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7 Signs of You Are Having an Emotional Affair ...

By Heather

There are a lot of warning signs you are having an emotional affair that you might not even know about! An emotional affair is still cheating, but it is cheating that you might not know anything about. If you are looking for some of the warning signs you are having an emotional affair right now, you've got to take a look below. Girls and guys, this is important stuff and it could actually change your entire relationship.

1 You Share Your Frustration about Your Partner

Now, it's okay to vent. When you are having lunch with your friends and you are talking about how much you hate what your partner does in this instant or that or you are just talking about a fight or a disagreement that you had – that's fine! When you are looking for warning signs you are having an emotional affair, these vents are personal, you are venting to someone that you either are super close with or someone that you just met … but have a small attraction to. The vents are about everything in your relationship, including the inner workings.

2 Fantasizing

With this person that you are venting to, do you constantly fantasize about what being in a relationship with them would feel like? Do you feel like you could see yourself with them? Do you feel your heartstrings tug every single time you talk to them? These are all signs of an emotional affair!

3 You Dream of Being Intimate

Intimacy is something that could be a problem with your relationship and if you are dreaming about being intimate with the person that you are constantly talking to as 'friends' – that's a problem. You should only be fantasizing and dreaming about your partner, not about your friend that you are venting to!

4 More than Just Caring

Does the caring go a little too far? Are you now feeling jealous over other people hanging out with your friend? Are you feeling emotions that are similar to feelings you felt for your partner in the beginning? This goes beyond just caring, girls and boys, this is turning into an emotional relationship!

5 You Start to Feel Attached

How attached are you to this person? It's normal to love your friends, it's even normal to become super attached to them, but you've got to remember that being attached and being in love are two different things and you don't want to confuse them!

6 What if

Ah, the what if game. This is something that a lot of people play when they are trying to justify their emotional affair. They play a game of "What if I was in a relationship with this person?" or "Would I be happy in a relationship with this person?" These are a few questions that you should be asking yourself.

7 You Start to Test the Waters

Finally, you do start to push the envelope and test the waters in your friendship. A goodnight hug starts to linger or conversations start to slip into something sexual, start to slip into something that is not appropriate. You've got to stop this behavior if you do care for your partner.

So girls and guys, these are just a few of the many signs that you've got to watch out for whenever you think you might be in an emotional affair. An affair is an affair, remember that! Have you ever been in an emotional affair?

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