Call me old school if you want, but I have always felt that guys should be the one to pursue a girl; but, that being said, there are still some ways to let a guy know you are interested. I don't think there's anything wrong with letting a guy know you have feelings for him, or making it obvious that you are interested. How else will he ever work up the nerve to ask you out? Most dudes will confess that subtlety doesn't work with them — they need bold, obvious signs. So now it's up to you to figure out what needs to be done to let a guy know you're into him. Stuck? Well, these 15 ways to let a guy know you are interested will get you going in the right direction! Keep on reading this article and you will be a pro at sending the perfect signals to the guy that you are crazy about him!
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1. Don't Flirt with Other Guys
We've all heard the age old trick, "If you like a guy and he doesn't know you exist, flirt with another guy when you are around him and he will get jealous and go after you." What? No! If you and a friend were both trying to sell your car, and a buyer was looking at your friend's car and asking a lot of questions about it, but ignoring your car, would you think they liked your car better? Of course not! So be honest and up front, and don't make it look like you are interested in another guy.
Playing jealousy games can backfire spectacularly. It sends confusing signals and might actually push him away, thinking you're not available or interested. Instead, focus on building a genuine connection with him. Trust that if he's the right guy, he'll appreciate your authenticity and respond positively. You want a man who's attracted to you for you, not someone who's chasing you out of a knee-jerk reaction to rivalry. Keep it real and let the chemistry work its magic without the mind games.
2. Don't Ignore Him
Ignoring a guy is NOT a way to let a guy know you are interested. It will get you nowhere! Most men don't tend to go after girls who come across as stuck-up, and by ignoring him that's exactly the image you present. Be real, pay attention to him and acknowledge his presence. Guys love to be acknowledged! Acting like he's not there won't get you brownie points, trust me!
Frequently asked questions
Oh, there are so many ways! You can start by smiling often, making eye contact, and even touching his arm lightly during a conversation. These small gestures can speak volumes.
Try being attentive when he talks, ask questions about things he loves, and remember little details about him. It shows you care without being overly obvious.
Flirting can be fun! Playful teasing, giving compliments, and sharing a little bit more about your personal life can all help show your interest in a fun, flirty way.
Being shy is totally okay! Start with small steps like smiling when you see him, or sitting next to him when possible. Sometimes, a friendly text message can also bridge the gap.
Balance is key. Mix your interest with a bit of mystery. Show you're interested by engaging in meaningful conversations and occasional flirting, but also give him space to come to you.
3. Look Sexy, but Not Too Sexy
There's a very thin line between looking sexy and looking... well, slutty! Guys notice when a girl dresses to impress, but when she tries too hard it's just a disaster. Save the lingerie for the bedroom and only wear your little tiny black dress on very appropriate occasions. And a trip to the grocery store on Tuesday morning does not qualify! But do pay attention to your appearance, if you don't appeal to a guy visually, he will find another girl who does!
Strike the perfect balance by flaunting just enough to pique his interest. Accentuate your best features with clothing that's flattering, yet tasteful. Remember, it's all in the subtle hints; a coy smile, a gentle touch, or a playful hair flip can send all the right signals. Show him who you are with style and grace; let your personality shine through your fashion choices. Confidence is your greatest accessory—wear it well and watch as you naturally become the center of his attention.
4. Ditch the "Weather" Convo
Let the newspaper report the weather. Meanwhile, you can come up with some other interesting topics to discuss. Small talk and chit chat is all fine and dandy, but a way to let a guy know you are interested is not by talking about the rain. Dig a little deeper, find out about him as a person. His likes and dislikes, interests, hobbies and such. Just be careful not to dig into personal areas too soon, you don't want to come across as pushy or nosy!
To spark a meaningful connection, dazzle him with your intellect and shared interests. Bring up that latest book you can't put down, or the new cuisine you've been experimenting with in the kitchen. Show enthusiasm when you touch upon a mutual passion – whether it's art, music, or sports. And don't shy away from a healthy debate if the two of you have differing views on a trending topic. This doesn't just break the ice; it carves out a space where you both can genuinely engage and connect on a level beyond the mundane. Just remember, balance is key – give him the floor to share too, so it's a two-way conversation.
5. Watch Your Teasing
Light playful teasing or "inside jokes" are great to have. It's nice to have that chemistry with someone! Just be careful that your teasing isn't in any way derogatory or demeaning. Guys hate to be picked on or made to feel like a fool. Making fun of him will make him think that you don't like him, so ease up. Make sure the joke is something you can BOTH laugh at and don't make the joke on him!
6. Smile
You've heard it said before and it still remains true: a smile goes a long way. You can catch more flies with honey than you can with vinegar, so turn that sour expression into a sweet one! Guys appreciate something pretty to look at and what can be more luminous than your sweet smile? Especially after a long hard day at work. What a treat! Make sure your smile is in place all evening, but don't fake it. Make it genuine and heartfelt!
A genuine smile not only lights up your face, but it brightens the room and is highly infectious. Let your joy be an open invitation for him to feel comfortable and welcome in your presence. It's a subtle yet powerful way to show interest without saying a word. And remember, your smile reflects your inner positivity and confidence, two qualities that are incredibly attractive. So flash those pearly whites—it's the perfect non-verbal cue to signal that you're approachable and enjoying his company.
