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7 Reasons Why He Hasn't Called after the First Date ...

By Rebecca

If you haven’t heard from him in over a week, there may be a few reasons why he hasn’t called. Don’t beat yourself up, as it may not be your fault! But do consider some self- reflection, as you can always learn from any minor mistakes you’ve made on a first date. Take a look at some reasons why he hasn’t called.

1 The Date Didn’t Go as Well as You Thought

Just because you had a fun night, doesn't mean he did, which may be one of the reasons why he hasn't called. Perhaps at first it seemed as though he was having a good time, but then you said something that turned him off. Don’t get all upset with yourself, though! If you said something that bad, you have now learned your lesson. If, however, you were just being yourself, then you should forget him. If he doesn't like your personality, you’ll find another man who will!

2 He’s Not That into You

Sometimes he’s just not that into you. You may just not be his type. After all, the point of a date is to get to know someone. If he isn't into you, forget him! There are so many other fish in the sea! Get yourself another hot date!

3 He’s Been Busy

If you know that he is a busy man, cut him some slack and give him some extra time. Though you may ask yourself why he can’t just make a simple phone call, or send you one text, you need to realize that even those small actions require thought and preparation. He may not have had a chance to properly think about what he wants to say to you. I say, wait two weeks. If he still hasn't contacted you after that, then move on.

4 He Wants You to Make the First Move

Some guys are self-conscious, and expect you to contact them first. My advice is to wait three days. If he still hasn't contacted you after three days, shoot him a simple text. If he doesn't answer, chances are that he wasn't intending on contacting you anyway. So what’s there to lose?

5 He’s Playing Hard to Get

Sometimes men play hard to get too! He may wait a few days before calling you after a first date so that you’ll want him more. Wait a few days to see if this in fact is the case.

6 He Met Someone else

Timing is key. Finding "the one" usually comes from being at the right place at the right time. This can be disappointing if he unfortunately meets his true love right after your first date. Though he may have had a good time with you on your date, he may have also found someone else who is more compatible.

7 Commitment Issues

Some guys are just afraid of commitment. They meet a girl, and then back out when they start to develop any feelings towards her. Don’t worry that he hasn't called, because such men are not ready for a relationship anyway!

At the end of the day, if he hasn't called, it’s his loss! Keep dating until you find that guy who will call you! You deserve your man to chase after you! Have you ever been on a first date where he didn't call afterwards? Did you find out why? Or did you end up making the first move?

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