Take up a new hobby, like learning how to play the guitar, or try hard to get a promotion at work. Once you succeed, make sure to tell him all about your accomplishments when you run into him. Your success will make him question all of his life decisions.
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6. Don't Get Revenge
Don't key your ex's car or burn the clothing he left at your house. Don't stalk him on social media, either. You might think that those things are helping you get closure, but they're only going to make you feel worse about yourself.
7. Be Happy on Your Own
The ultimate key to "winning" the breakup is to be happy with your life. Even if you never see him again, and he never sees what an amazing life you've led, at least you know how you feel. He might not know that you've "won" the breakup, but you'll know it, and that's all that matters.
At the end of the day, it's important for both you and your ex to be happier apart than you were together. That way, you'll know that the breakup was the right thing to do. Do you feel like you've "won" your latest breakup?
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Lizzie: I was in a two year relationship he cheated on me and I am so in love with him now he is with the girl he cheated on me for and he loves her more than he loves me my heart is broken
Rebecah: the way we deserve.
Kimberly: Great advice for every doll out there
AjM: Thanks Holly! I really needed this, currently going through a breakup :'(
Rebecah: we can do this ❤️
Sarah: But what if he wants to stay friends and refuses to acknowledge that the relationship happened unless you're really obviously upset by it... That makes it kind of difficult to move on...
andiena: I am still struggle with my latest break up im still trying to forgive my self I was texting him to let him know about his project that we worked on, but he didnt reply It made me feel worst, i dont know i keep blaming my self for texting him but i did bc of the project? , i dont know what should i do to overcome this feeling
Sashna: I was with someone for 7 years. He broke up with me I became a flight attendant. That kept me busy and I forgot about him. 5 years later he finds out and asks me to marry him. 😂 no chance and I won!
Rebecah: and maybe finding a cute guy to get our mind off of it even if we think we can't get someone better or we don't want anyone
Cheryl: Good article. Ladies - i agree - revitalize yourselves after a breakup - it's a powerful feeling to give you back your self confidence. Keep yourselves busy so there is less chance of contacting your ex. Remember that when one door closes, another opens.
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