Sex is something completely normal and natural for us to crave😚 There is a lot of pressure surrounding the idea of losing your virginity that it can be stressful. We like to say that you’ll be able to tell when you’re ready, but there are some signs you can look out for that can mean the time isn’t right. They’re at least something to think about!
1. You Haven’t Thought about Birth Control
Big one here – if you haven’t thought about 🤔 or researched the best birth control methods for you, then you need to. This one is a must. You may be completely ready otherwise, but if you don’t have a plan, then you might end up with an unwanted pregnancy.
2. You Haven’t Thought about STDS or STIS
This runs along the same vein as the first sign: you need to be aware💡of all the risks that may occur from having sex and be as prepared and knowledgeable as possible. You don’t want to end up with something just because you were unaware.
3. You Feel Pressured
This is another big one. In today’s society it can seem like sex is a rite of passage that you need to accomplish by a certain date 📆 But you should only be having sex if you want to. If you feel like you just have to get it over with, then it’s probably not the best time.
4. You’re Drunk🍻
When it comes to having sex for the first time, you want to be completely with it. That means that when you’re drunk (or they’re drunk) you should refrain from doing it until you have a clear mind and can say that you want it for sure.
5. It Freaks You out😰
Does the word sex make you shudder? Do you get anxiety thinking about it or have panic attacks? Sex can be a little nerve-wracking, but you shouldn’t be in fits about it, so give it a little more time until it makes you more excited than scared.
6. You Think It Should Be Perfect😇
News flash: sex isn’t like how you see it in the movies or on TV. There’s usually not rose petals and bliss. It can definitely be enjoyable and it doesn’t have to be awkward, but if you expect perfection, you’ll most likely be disappointed.
7. It Goes against What You Believe🙅
This sounds like a funny tip that should be obvious. But just because you want to wait doesn’t mean it’s always easy. Taking the time to evaluate where you stand on the subject and putting it into practice is a good step before just giving into temptation.
8. Your Partner Has Different Feelings
Losing your virginity can be a big deal for some, and not for others. Being on the same page with the person you’re having sex with can make things a lot easier. Also, if you want to be in a more serious relationship than they do, it can cause problems.
These are just a few things to think about before taking the step to have sex for the first time. The biggest ones we stress are to make sure you’re being safe and that it is truly something that you want for yourself. Have fun and good luck!