Perhaps you just went on an amazing date and are looking for some tips for a second date, and even a third! Dating is such a trial and error issue that when we find someone we like, we don’t want to ruin anything! Trust me, I’ve been there, and I’ve got some awesome tips for a second date if you need some help with this area in your own life.
1. Don’t Talk about Yourself Too Much
One of the most important tips for a second date is not to talk too much about yourself on your first date. I’ve made this mistake before out of nervousness, and it’s not one to follow, trust me. You should talk throughout the night, but when your date asks you a question, don’t answer him with a paragraph statement. A simple answer and short explanation is fine. Better yet, ask him something in return and allow him to talk. It’s best to show you’re balanced on a date, and not telling your first date your life story is a great way to play it safe and ensure a second date.
2. Be Yourself
Everyone says this, but people still often overlook the importance of being yourself on a first date. Don’t feel like you need to be someone you’re not for your date. Doing so will only backfire, I promise. It’s much better to be yourself. If he doesn’t like it, then his loss! Besides, if you act like someone else on your first date, you're forced to the same on your second date, or you risk being exposed. You deserve to be comfortable, relaxed and happy around someone, and you can only do that long term if you’re yourself. Plus, you’ll be much better at it as a bonus!
3. Use Etiquette
While I hate to be all prim and proper, I have to tell you that etiquette skills are important. Simple things like wiping your mouth with your napkin, chewing your food with your mouth closed and not slurping through a straw are all ladylike things that don’t take a lot of skills. Respect yourself and your date enough to act like a female when you’re out in public. First impressions are everything! A good first impression can also lead to a great second date.
If you go out to dinner with someone, it’s fine to order something healthy, but don’t eat so little, or not eat at all. Your date will automatically think you’re diet obsessed, and this is a big turn off for guys. It’s much better to order something healthy, and not send the waiter back with 20 directions on how to fix your food the way you like it.
5. Ask Questions
While you don’t have to be nosy, do be sure you ask your date questions. Simple things like where they work, what they enjoy about their job, what things like enjoy doing when they’re off, etc. These are all great things to ask in general conversation. You shouldn’t necessarily make a list, but feel free to ask them whenever you’re talking about each other, or when there is an awkward silence. It might help break down some barriers, and take away the nervousness both of you have. When you get to your next date, you can open up a bit more- and you have a better shot at a second date if you've shown interest during the first one.
6. Be Honest
One thing to be sure you do on any date is be honest. Whether your date is asking you something about you, or asking you what movie you want to see, or what restaurant you like, be honest. You should be able to tell your date if you hate Mexican food, even if it’s his favorite! I promise he’ll appreciate your honesty and boldness in the long run, and it won't keep him from asking you out again.
7. Do Not Call Afterwards
Don’t call your date when you get home, or even the next day. I know you’re dying to hear from them, but let them do the work. Believe it or not, while guys don’t like girls that play extremely hard to get, they hate needy girls much worse. If you haven’t heard anything by day two after your date, then feel free to text them and say you had a good time, and you hope they are having a good week. This lets them know you’re interested, but not needy and overbearing. If they’re not respondent after this, take it as a sign they just didn’t feel the same way as you and that a second date is not in the works.
Getting a second date isn’t about what you wear (though you should dress appropriately) or how much money you make. These tips above are some of the best ways to get a second date, and remember, it takes two people to want a second date. If your date doesn’t want to go out again after you've been yourself, respect their decision and move on to someone who will! Do you have a great tip for scoring a second date?