7. Cut Him Slack
Don't be too hard on the poor guy! He's probably nervous enough, what with all your good looks and everything, so just give him a chance. Men do mess up or say clumsy things when they get nervous but then so do women. Try not to set the standard too high and remind yourself he's only human. Even if your first date is a disaster, give it a second try. You never know! You may find a gem underneath all that roughness!
Remember, it's not just about perfection! Flirt with grace, flash him that forgiving smile when he trips over his words, and laugh off any awkward moments. Encouraging him with subtle nods and genuine interest can put him at ease. And honestly, isn't there something utterly charming about a bit of vulnerability? Everyone has those oops moments - they keep things real. Keep an open mind; your patience might just unveil the connection you hope for on date number two!
8. Make Suggestions
One of the ways to let a guy know you are interested is by making suggestions for casual activities you can do together. Find something you are both into — Monopoly, XBOX, kayaking — then pick a time and place to hang! It's not necessarily a "date" but it shows him that you are open to spending time with him and that you know how to have a good time and you have some of the same interests. That way he can work up the nerve to ask you on an actual date!
If you're feeling a bit more adventurous, suggest a local event or street fair that's happening soon. It's a public space, which can take the pressure off, yet it's interactive and fun. Say something like, "Hey, have you heard about the food truck festival this weekend? It sounds like a blast, and I really want to try the taco stand everyone's been raving about. Want to join?" This approach signals that you enjoy his company and enables you both to explore common interests in a vibrant, low-key setting. Plus, sharing new experiences can create great memories together.
9. Don't Dwell on Work
It's a good idea for you to ask him what he does for a living, but don't dwell on it. Most people would rather leave work at work and just focus on having a good time. Besides, talking about work can make him think you are more interested in what he does or how much he makes rather than who he is. So gloss over work talk, then move on to more pleasant topics!
10. Keep It Real
One of my favorite ways to let a guy know you are into him is just by keeping it simple and real. Maybe you are a wine and roses kind of girl, or a ballet-loving, high fashion lady. There's nothing wrong with that! But you should still keep it down to earth. Sit together, talk and be yourself. Connect about real things and he will pick up on the spark if there is one!
Being authentic is incredibly attractive. Share your passions, listen to his stories, and show genuine interest in his interests. It's the little things that often create a deep connection. If you're into books, recommend one you love. If he's into hiking, ask about his favorite trails. These moments of sharing can leave a lasting impression and suggest that you're not just interested, but also invested in getting to know him on a deeper level.
11. Body Language
Body language is VERY important. It's so easy to tell when someone is interested just by looking at how their bodies are acting! If you want to show him that you're interested, get close to him. Lean in to him when you talk to him and show how relaxed you are when you're next to him. That'll show him how comfortable you are around him and that you're really into him!
Moreover, mirror his actions subtly; if he reaches for his cup, you might do the same with yours. A subtle touch on the arm or a playful nudge can send the message you're into him without saying a word. Always remember, though, respect personal space and boundaries. Overstepping can be a turn-off, so use these tips judiciously and watch for positive reciprocation of your body language cues. Now go on, let your posture do the talking!
12. Compliment Him
Just like girls, guys appreciate a good compliment. Let him know how handsome he looks today! That compliment will stick with him all day and he won't be able to stop smiling every time he thinks about who it came from. Compliments are a very subtle but effective form of flirting and he'll totally get the hint!
Compliments shouldn't just be about looks either. Acknowledge his sense of humor, intelligence, or kindness. Everyone loves feeling valued for their inner qualities as well. When you praise what he says or does, it shows you're paying attention to who he is, not just his appearance. A sincere compliment about his achievements or personality traits can boost his confidence and reinforce the connection between you. Make sure your compliments are genuine and specific to him; this personal touch can make your interest even clearer and more meaningful.
13. Befriend His Friends
An easy way to let him know that you're interested is by befriending the people closest to him. He'll feel nice knowing that you get along with them and he'll see the effort you're putting in. That'll only make him want to ask you out!
Getting chummy with his inner circle does wonders. It's like subtly infiltrating the ranks without a heavy-handed approach. Make an effort to remember their names, their interests, and create genuine connections. This doesn't just score you points with him, but it also gives you insights into his world and personality. It's a win-win: you're forming new friendships and increasing your allure in his eyes. Just be sure to keep it authentic – no one appreciates a fake friend, and your sincerity will shine through, making you even more irresistible to him.
14. Be Present
When the two of you are together, don't get distracted by your phone. Be there with him in the moment! It'll prove to him that you're more interested in him than posting a selfie to Instagram.
Engaging in active listening is key—show enthusiasm in what he's saying by nodding and giving thoughtful responses. If he shares something important with you, reflect back what you're hearing to show that you understand and value his thoughts. This kind of attention signals that you're genuinely interested in his life and experiences, not just in being seen with him. Your focus on the conversation rather than external distractions will let him know that he's your priority in those moments.
15. Tell Him
This one's obvious but if you want him to know how you feel, TELL HIM! Most guys love when girls feel comfortable and confident enough to express their feelings. So, tell him that you're interested in seeing where things could go with the two of you.
After reading this article on 15 ways to let a guy know you are interested, you are armed and dangerous now! You have already got the brains, beauty and attitude, and now, you have all the right moves! Just remember to be yourself and everything else will fall into place! How do you let a guy know you like him?
This article was written in collaboration with editor Vanessa Salles.
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