Your first love is the hardest to get over, but there are tips to get over your first love that do really work, if you use them. There are many times when you never, truly get over your first experiences with love and romance, but these tips to get over your first love can help ease the pain. It's going to be hard, but it is so worth getting over and so worth moving on.

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1. Don't Keep Reminiscing

There are tons of times that you are going to dwell on the past, times that you are going to go back into your memories and draw from them, but don't do it right away. Try not to think about the past, try not to dwell on your ex boyfriend or girlfriend. This is one of the many tips to get over your first love that can save you a lot of heartache and pain.

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Reminiscing can often turn into a cycle that fuels your pain and prevents you from moving forward. While it's natural to reflect on the sweetness of your first love, constant dwelling can keep those emotional wounds fresh. It's essential to give yourself the space to heal. Redirect your focus to the present and future—you have so many new experiences and opportunities waiting for you. Your personal growth and happiness are now the top priority, and though it's not easy, learning to let go of the past is a vital step in that journey.

2. Give Yourself Time to Grieve

However, even though I don't want you to dwell on the past, you've got to give yourself some time to grieve the relationship. You have to do this with every relationship, but your first love is going to be the hardest. It can take months, even years to fully get over your first love, but as time passes, it does get easier.

3. Remember, You Will Love Again

Just because you got burned doesn't mean that you'll never, ever love again. Don't think like that. To be honest, you'll probably love a lot sooner than you expect, especially if someone really clicks with you. Don't rush love of course, but don't ever think that you aren't going to love again.

4. Let Your Emotions Heal

You've been burned. You've been hurt. That takes a lot of time to get over and it takes a lot of time for your emotions to heal themselves. Don't jump immediately into another relationship, just because you want to find that feeling you experienced with your ex again. You might not feel that for a while, just let it happen.

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5. Support Groups

Support groups within your family and friends are going to be a lifesaver for you. Remember, this is your first love, it is so much different than any other love you experience. Support groups are going to save your life and really make sure that your emotions heal a lot quicker.

6. It'll Be Worse before It Gets Better

When you are trying to get over your first love, you've got realize that it is going to get a lot worse before it gets better. You are going to feel horrible and you are going to be upset a lot, but that doesn't mean that it'll never, ever get better. It will, you've just got to let it.

7. Write in a Journal

When I was trying to get over my first love, I started a journal that I could write in. That really helped me get through the bad times, and I could actually look back and see exactly what I was feeling during those times. Start a journal, it really does help!

8. Let Yourself Cry

Finally, let yourself cry whenever it feels right. If you bottle it all up, it will only make it worse. You've got to let yourself extract all of those emotions that you have pent up instead of keeping them inside. Trust me on this one!

So, if you're having problems getting over your first love, take a look at our tips! They do work and while I know it is hard, it is so worth it to follow these tips. So, what was your experience with getting over your first love?

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Catherine
2013-02-18T05:51:48.000Z
@Adriana the way I did it was anytime I felt like I was just going to be overcome with emotion and I needed to deal with it I went running. I would push myself every day harder and harder until eventually I stopped running because of everything I was feeling and instead I was running because I loved the way I felt during and after it. And I guess in a way I only let myself feel everything until I was running and could get the emotions out. I shut my emotions down to a certain extent only because I was so upset anyone could say anything to me and I would literally almost burst into tears no matter where I was or what I was doing.
Manon
2014-08-24T05:37:30.233Z
I'm actually going though the heartbreak of my first love right now. He and I broke it up a couple of months ago but i didn't realize how much in love i was until recently.I would find myself crying about him a lot at random times. Your post has helped.
James
2015-09-17T00:03:09.100Z
I broke up with my first love 10 years ago. It wasn't bad or negative she just wanted to try something else. We haven't talked since then and we lost communication. I still have all the letters we sent each other in the mail such. I've dated since then but nothing to how she made me feel all those years ago. I would love to move on but its hard. I helped her a lot in her life and only wish for her to be well and happy. Until I know that shes happy in her life I will never be able to move to the next chapter.
lala
2013-02-20T01:13:01.000Z
It's been 4 months and I'm still dealing with the breakup... But reading this helps a lot thanks!!!
Mo
2013-02-18T15:12:52.000Z
Step 4 and 7 are great tips. Definitely in the process of moving on
Silvia
2013-02-18T05:33:19.000Z
very true there's many more other people out there
Olivia
2013-02-18T17:20:02.000Z
I've been always thinking back to the good times I've had with my first love and I'm realizing now that maybe reminiscing is the thing that's holding me back from moving on...but yes running does help me
GHISLAINE
2015-09-06T05:07:50.737Z
Hi I just broke up (last night) with my boyfriend of almost 3 years. He was my first everything (first boyfriend, first love first EVERYTHING). I broke up with him and I don't regret my decision but my God is this harder than I thought it would be. So much harder. We have been on a break for about a month now and its been a rough time.
Bluish
2013-02-18T06:20:21.000Z
I just got my first break up and it hurts..thank you for posting this article.. I think this will help me since I dunno what to do with this very first break up..
Marina
2013-02-18T19:07:29.000Z
When I went through my first breakup, I just stopped eating, sleeping and taking care of myself. That was four months straight. I would've loved to have read this then.