Because a little breathing room can be the best thing for a relationship, here are a few very obvious signs that your boyfriend needs space. Relationships do require a lot of compromises in order for them to work but all that effort is not in vain, especially if the other person in the relationship is the love of your life. Relationships can be sometimes overwhelming, and that’s why it’s best to give your partner a little breathing space. Psychotherapists say that a man who needs his space will act in certain ways and sometimes, a little honest discussion about personal space and boundaries may be needed to strengthen the relationship. Here are a few clear signs that your boyfriend needs space:
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1. He Stops Communicating
One of the most obvious signs that your boyfriend needs space is the fact that he stops communicating. Psychologists say that when a man needs his space, he often withdraws and that he tends to isolate himself. Apparently, this is true, especially when he is upset or stressed, according to Richard Drobnick, the author of “Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus”.
2. He is Often Unavailable
If you notice that your partner seems quite unavailable lately because he has to work late or because he has other important things to take care of rather than be with you, you should consider giving him some space. Men often make excuses or they make plans with their friends and family, plans that don’t include you, when they need some personal space.
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3. They Often Criticize You
Does your boyfriend lately seem to be criticizing everything about you; your clothes, your hair or every little thing that you do? Does he undermine you in front of friends or family? If your answer is yes, then you should consider allowing him to spend some time by himself. This way, he can figure things out and he can find out why he acts or why he treats you this way.
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Does he undermine you in front of friends or family? If your answer is yes, then you should consider allowing him to spend some time by himself. This way, he can figure things out and he can find out why he acts or why he treats you this way. Such behavior can be really detrimental to your self-esteem, and it's important to take a step back. Giving him space could be a way for both of you to reassess your individual needs and expectations. Think of it as a break that allows for emotional growth, providing a clearer perspective on your relationship.
4. He Does Not Return Calls or Texts
If your boyfriend needs some personal space, he will probably not return your calls or your texts as quickly as you're used to. Even though you may be feeling hurt, betrayed or even cheated on, most of the times, the reason why a man does not answer his phone when you call him is because he is feeling overwhelmed.
5. He Stops Making Plans
Studies show that men who feel overwhelmed and who need their space often stop making plans or they even become vague in their planning. Sometimes you just need to back off a little bit, give him some alone time and just let him figure out what he wants. In most cases, he will miss you and your relationship will even get better.
6. He is Argumentative
Does it seem like you are fighting a lot with your boyfriend lately? Is he snappy, unpleasant or irritable? When you try to find out what happened, does he always say that it’s your fault and that he didn’t do anything wrong? If that’s the case, he may feel like you are suffocating him and the best thing you can do is to just give him some space.
7. He Tells You
Does your boyfriend often tell you that he needs his space and that he wants to spend some alone time sometimes? Do you listen to him? You shouldn’t be alarmed if he tells you that, because everyone needs their space to function properly and this doesn’t mean that they don’t love you anymore.
Everyone needs space sometimes, especially people who are in close romantic relationships. Do you give your partner the space they need? Do you know any other signs that indicate that someone may need some space? Please share your thoughts with us in the comments section!
Comments
Allana: Living this right now...... Hummmmmmm
Maddison: Please advise. Boyfriend of almost 5 years asked for space and felt "pressured by my deadline". I had informed him I wanted to know if we were headed towards a commitment long term by year 5 together (I know deadlines are never a good idea). He asked for space and although it devastated me, I was respectful of his needs. He explained some weeks were amazing and he looked at rings and others he questioned things. I asked if we were breaking up, he said that ideally he'd take space but knew it was "unfair to ask me to wait". I left his place and have stayed strong with no contact. Day 6 he sends me a text asking how I am doing. I didn't respond. Day 7 he sends me a sweet text talking about the day we met and what a "great" 5 years it has been. I didn't respond. That night I received a beautiful delivery of flowers with a note, "Here's tom our first 5 years. I love you." I sent a brief "thank you for the flowers" text. Haven't heard from him since (now day 10). Please advise- am I delusional for being hopeful we will have a chance at getting back together?
Allana: He is just not as talkative as he use to be.....
Cee: When he wants space it means he knows he doesn't want you! Don't be fooled!! Leave with dignity
Lisa: i agree. when they start to pick on u a bit, pick on little things they dont normally or seem bit aggravated ...... back off for a while. give him a day or two and he'll be back apologising
Sweet: Going through the same thing right now. Everything what this article says is what this guy doing, pick on me, say negative things, will tell me he will block me on social network but he hasn't, so I gave him space now it's over a month now and feel stronger, which ever way it turns out for me. 👌
Vanessa: This sounds more like the signs of him wanting to break up.
Nicky: Probably might need space if they are thinking alot
Katie: I agree with Vanessa.....theses are OBVIOUS signs of a BREAKUP!! If your guy just wants a lil space, he would tell you & not do all these things to just push you away. If he REALLY does like you, he will ALWAYS find some way to see or communicate with you.... #FACT !!!
tintariga: Happening to me right now. Im afraid he thinking bout breaking up with me. 😔
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