Avoid These Terrible Shortcuts when Looking for a Man ...

Avoid These Terrible Shortcuts when Looking for a Man ...
By Holly • Sep 12, 2020 MD

It doesn't matter how desperately you want to be in a relationship, because there's no shortcut to love. Sure, there are a few things you can do to land a boyfriend--but that doesn't mean that you'll end up in a happy relationship. Unless you want to settle for any old guy instead of finding your true love, here are a few shortcuts that you shouldn't take to find a boyfriend:

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1. Hooking up Right Away

If hooking up with a man as soon as you meet him will make you happy, then there's nothing wrong with doing it. However, you shouldn't do it with the hopes that it'll convince him to date you. If a man is only interested in sex, then he'll probably end up deserting you after your one night of fun. Even if he stays with you, will you really be proud of the fact that you convinced him to stay by using your body?

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2. Picking Men Based on Their Looks

You can't walk into a party and pick the man you want to go home with based off of his looks. If you want to find someone to date, you should mingle in order to find out every guy's personality. Don't take any shortcuts, because a man's looks won't tell you anything important that you need to know.

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3. Using Sketchy Dating Sites

Sure, there are some people who find love on the internet. However, you need to be careful with what dating sites you choose to sign up for. Some sites, such as Tindr, are pretty much reserved for men and women looking to have one-night stands. If you want something real, then you need to be careful about where you're looking for love.

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4. Asking Friends to Set up a Blind Date

Your friends know you better than anyone, which is why you might trust them to set you up on a great blind date. However, if you and your match end up dating and then breaking up, your friend will probably end up in the middle of a few fights. That's why, if you want to keep your friendship with her, blind dating should be off limits.

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If you're looking to engage your partner in intriguing conversations, why not try some hypothetical questions for couples? These fun queries will not only keep the conversation lively but also stimulate deep thoughts and potentially reveal insights about each other's personality and thought processes.

5. Changing Your Clothes and Hair

Don't dye your hair a different color, because you heard that your crush likes blondes. Don't start dressing differently for him, either. Sure, it's an easy way to catch his attention, but you should want him to like you for you.

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6. Settling for the First Man You Meet

If a guy buys you a drink, you don't have to go home with him. You're allowed to talk to other men in the establishment. Settling for the first guy who walks up to you, even when you're not that impressed by him, is a foolish idea. Don't get lazy when it comes to love.

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7. Dating a Friend

Sometimes, your best male friend could be the perfect match for you. However, don't randomly decide to date your best friend, just because you're lonely. Some people aren't meant to be in a relationship, and are just meant to be buddies. Don't risk screwing up a friendship when you're not even all that interested in your buddy turning into your boyfriend.

While these methods might work every once in a while, their success rates are low. Have you ever taken one of these shortcuts to find a boyfriend?

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  • True

    2015-08-25T06:03:55.457Z

    Yep very true! I have heard so many stories from a few girls and its just sad sad but true!
  • Melonade_bliss

    2016-09-12T16:13:48.568Z

    I think I'm guilty of settling for the first okayish guy I meet . I fall too quickly when a guy is cute and has great conversation 🙈 - how do you stop that from happening
  • Nadia

    2016-09-12T15:29:29.407Z

    I dated my best friend, and it was great at First, but it didn't work out
  • Sydney

    2015-08-25T03:15:49.968Z

    I think people are so quick to judge Tinder because of all those posts about some lines that are used or some people being creepy or too forward, but it's not fair to completely write it off based on those.
  • ash

    2015-08-25T00:56:38.894Z

    thanks for this article
  • Ash

    2015-08-25T07:39:29.726Z

    I totally agree with ur article , it's so true
  • Ritchie

    2015-08-27T21:09:18.992Z

    I Love the photo personally, and yes I would date any religion. Im not Muslims, but they are a Loving caring Faith.
  • The

    2015-08-25T10:55:06.971Z

    I am a Muslim I had been in six serious relationships, who says Muslim girls don't have boyfriends?
  • Cherrydropsx

    2015-08-25T12:52:36.592Z

    Love the picture! She's obviously been proposed to! 😍😍💍
  • The

    2015-08-25T00:54:34.095Z

    So true
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