7 Undeniably Horrifying Signs You're Dating a Narcissist ...

Sounds exactly like a guy I am with! Can't ever get my way cause it's all about him... Sucks!

Alyx I actually wasn't I was explaining wat my ex had I never once said it was the same thing!!!!!!!!!!! Lol

Narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder are two WAY different things. The disorder is when it's multiplied tons and is uncontrollable. Just being narcissistic doesn't mean you have a disorder.

Again, JP, borderline personality disorder and narcissistic personality disorder are two WAY different things. People diagnosed with BPD can be narcissistic, but that has nothing to do with the disorder. My father is borderline, trust me I've dealt with this my whole life, they are no where near the same thing. Disorders shouldn't be clumped together like that. Especially ones that are very different. BPD and bipolar disorder are similar, but pbd and narcissistic personality disorder are two WAY different things. I work in a hospital with a very large mental health wing. I deal with these disorders every day, and personally with my father. It's stigmatising like this that spreads misconception.

Just dumped him- emotionless - sulky if he doesn't get his way - unloving unless in the mood - only does a good turn because he's getting something - lies first even if the truth is a more viable option - pray he's gone for good- really do

Ugh!!! Kailee's comment bringing back a time of discovery and growth for me. Under the same umbrella as a cluster B personality disorder is Borderline Personality Disorder. While BPD has it's own set of 9 specific criteria, the majority of individuals afflicted with BPD are often comorbid with Narcissistic Personality Disorder. As Alyx pointed out, possessing narcissistic traits is not the same as being diagnosed with NPD. We are all narcissistic to some degree. When the degree of narcissism becomes extreme along a spectrum is when it affects relationships adversely. Take heed in the comments from Meta, Kailee, peony blue, alka, Daniboo301, Jojo, Kat, Krenx and El. As you begin to develop a "relationship" with a person who is afflicted with BPD/NPD, you are entering their perception of reality . . . guaranteed to end unlike any interaction you have experienced in the past; totally destructive especially if your romantic interest is high-functioning. Little or no accountability. When difficulty eventually arises, it will be projected back on you. Intoxicating on the front end, when the end rears it's head, it will make no sense to those who think logically. Much like Kailee's description, (roller coaster) it's like Dr. Jekyll & Mr. Hyde. The person you thought you knew is wearing a mask. It's a childhood defense mechanism that has existed long before you entered their life. It's a facade that will crack when we eventually prove to be human and therefore become "imperfect" and not the person they idealized in the initial stages. You will become totally worthless, devalued overnight in their black-and-white world. You can't change them. Go for the nearest exit, run, and don't look back. Count your blessings if you were able to leave before marriage and children.

Been there, done that.Dramatic break up you say, oh yes, he decided to brutally rape me after I had ended the relationship.I didn't let him get away with it that easily, I made his life a living hell and in proud.Narccist nead to learn that they can't get away with everything!

Wow that's all the traits this guy I used to have a crush on have 😐

It took a long time to get over this one guy, a narcissist is really good at pulling a girl in and making her a part of his crazy, self centred, roller coaster ride that is his life. Bad memories creeping back...

Alyx, I believe we are on the same page. Possibly, I did not communicate effectively before I began discussing how people interacting with those afflicted can often expect their relationship to end. While the criteria in the DSM are different, the association many have with NPD/BPD individuals is quite similar. I didn't clump them together, the professional community has done so when they put both under cluster B in the DSM along with Antisocial Personality Disorder. The first source that came up on google shows the following rates of comorbidity with Narcissistic Personality Disorder: Histrionic Personality Disorder 53% Borderline Personality Disorder 47% Paranoid Personality Disorder 36% Avoidant Personality Disorder 36% Passive-Aggressive Personality Disorder 28% Antisocial Personality Disorder 16% Remember that with all the possible permutations, BPD can manifest itself in 250+ ways. Therapists often have difficulty identifying in their patients. Misdiagnosis is not uncommon by those working in the field. Certainly you have seen the variety if you will, in the way your father presents and what you have encountered occupationally. My ex for example, is unlike those you will find in the mental ward. She is extremely high functioning, has held a job with a 6-figure income for many years, and appears to have no issues until she encounters events that are stressful for her. She is one of the "invisible" borderlines who will not appear in the healthcare system. Like many of those afflicted with NPD, when life's hurdles inevitably appear, accountability goes out the window. It is not uncommon for those with both disorders to blame/project on to someone else. The partner is left dumbfounded, wondering, "what happened?" I think it is necessary for those of us who have encountered unfortunate souls afflicted with NPD or BPD to reach out and warn those who are unsuspecting exactly what they can expect. I don't wish the inevitable heartache on anyone. I was fortunate that my ex and I were never married. I commend you on your efforts with your father.