I'm Bad at Expressing My Emotions You Should Know That before Dating Me ...

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I'm Bad at Expressing My Emotions  You Should Know That before Dating Me ...
I'm Bad at Expressing My Emotions  You Should Know That before Dating Me ...

I own up to it, I'm really bad at expressing my emotions. My mom and dad are fabulous parents, however, in my house, we didn't express anything. We skirted around the issues, we didn't deal with them head-on. To my surprise, when I got married to a girl, I had to learn to deal with my emotions and start to express them. She pushed me, pressed me and gently coaxed me into feeling more comfortable and getting to know how I feel and what I feel. It was good but hard – if you are a girl like me, still bad at expressing emotions, don't worry, I got you.

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1

I Might Come off Cold

Relate? Sometimes, I would come off as really cold. Sometimes, I would sink down into a coldness or distance that would make my now-wife feel as though I hated her. It wasn't hate, ever, it was just that I didn't know how to express myself in an easy way.

2

Don't Start Fights over Non-existent Tension

There is never tension but it can seem like there is sometimes. There can even seem like there is a huge vibe in the air when really, there isn't. Trust me, there isn't anything wrong, we are just processing or we are completely fine but we can't admit to that.

3

I Won't Make the First Move

Nope. I can't. It's almost like I am frozen in space and time and I can't make the first move. Keep that in mind! Sometimes, you might need to push a little bit and make the first move.

4

I'm Not Being Dishonest

I'm never dishonest but again, that coldness and that distance creep the hell up on you and it can feel as though I'm lying about something. You girls ever feel like that? This again isn't something that I can help. I am being honest, it's just I can't express my feelings correctly all the time.

5

Sometimes, I Need a Distraction

In the beginning, it might seem like I am just distracted, but truth be told, I need it, especially if I feel like you are getting too close. It helps keep me in check and keep me sane.

6

It's a Big Deal when I Open up

Trust me, it's a huge, huge deal whenever I open up. It isn't something that comes natural and when I do it, it's huge. Keep that in mind if I am telling you about my past or something important.

7

Awkward Jokes Are a Thing

It happens. I will joke when I can't deal with my emotions and they might be at the worst time. I also won't apologize fro it, but as I get more comfortable, it'll be better. It'll also stop. This might happen the first time that I meet your family or the first time that we go out.

So, now that you know the ground rules, would you want to date me? Would you be patient with me? That's all it will take is a bit of patience and some understanding.

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@Dkdaisybutters seldom we find men who know or able to express themselves and it's good when they become aware of this.

I can completely relate myself to this :(

@Gaby_ i think if one can realy open up about herself or himself, complications within a relatinship can be avoided.

Yeah sounds like a true Virgo ... man ... so tough dating them...

Oh man sounds like a Virgo lol

I'm exactly like this. Dating was not easy for me, luckily I found someone with whom I can be myself.

It's good you recognize these things about yourself..I'm with somebody just like this but when we figured out how to mesh better it is well worth it.Need somebody who won't change you and accepts you and helps you grow.Somebody confident in themselves.

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