The 7 Worst Places to Meet Men if You Want Something Serious ...
By Jennifer • 16 Comments
By Jennifer • 16 Comments
If you've been having one disastrous date after another, maybe you've been looking for love in the wrong places. For every fab place to meet a good man, there seem to be three we ought to avoid. Here's a short list of the places to avoid.
While a few of my girlfriends have met Mr. Right at a bar, it's pretty rare. Most of the time, involving alcohol, lots of TV and/or loud music isn't conducive to a real conversation, and that's sort of important, no?
Meeting someone at a bar might have the romantic appeal of spontaneity, but it's often a cocktail of superficial interactions fueled by liquid courage. Bars are tailored more for a fun night out with friends than soulmate-searching. The loud environment often leads to shouted conversations, which hardly allow you to delve beneath the surface. If you're looking for a deep connection or hoping to really understand someone's values and dreams, trying to decipher slurred lines over the latest pop hit isn't going to cut it. Save the bar scene for those nights when your only goal is to let loose with your pals.
Again, I know a few friends who've hooked up with the man of their dreams at someone else's wedding, but it's not common for good reason: most single bachelors aren't nearly as emotionally amped after seeing a couple tie the knot. They're usually much more interested in seeing which of the bridesmaids they can hook up with.
Weddings are typically a joyous occasion for couples to celebrate their love and commitment to each other. But for single women looking for a serious relationship, it may not be the best place to find a man. While it is possible to find a man of your dreams at someone else's wedding, it is not common. This is because most single bachelors are more interested in finding someone to hook up with than finding someone to commit to.
When it comes to finding a serious relationship, it is important to be in the right place to meet the right person. Weddings are generally not the right place. This is because many single men who attend weddings are more interested in having fun and meeting new people than in finding a serious relationship. They may be more interested in having a good time than in finding a long-term partner.
In addition, weddings can be a stressful and overwhelming event. This can make it difficult to have meaningful conversations with potential partners. The environment is often full of distractions and conversations can be interrupted by other guests or the wedding festivities.
There's nothing wrong with using Tindr or other dating apps if you're not looking for something serious, but there's nothing long-term about swiping your intentions.
While it worked for Jim & Pam, finding love at the office is unusual. More often, it just leads to an awkward work environment after even the gentlest of break-ups, and who wants to deal with that?
When you mix business with pleasure, you risk muddling professional dynamics. An office romance might seem thrilling, but it's fraught with peril for two individuals on a serious love quest. Professional boundaries blur, making it difficult to be objective in work situations. Moreover, office gossip can become a source of unwanted attention and stress. Remember, the cons usually outweigh the fleeting thrill of a workplace romance. It's generally wise to keep your love life separate from your professional one, ensuring that your ambitions and relationships do not unintentionally undermine each other.
Yes, this is a thing. And no, it's just not a good idea. Why? Because you're probably at least a little emotionally compromised, and it's just kind of morbid and weird.
Attending a funeral with the hopes of finding a promising partner can be seen as incredibly insensitive to the deceased's loved ones, not to mention it casts a dubious light on your intentions. The atmosphere of grief is hardly fertile ground for a relationship based on genuine connection and mutual respect. Besides, most people are there to mourn and support each other—not to exchange phone numbers. Stick to environments that are conducive to joy and open-hearted encounters, where you can show your best self in a context that isn't shadowed by sorrow and loss.
If you're feeling truly bold, feel free to approach a guy you think might be interesting while he's in the midst of guy's night. It's not easy, but it can be done.
Breaking into a group when it's all men can be intimidating and potentially unwelcoming. Guys may be out to bond with each other, and your approach might seem intrusive. Remember, their guard will be up, and they're less likely to be in the mindset to meet someone for a serious relationship. If you do choose to wade in, be prepared for a dynamic that might not be conducive to forming a meaningful connection. Approach with casual friendliness and gauge the situation before diving too deep into flirtation.
Unless he's an attorney, don't look for love at the courthouse. At best, he's in the middle of a divorce and/or custody battle (baggage!), and at worst, well, he's wearing orange for a reason.
I'm obviously not 100% serious about any of these — it's truly possible to meet a good man anywhere — but have you had a disastrous romantic entanglement at any of these spots? Where else would you suggest avoiding meeting a man?