We never mean to, but sometimes girls found themselves in a situation where they are accused of leading a guy on. Once you know the ways you're leading him on, you can make changes to stop. Of course, some girls do it intentionally for a laugh or kicks, but on the whole, this kind of behaviour tends to happen without you even knowing that you are doing it. Has a budding relationship you’ve had ever broken down unexpectedly because he told you you were leading him on and you didn’t even realise? It’s much more common than you might think, and here are five ways you're leading him on without even being aware.
1 Being over Nice
In the early stages of any new relationship, it’s human nature to turn the nice levels up a couple of notches above your usual attitude. Sometimes, especially when starting a new platonic friendship is developing with a guy, you can just be nice and he can confuse that for signs that you are genuinely interested in him romantically. Just be careful of not crossing that line between being friendly and being flirty. You could cause a poor guy to fall for you unnecessarily! Being too nice is one of the worst ways you're leading him on.
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2 Showing Favouritism
We all know that guys like to be flattered. Their egos are still like those of cavemen sometimes! The thing is, in today’s complicated dating game, if you show even an ounce of favouritism between one guy and another, he might take that as an invitation and start building a whole fantasy in his head. Because yes, guys fantasise too. Let’s be clear, this is a problem in his mind, not in yours, but it’s something to be aware of!
3 Confiding about Relationship Issues
This is partially the fault of Hollywood rom-coms where the best guy friend is the one whom the heroine turns to vent about her relationships, and this confiding in him starts make him realise he can and wants to treat her better than all the other jerks, so pity and care turns to love. He will have seen all the same movies that you have, so while you might think that you are just confiding in a friend, he might take it as the first few steps to becoming something much more.
4 Too Touchy Feely
You might be one of those people who likes to be touchy feely with people, from family to friends to colleagues. That’s just how you like to connect and interact with people. That’s totally cool when people have already gotten to know you and understand your ways, but when it’s a new man in your life and you are constantly stroking his arm, there is a big chance that he is picking up the wrong signals from this affection!
5 Letting Him Buy You Gifts
We like to treat our friends and be treated in return every now and then, but if his gifts are starting to become a little more up market than the norm, and you are accepting them just as if he had bought you a burrito, then its no surprise that he might start to think that you are something more than just friends.
It's important to know when you’re crossing the fine line. Don’t lead him on knowingly.
