7 One-Night Stand Tips Every Woman Should Know

Don't Creep • Know Your Intentions • Be Safe • Stay in Touch • Be Open • More ...

7 One-Night Stand Tips Every Woman Should Know
By Lyndsie • Aug 31, 2011 MD

One night stand tips come in handy in a variety of situations. However, I need to clear something up right now: these one night stand tips aren't just detailing how you can have one, but rather how you can cope afterward. I won't say one night stands happen to all of us, but they do happen to a lot of us. I want to go on record saying this, too: you don't have to feel ashamed of yourself. Even if you initially feel shame, just realize that this happens to a lot of women, some purposely and some accidentally, so you aren't alone and you don't need to feel sick, sorry, or ashamed. Don't believe me? Then see what you think about reading these practical one night stand tips. To better understand modern dating dynamics, you might find it helpful to explore signs you're ready for a relationship.

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1. Don't Creep

The number one tip is this: don't go looking for a one night stand when you're in a relationship. If you've got an open relationship, that's one thing, but if you and your partner are monogamous, then this is just bad business. Don't put yourself in the kind of situation where you could make a big mistake.

Consider these quick relationship boundaries:

  • Are you monogamous?
  • Do you have clear agreements?
  • Are you avoiding a big mistake?

2. Know Your Intentions

When you're going out, know what you're after. If you don't think you could handle a one night stand, even if it happens by accident, then again, don't put yourself in a bad situation. Typically, there is a bit of premeditation and planning involved when a woman ends up in a one-night situation, so have your intentions straight when you leave the house.

3. Be Safe

This goes without saying, or at least it should. It is the most essential one night stand tip you will ever be given. Carry protection with you at all times. Whether you are on the pill or another form of birth control or not, keep condoms with you at all times. It is not just the guy's job, as that is an archaic point of view today. Since some people still seem to think that birth control is only the woman's responsibility, you need to be prepared. For more information on your options, check out the official Planned Parenthood birth control guide.

Protection TypePrimary BenefitUsage Note
CondomsSTI PreventionCarry them with you
The PillPregnancy PreventionDaily routine

4. Stay in Touch

When you are going home with someone you don't know, or having someone come home with you, make sure that your most trusted friends know what is happening. Tell them the time, the location, and even the person's name if that makes you feel more comfortable. That way, just in case, someone you trust will know what is up. You might also want to review our tips for safe online dating if you met through an app.

If you're looking to engage your partner in intriguing conversations, why not try some hypothetical questions for couples? These fun queries will not only keep the conversation lively but also stimulate deep thoughts and potentially reveal insights about each other's personality and thought processes.

5. Be Open

You don't want to tell the whole world about your night, sure, but a crucial one night stand tip is to talk about it the next day. Again, do this with the friend or friends you trust most, or even with your therapist. If you are feeling bad or ashamed about what happened, this is doubly important.

6. Act Smart

If you want to avoid potential one night stands altogether, there are several things you can do. For instance, pay close attention to how much you drink, and try not to drink too much. Pay attention, too, to your drink itself and don't leave it unattended. Organizations like RAINN provide excellent resources on staying safe when you are out.

7. Don't Feel Ashamed

This one night stand tip is so important that it bears repeating. Having a one night stand does not make you loose, easy, or slutty. Even if you indulge in this kind of thing often, if you are comfortable with it and you practice safe sex, choose your partners wisely, and take the precautions necessary to keep yourself safe, then it is perfectly okay.

I really hope you find these one night stand tips helpful. Sometimes one nighters go right, but many times they just go horribly, terribly wrong, and I am with you. I've only had one, but it was a doozy. These one night stand tips should help you cope while keeping things in their proper perspective. Now, I have gifted you with some helpful one night stand tips. So, would you all be willing to tell me the stories of your worst, favorite, or funniest one nighters?

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  • Tee

    2015-08-04T02:05:48.667Z

    I am 26 years old and I had my first one night stand over the weekend while I was away on vacation I have turned down plentyyyyyy of one nighters in my life! But something was different about this one and I honestly feel good about it! I think the best part was I got to know the guy (even though it happened the second night we met) but the conversation and topics we were discussing from the moment we met up until the next day and the night that it happened was awesome. And the funny party is I had no intentions what so ever to do so and when it happened it just happened naturally. He was the most sweetest, intelligent, funny, and gentlemen that I have met in a while! So if it did happen I am glad it was with someone like him. I had a bad break up with someone that I was with for 4 years and I have been feeling so out of myself but after this happened, I felt pretty damn great and didn't know why. Knowing the rules of this I didn't think that I would ever talk to this guy again and I was fine with that but he surprised me by texting me asking me my plans for my last night out there and if anything I can make plans with him. But I didn't and still felt surprised when I received a message from him while I was waiting to board my flight at 5:30 in the am wishing me a great flight and if he ever visits my side of town he will let me know and asked me to save his number and he thanked me for my "NY hospitality". He then sends me a message today letting me know when he wanted to come to NY. He's from Detriot. And honestly even if we don't speak after today I am ok with that because it was an amazing experience and to know that I was wanted because he thought that I was a cool and smart girl and just really enjoyed my company and showed chivalry was enough for me. We will see what happens!
  • sofie

    2014-06-25T21:51:43.962Z

    my sad story: i loose my virginty from one night stand ;o wel am 21 years old almost 22 :o i feel bad, dirty, ashamed... and am afraid to tell my friends or family ;o need advice to feel good
  • James

    2011-09-07T09:04:54.000Z

    I would never date a girl who had one night stands. Careless and low.
  • Anonymous

    2011-09-01T16:47:33.000Z

    "Even if you indulge in this kind of thing often, if you’re comfortable with it and you practice safe sex, choose your partners wisely, and take the precautions necessary to keep yourself safe, then it’s okay." This is one of the best things I've read in a long time. Thank you. I'm so tired of reading that what people do with their bodies is somehow other people's business.
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