It’s common to feel a whirlwind of confusing emotions when you regret breaking up with your ex. The demise of a relationship can spawn many feelings like sadness, loneliness, anxiety, guilt and regret. If you are in this situation, I’m going to share some helpful tips for when you regret breaking up.
1. Need Time to Think
One of the best things you can do when you regret breaking up is to avoid any contact with your ex for at least a month. This will allow your ex to heal a bit from the pain of the breakup and it will give him a chance to miss you. By giving yourself time, you will also be able to see the situation objectively so you can determine the best way to proceed. Surprisingly, you might discover that you made the right decision by ending the relationship the first time around.
2. Reasons You Want Him Back
Analyze the reasons that you want your ex back. Why do you want to date your ex again? Is it because you are still in love with him and think you guys can make a relationship work the next time around? Or are you lonely and just miss someone to satisfy your emotional and physical needs? You need to spend a lot of time figuring out the reasons why you want your ex back in your life before you talk to him.
3. Do You See a Future with Him?
Do you see a future with your ex? Give that question a lot of thought. If there’s a chance that you would initiate another breakup rather than work on the problems in the relationship, then move on. It’s wickedly cruel and one of the most painful things a dumpee can experience when the person they love initiates a second breakup. Many people say that they prefer that their ex had never returned if they knew that they were going to lose them a second time.
4. He Has a New Girlfriend
Is your ex in a new relationship? Depending on how long it has been since the two of you split, the relationship could be a rebound or it could be more serious than that. If he’s in a relationship, don’t interfere. Let his relationship with the new girlfriend naturally unfold. Don’t try to convince him that you are better than his new woman because it will only make you look desperate, which is totally unattractive.
5. You Have a New Boyfriend
Breakups can happen for a million reasons and we often think that an ex can easily be replaced with someone new. Unfortunately, sometimes you find out the hard way that your ex can’t be replaced and that even though there may have been problems in the old relationship, you prefer being with him over any other guy. If you currently have a boyfriend but you are still in love with your ex, it's best that you let him go. It’s not fair to either of you to continue the relationship when you are still hung up on your ex.
6. Making Contact
If you haven't had any contact with your ex since the breakup, take things slowly. Find out if your ex has any interest in talking with you by texting him. If he responds, that’s usually a good sign. Tell him that you need to talk to him and meet somewhere like at a park or a coffee shop. On the other hand, if he ignores any attempts at communication, he’s usually trying to tell you that he isn’t interested or he’s too hurt to talk to you.
7. Let Him Know How You Feel
If your ex is willing to talk to you about the relationship, let him know how you feel. Tell him the reasons you feel that your relationship can succeed if he gives you another chance. After confessing your feelings, your ex might react in a variety of ways. He might be delirious with happiness that you want to get back together. Or he might seem friendly but emotionally distant because he’s moved on and doesn’t want to get back together. Either way, you won’t know unless you talk to him about your feelings.
Hopefully these tips will help you clear up some of the confusion that you are feeling over this breakup. Have you ever regretted breaking up with an ex?