Are there things that you might not consider as cheating?
We know that every single relationship is different. We all have our own varying dynamics and rules within our personal relationships, so what works for one couple might not necessarily work for you and your partner. At the end of the day, it’s all about reaching compromises and setting boundaries that you can both be happy with and not have to continually think about because of temptations or breaches of trust. When it comes to cheating, there are certainly different degrees of offence, but there is a trend in some relationships towards letting partners get away with behaviour, that, when assessed from the outside, comes a lot closer to cheating that those involved might like to admit. Here are three key things that you might not consider as cheating, but they really are.
If you met your current partner through Tinder (or any other dating app), then you can be pretty sure that they still have the app on their phone, along with the same profile that interested you in the first place. It’s human nature to be curious and inquisitive about who finds you attractive, so if you find that your partner is still playing around with their Tinder profile and having flirty conversations with matches, it can be considered a form of cheating. Even if they haven’t actually met up with anyone, they are still devoting some of their romantic and sexual energy to other people, which is only going to have a negative impact on your relationship. Tinder is one of the things that you might not consider as cheating, but should probably rethink.
Webcam sites are one of the key stumbling blocks when it comes to the fine line between sexual fantasy and flat out cheating. I happen to think there is a difference between looking at ‘traditional’ porn sites and actually having a live interaction with someone through the computer. With porn videos, there is a detached, unemotional connection that exists simply to induce sexual excitement, but when you are interacting in a more personal sense with someone via a webcam, there is the potential for a deeper connection to be made, one that can have a really detrimental effect on the relationship that you are living outside of the online world.
3. On a Break
We all lived through the Rachel/Ross drama on friends, we know that being on a break can mean very different things to very different people! If you decide to take a short break with your partner to assess and review your feelings, it is the standard courtesy to refrain from jumping straight into bed with somebody else. The reason for this is that if you do spark up a romantic encounter with somebody and then end up getting back together with your ‘breakee’, then that fling will always feel and be perceived by them and occurring right in the middle of a longer relationship, one that never really ended but just had the handbrake on for a few seconds. It’s not worth having that on your conscience!