Some women absolutely hate meeting a guy's family, but when you know the right ways to get his family to like you, it's a stress free event. Of course, a guy's family is going to be judgmental when he brings a new girl home. It doesn't mean they hate you. Try a few of these ways to get his family to like you and they'll love you almost as much as he does.
The absolute first rule is to turn up as soon as they want to meet you. If you keep prevaricating and making excuses, they are going to assume you don’t want to meet them or that you have something to hide. Don’t give them any opportunity to think negative of you before they get the chance to see and know how wonderful you are.
Every family has certain hot button topics. One of the easiest ways to get his family to like you is to simply avoid bad topics. Talk to your partner before the big meet and see what's off limits. Odds are, you should probably avoid talking about religion or politics as these are always tense topics. While you might get to controversial conversations later on, wait until his family likes you first.
You honestly don't know what your guy has told his family about you. Plus, it's their job to learn as much as possible during a single meeting. They will ask awkward questions. Don't get defensive. Remain calm and answer any questions they ask as respectfully as possible. If there's something you're not comfortable with, tell them you're not comfortable discussing that right now.
Pretty much in the same vein as dealing with questions that raise your hackles, take their proffered advice with grace. Parents are parents and one of their jobs is to dispense advice according to the law of Mom and Dad. You don’t have to follow it. Just be polite and thank them for their good guidance.
Everyone loves talking about things they enjoy such as hobbies or their career. Talk to your guy about things you and his family might have in common. Any time the conversation starts to make you feel uncomfortable, bring up one of your mutual interests. These topics are also great icebreakers. With mutual ground to stand on, everyone feels a little more comfortable.
Even if you're naturally shy, his family will think the worst of you if you're quiet the whole time. Participate in conversations. Ask his family questions. If nothing else, ask for some funny stories from his childhood. Parents and siblings love sharing embarrassing stories. While you don't have to be a social butterfly, you'll have to talk at least a little.
You don't have to wear formal attire, but dress appropriately for the meet. You want to make a good first impression. This isn't the time for your tightest or sexiest clothes. For casual meetings, nice jeans and a solid-colored tee are fine. If you're not sure, ask your guy how his family typically dresses and what you should wear. After all, he wants you to make a great impression too.
This is the 21st Century. Most parents will assume that you and your man have probably gotten naked and down to the dirty (even if you haven’t). That doesn’t give you carte blanche to flaunt your sexual relationship in the family’s face. Limit the PDAs, don’t drape yourself all over him and no tongue kissing. But, still be affectionate with your guy. Hold hands, hug, give pecks on the cheek – otherwise they’ll think you’re a cold fish.
You'll have to interact with his family more than the initial meeting. You don't have to go to every family function, but try to attend as many as possible. The more times you blow them off, the less his family will like you. Standing by your guy's side during random family events shows his family you like him and them.
If you are invited to go to a family function, offering to help out will always win you brownie points. If you aren’t a great cook, offer to lay the table or help with the room setting. Even wash up if you need to. Just do something to get involved. And you don’t have to limit it to family functions. You can offer to assist with younger children’s homework, or the elder sister’s college application. It all helps you fit in and become enveloped as a family member.
The more his family gets to know you, the more they'll like you. Try to find times to invite his family to do things with the two of you. For instance, you could host a dinner or meet everyone at a restaurant. Not only will you feel more comfortable, but they'll be happy to be invited. If you feel comfortable enough doing things with members of his family on your own, even better.
I know it's stressful trying to get your partner's family to like you. While you might not get everyone on your side, remember, your partner loves you and that's what matters most. Be yourself and his family will come around. What tips do you have for getting a guy's family to like you?
This article was written in conjunction with editor Neecey Beresford
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