8 Relationship Red Flags to Watch out for ...

Relationship Red Flags aren't always easy to spot. In fact, when they say that 'love is blind', it really is sometimes. You might not want to admit that the relationship you're in isn't all that great. Well ladies, don't worry! I got your back, I've got the top 8 relationship red flags that you might want to watch out for in your next relationship. We're also going to explore some of the relationship red flags that you might be able to get around.

1 Bad Breakup Baggage

Let's say that the guy that you're into right now got out of a relationship over a year ago. Let's say that the breakup was horrible. Chances are, he's probably still bitter and he could actually take bitterness out on you. This is definitely one of the relationship red flags that you get around, but it might take time.

2 Lots of Flings

It's okay for a guy to have a lot of different relationships, might for him to have a lot of flings – what does that say about him? Well, it should say that he is looking for a lot of one night stands and not so much a real relationship. If he has had a lot of flings in the past – talk to him about it, find out why. The reasoning could surprise you!

3 Disconnected Sex

So you've been in a relationship with a guy for a while and you've had sex together but lately, it feels like the sex is just completely disconnected. This is for sure one of the biggest relationship red flags. It could mean everything from he's cheating all the way to he is stressed about something. Make sure that you bring it up and talk to him about it!

4 Deep-Seeded Anger

Everyone get's angry at some point, but when you have deep-seeded anger, it isn't all about small fights. These are the fights that could lead to abuse or even something worse. Ladies, if you see that you man is exhibiting deep-seeded anger, you might want to seek out help or talk to him a little about it and see what he says.

5 The Way He Treats His Mother

This is a big one for me, as my ex treated his mother like crap and in turn – treated me like crap. A surefire relationship red flag is the way that he treats his mother. If he doesn't respect his mom, what makes you think that he's going to respect you? His mother raised him after all and that should give you an idea on how he was raised to treat women.

6 Still Lives at His Parents

This one is a small red flag that you can actually help out with. A lot of times, a guy just gets comfortable living at home. That doesn't make him a bad guy, but if you are getting serious about the guy, talk to him about moving in together or at least him getting his own place. It's a red flag, but a minor one.

7 Never Invites You over

This relationship red flag though is a huge one. If you've been dating a guy for a few months and he never, ever invites you over to his place, isn't that weird? Is he hiding something that he doesn't want you to find? Talk to him about it, express your fears – it could be a misunderstanding!

8 He's 'Newly' Single

This is another minor red flag and it doesn't apply to all guys. If he's newly single and out of a relationship that only lasted a few months, chances are, he'll be ready to date rather quickly. However, if he's getting out of a relationship where he was engaged and been with the chick for years, that's a red flag. After all, there could be lingering feelings still!

There are tons of different relationship red flags and they aren't all bad things. Some of the relationship red flags are things that can bring you both together in your relationship. So ladies, what red flags do you watch out for? Any you can share?

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thanh i sure wish there was a mens version of this website =(
- Heather That's a great idea! :) We do try to make it men-friendly too!
Confused I've dated this guy for over a year now.He's the most loving, nicest, caring guy I've known and I love him to bits. However after a night out drinking I was a bit drunk and I dared to ask him "the question" about how many women he had slept with... he was reluctant first but at the end he did tell me, and I was shocked by his answer. 50-60...His number was much much higher than I ever thought! He said he's been mainly single and his longest lasting relationship had been 10 months at age 15!... Now I'm really worried since this is a MASSIVE red flag. Everything was fine before he shared that information but somehow now that I know, I feel puzzled and insecure. What are the chances our relationship would be strong and committed? What should I do? I love him but I don't wanna be hurt.
- MarMar @Confused, lots of men have been with over 50 women, it's not that big of a deal. I've dated many guys who've been with tons of women, my longest relationship (5 years) was with a guy who had been with over a 100 women. Yes, he was a musician so that can make a difference, but I don't think you have to worry about that. That fact that his longest relationship was only 10 months in high school is a huge red flag though. But how old is he now? I for one don't count high school relationships as real relationships anyway, so I think you should seriously step back and take a long look at your relationship with this guy and see if it has a future. Maybe he just had some wild years and now he's ready to settle down and you're the girl for him. I think you need to talk to him about it when he's sober. Both your ages and how long you've been together can make a difference and can really help answer your question more. Good luck hun.
Anonymous How can you tell if your man is cheating?
- MarMar Just because a guy lives at his parents it doesn't mean he's not always relationship material. He could be saving money, or recently unemployed, taking care of an ill parent, or one of his parents is recently divorced and he's there for support temporarily. Most guys don't want to live at home with their parents, and they're usually not there because they're comfortable. This one I have to highly disagree with. I recently moved in with my father temporarily for many reasons, and it definitely wasn't for being comfortable and because I'm lazy.
- MarMar The surefire best way to know if your man is cheating is if he's constantly suspicious of you and accusing you of cheating. Every time I've had a boyfriend do that to me, it turns out he was the one cheating. The guilt he feels and insecurity of it all makes him project it all onto you so he doesn't feel as bad about what he's doing. And always trust your instincts. If worse comes to worse, just confront him and see how he reacts. If he blows up about it and makes counter accusations, especially if you approached it in a calm non-hostile way, then there's a good chance he's cheating on you.
- Anonymous You have to be realistic with yourself. Has he been acting differently, more distant? Wears cologne consistenly recently, more into his appearance? Is he realistically capable? Like do you both work different schedules, you have separate cars, phones, all that? Do you have healthy communication? Trust and listen to your gut, you will know.