The best relationships are built on honesty. In fact, it’s essential to have a successful relationship. But there’re some situations that complete honesty isn’t helpful with. Dishonesty isn’t the answer but leaving some things left unsaid is.
So you don’t love how your man dresses. Should you tell him? No, not unless he directly asks you what you think of his style. You can influence his style by telling him he looks great when he does wear something you think isn’t so bad. You can also give him clothing as gifts to help him see he has more options in fashion.
It’s okay if you have some fond memories of a previous relationship. Maybe you split on friendly terms or you remember your time together as a special time in your life. No good is going to come of sharing this with your current man. Unless it’s impacting your current relationship such as you’re considering getting back with your ex, don’t bring it up. An occasional thought of an ex isn’t anything to worry over.
It’s not the end of the world if you don’t love his mother. The main thing is that you don’t make that his problem. He can’t help who his family is anymore than you can help who your family is. Therefore, if you’re going to be together then you’re going to have to deal with them to some extent. You don’t have to be best friends but you do need to be polite.
Guys are different. Remember he may not get what you do when you get together with the girls. He may see spending hours at the spa as something meaningless although it’s the very thing that refreshes you. As long as your guy is staying faithful to you when he’s hanging with his friends, keep quiet on your opinion of them. It’s important that you both have your own friendships even though you have each other.
He doesn’t need to know you didn’t wake up like that! If he compliments you on how soft your skin is, don’t reveal what body scrub and lotion help with that. If he says you have amazingly long lashes, you don’t have to share that it takes a primer and a $25 mascara to get them that way. Just say thank you and smile! Save the secrets of your beauty routines until after you’re married.
Unless there’s a reason to be upset with your man, keep mum on this. Accept this’s something you’re insecure about and need to work through. Attempting this conversation could easily lead to an argument which neither of you want. Instead, remind yourself how much your man is in love with you! The one exception is if your man is giving you a reason to be jealous such as keeping in close contact with his ex or hanging onto pictures of them together that make you uncomfortable.
Girls! Never go there! Even if it’s true, telling your man this is just hurtful. Sex can always be improved upon. If you feel something is lacking in the bedroom then talk to him about that, not how badly his performance stacks up against others.
Just like you wouldn't be interested in knowing that his friends or family don't particularly like you, he too wouldn't like to hear that about the important people in your life. It goes without saying that knowing that kind of information makes social and/or important gatherings very awkward and not very fun!
If you or your best friend have had your heart broken in the past and you decided to 'show him', it's probably best that you don't tell your current of future boyfriend(s) about it. It may just make him run for the hills.
It's human nature to get jealous when we see someone hitting on our partner, so when your boyfriend hears that your coworker can't stop flirting with you, or that your ex is constantly trying to win you back, it probably won't sit very well with him at all!
These’re 10 things you don’t want to be 100% honest about. What would you add to this list? I can’t wait to hear your thoughts.
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