Many women follow their faith in being celibate until they marry. Others make a lifestyle choice and choose celibacy over marriage/relationships. It certainly doesn’t make you a bitter old spinster. There are some benefits of being celibate that are quite persuasive.
One of the reasons to consider being celibate is that you don’t have to worry about many of the health issues that can arise from engaging in sexual activity. The chief among these concerns are, of course, sexually transmitted infections and diseases and unwanted pregnancy, and though there are plenty of effective forms of contraception to address these risks, if you want to be celibate then these worries are something that you can completely kick off of your list.
For some people, not getting involved in sexual or romantic relationships with others is a good way of maintaining their emotional well being at a healthy and constant level. Engaging in a sex life not only changes you physically but it can also change you emotionally. If you don’t think that you would cope well with these kind of changes, then you don’t have to do anything at all.
For some women, their sex lives are pretty much the only things in their lives that they have the power to control, and a great sense of self worth and empowerment can be found from having the ability to control and sanction any activity of that kind going on in your life. Of course, I’m not saying that women who do have sex are not empowered; it simply rests in the beauty and the strength of choice whether to have sex or to be celibate.
When you don’t have to worry about the wants and needs of another, you can spend much more time dedicated to your personal well being, focusing on just you. A period of celibacy can help you to realign your own personal emotions and give back time to yourself and regroup your feelings. Not having anybody else to think about gives you time to figure out exactly what you might want.
No matter what you have done in your past that you might regret or be sad about, entering in to a period of celibacy allows you, in a way, to start a fresh new chapter where everything is ahead of you and you are free to make a whole set of new choices. You shouldn’t allow your sexual past to define what you might want your sexual future to be.
If you want to wait until marriage but feel pressured by today’s society to explore your sex life before you want to, you need to remember that it really has nothing to do with anybody else. It’s a personal decision that, should you choose to take, should not be judged by others. Your sex life is something that only you should have a bearing on, whether you choose to explore it or not is entirely up to you. Making the decision empowers you.
If you are dating a person but have not yet slept with them, this period will give you time to really get to know them before you decide whether to take it to the next step. Many women make the mistake of jumping in to bed with a guy too fast, living to regret the connections they made. Withholding that side of yourself will get you time to figure out if he is worth it.
Celibacy as a choice is a mature decision that needs thinking about but you shouldn’t feel it’s abnormal or that it makes you a freak, or not a whole woman.
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