Alyx I actually wasn't I was explaining wat my ex had I never once said it was the same thing!!!!!!!!!!! Lol

Narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder are two WAY different things. The disorder is when it's multiplied tons and is uncontrollable. Just being narcissistic doesn't mean you have a disorder.

Becks, Beware of the red flags!! Good chance you will be next . . . I don't know if I would be so convinced this guy is amazing. Very, very serious issue that this guy was involved with you for 9 months while he still had a girlfriend. Even more alarming the reason he broke up with ex-gf because she found out about you. Were you completely honest with your ex fiancée about your involvement in the new relationship? Just something to ponder and only you can answer - honesty/integrity issues are THE most important in a serious long-term relationship. Without trust, eventually doomed to fail when the inevitable rough times arrive. Maybe share with a close friend who will challenge you or seek a counselor.

I have met the most amazing man and after 9 months, he finally broke up with his GF (only because she found out about me) 😔. However, two months later, he has a conversation with me entailing a talk he and his friend had about him being a narcissist. I am so nervous and scared to be in love with someone like this and showing all the behavior traits!! Not to mention, I broke off my engagement cause I'm in love with this person! My gut is hurting!!!!!!!!!!

I just got out of a relationship wit a narcissist I'm as happy as can be now. He pulled me so down. I was so depressed all the time and had no idea why and then I realised it was because of him so advice to girls if ur boyfriend has a narcissistic personality or biopolor and u not happy get out and run.

Dani - narcissism and bipolar disorder are NOWHERE near the same thing. Please don't spread around false facts and further stigmatise the word for something it's not, and making it sound so much worse. Yes, if youre unhappy, leave. But don't toss around mental disorders just because you think they're not good for you.

After 2 years of putting up with his silent treatments, discarding and coming back. Telling me things I want to hear and then hurting me. I finally said I am done. I have gone no contact for 4 weeks and it was and still is hard but I am already starting to feel better about myself.

Run as fast and far as you can before he throws you into an abyss you can't get out of. I wasted so much time on him before I realized what he was. 😔

Alyx, I appreciate your last post - very well expressed and no, I don't feel like you are attacking me. I went back and re-read my initial comments and I understand that I was misleading without intending to be. Your self reflection about maybe feeling a bit too personal about my response applies to me as well. I made it sound like ALL those afflicted with BPD/NPD will inevitably sabotage their relationships and that certainly is not true. Sharing my experience along with the comments of several on this thread in order to save the inexperienced/uneducated as I was could save wasted time, effort and $ for the therapy necessary on what will frequently (but not always) become a dead-end experience. If the person with either of these disorders is extremely low-functioning, it won't take long to figure out that something is amiss, even if one lacks the experience to identify some of the red flags. If the afflicted has some degree of self-reflection, or is able to look at themselves objectively and ask for professional help, it is possible to sustain a relationship with a partner who has strong boundaries and is able to hang on during the peaks and valleys on the roller coaster ride. The difficulty, (and forgive me for repeating from one of the earlier posts but I will be more specific and more accurate this time) is when one is dealing with a "grandiose" narcissist or a high-functioning borderline. It can be very difficult to detect narcissistic or borderline traits in the early stages of a relationship with people like this. They are extremely charismatic - intoxicating. For many of the "stealth" narcissists the unsuspecting partner is merely a source of supply, filling up the emptiness of the NPD individual. High functioning borderlines often are lacking a sense of self and will present themselves as someone they believe their new partner wants them to be; almost like a chameleon instead of a true self . . . There often isn't one. In my opinion, you did the right thing to move on from your ex who repeatedly disregarded your requests and was bent on sharing something that should have stayed between the two of you. You were forthright in revealing what your were going through. In order for a relationship to achieve a deeper level of intimacy, we can't fear revealing our "warts" to our significant other at the appropriate times. What a partner chooses to do with what they have been entrusted with, we cannot control. That is part of being vulnerable and most unfortunate that he violated your trust. It was best that you moved on.

I once had a boyfriend who could not resist admiring and checking out his appearance in even a car wheel cover let alone any mirror he saw. That 's my idea of narcissism ! They just fall in love with themselves!