The age debate never stops. But it appears that women who date younger men seem to get a rougher deal than men who date younger women. They get called cradle snatchers and the objects of their affections get called toy boys. (And yes, the other way round suffers too, with accusations of being a trophy wife or a gold digger.) The human race is way too judgmental. Love happens in mysterious ways! There are plenty of good reasons to date a younger man, in case you are wondering.
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1. Young Guys Are Hotties
Let's face it, most mature men have little more than an abundance of nasal and ear hair to recommend them - great, if you're an anthropologist writing an academic paper on human woolliness but not so great when you're looking for a handsome beau to light up your love life. Young guys are hot, fit and a lot less inclined to bore you rigid with their "life experience" monologues. If you ever needed valid reasons to date a younger man, think "nasal hair"!
2. You Stay in Control
Young hotties are also fine with you being at the controls of your relation-ship cockpit. In fact, it's because they appreciate a woman who knows her own mind that they're with you in the first place. You call the shots; how's that for a cougar treat?
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3. Aretha Said It: RESPECT
Most mature men regard themselves as alpha-dog in all of their relationships; they want to provide and protect at best, dominate, bully and boss around at worst. Young men admire your talents, self-determination and pay you respect rather than want to put you down just because you've dared to show independence of mind. Soul diva Aretha Franklin stated it loud and clear: R.E.S.P.E.C.T. is what you want.
4. Less Romantic Baggage
Since young men come with far less romantic baggage, he'll be able to devote his attention and time to you, instead of ex-wives and kids or custody battles over pets.
5. Boundless Energy Bundle
Having a young guy by your side who's energetic, sporty and enthusiastic about life will rub off on you and make you happier, more productive and the experience more fun. Allow him to take you clubbing, even if you haven't the foggiest idea what type of music's playing - open up your mind to a new life and new experiences.
6. Not Afraid of Change
Instead of going out with a man who's predictable and set in his ways, you'll be able to embrace life to the full and try out new things. Helicopter rides over the Grand Canyon, parachuting in Patagonia or making a hot and steamy video in your bedroom - younger guys will be far less afraid of change than mature guys and you'll get more fun out of life.
7. Full of Dreams and Aspirations
Who wants to stare skepticism, pessimism and faded aspirations in the face over the breakfast table? Young men are still full of dreams for the future, have career and relationship aspirations and a positive outlook that will inspire you, not depress you.
8. Rewind, Restart, but Don't Repeat Relationship Mistakes
His infectious energy and enthusiasm will help you to rewind to an earlier "you," the girl you were before chauvinist partners cowed you and turned you into a cynic. Allow the "girl with a spring in her step" to re-emerge without being dragged down by romantic baggage. Rewind, restart but don't repeat relationship mistakes.
9. Great Pillow Talk
Among the many reasons to date a younger man has to be that his boundless energy will translate into great escapades in bed. Pillow talk afterwards will also be more fun - he's relishing your greater experience in matters of sex and will be an eager student, listening not only to your advice but also trying to live up to your expectations.
Of course, this isn’t saying don’t date an older man or one close you your age. I just wanted you to feel that it’s perfectly acceptable to consider dating a younger man (just like it’s perfectly ok to consider dating a much older man). Don’t let prejudice thwart the path of love!
I once dated a 16-year-old when I was 22. Although, I did think he was 18 ... but that’s a story for another day! ^_^
Have you dated a younger man? What was your experience? Good or bad?
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Thelma62913: Bad. Bad. Bad. Bad. Bad experience for me.
sara: When I was 18 going on 19, I dated a 16 year old. He was mature for his age however, I had to accept that we weren't on the same page in life and that it just couldn't work out (at the moment). I was in college and had to focus on establishing myself. We lasted about 6 months and I genuinely loved him but I had to consider the long run. Now, 8 years later, I'm still on a different page but he's grown up and if there was opportunity to date him, I think I would.
Roberta: I am 56 however, I am lucky as I was blessed with good genes so I look younger. NO one eve guesses my age - until I open my mouth and then they are blown away with my knowledge and education as well as life experience. LOL I am told that I look around 38 to 40 years old. So I say - OK I will go with that. LOL
cucumber: I would tots not date a guy at all LADIES LIVE FREE
karen: I researched on the internet (so take my finding with a grain of salt) but the social accepted age difference is half the oldest person age plus 8 yrs.. ex half of 50 is 25 +8 =33. So social standards say a person 50 yrs can date someone 33 and society shouldn't frown on it!
Jasmine: Lately, I have been dating younger men. I look to date men who are older than me, but it seems as if the younger men have been around more. I do agree the energy is great; whether it's partying, sex, spending time together watching a movie, and other activities. Some of their maturity levels are not good enough for me, but some of their maturity levels have been decent. Right now I'm 25 and dating/getting to know a guy who is 20. It sucks that he can't do things that are 21 and up, but he turns 21 next year. The guy I dated before him just turned 21, but his communication skills when it came to our relationship disagreements were horrible. He also rushed into the relationship too quickly. I've been wanting to date older guys and have had experience with the younger ones, but I'm still not sure. I try to not judge a possibly good guy based on his age. But maturity mentally and behaviorally matter to me. He also has to be physically attractive.
peony: How young are we talking though??? Ten years difference not a big deal but twenty five years difference then he will be needing a note from his teacher hehehe
Alexxis: Nine years is a big age gap when you're young
Maritza: Oh ladies!!! I recently married my husband who's 50 and I'm 28. Let me just say that our age gap is a major issue. We didn't see it at first but it shows more and more.
Roberta: I agree - younger men are full of life and have a more positive outlook on life. I would date a younger man in a New Your Minute. They keep you on your toes!
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