You’ll read lots of advice about how to deal with a breakup. One piece you’ll hear is about staying positive and to keep looking forward not back. But you know that’s not easy. You’re more inclined to want to wallow in the excruciating pain and sink into the memories of good times. And you find it oh so easy to blame yourself. Well it’s time to buck up because positivity is your friend right now. And you need to move on. Find your mantra and say it. Regularly. Often. Put it on repeat. Find or develop your own mantra or steal one of these:
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1. I Love Myself
This is one of the key breakup mantras. You have to keep reminding yourself that the love given to you by your ex is not the love that you should be defined by. The love that really matters and the love that you need to be strong is the love that you have for yourself. That is a love that should never fade and will keep you strong when external sadness comes your way.
2. I Want to Be Happy
It can be oh so easy to stay in a bad relationship simply because you have become used to the lifestyle and are afraid of change. Being ‘fine’ is not the same as being happy, and every single person in the world deserves some happiness in their lives. Keep repeating this mantra to yourself and it will inspire to forget the sadness of the breakup and look forward to happier times.
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3. F*ck Him/Her!
Sometimes a person has to go through a breakup that had nothing to do with them and everything to do with the betrayal of their partner. Even if you still hold feelings for them after all this time, you need to remember that their treacherous behavior put you in the sad place to begin with, and the best way to vent your anger is with a short, simple, f*ck you!
4. I Always Hated His Dumb Haircut
It doesn’t necessarily have to be about his hair, but make up a mantra to focus on a part of your ex that you never liked to begin with. The more you focus on this negative side, the faster you will forget the things that you did actually like about them and you'll be able to move on much quicker when your attachment has weakened.
5. I Am Better off without Them
It might take a little while to see it, but the relationship has broken down for a reason, and you definitely need to move onwards and upwards. Keep telling yourself that you are better off without them, and even if you don’t believe it to begin with, repeating the mantra and experiencing time apart will help you to see that the grass is actually greener on the other side.
6. It Has Been X Days since We Split, and I Feel…
Keeping a record of your post breakup feelings, whether in an actual diary of just saying it aloud to yourself everyday can help to guide you through the emotional pain of a breakup and come out stronger on the other side. In the first few weeks your response to the sentence will probably be sad and depressing, but as the weeks go by you will start to notice that your replies will become more positive as you begin to move on without your ex.
7. I Will Find Someone Better
This is almost certainly a true statement to be telling yourself, because if the relationship has ended, then he just wasn’t the person that you were supposed to spend the rest of your life with. The exciting thing that this mantra reminds you is that that one person is still out there waiting to meet you!
Mantras are a positive force in the breakup journey but are also a powerful ally in an aspect of your life. It’s an easy habit to get into. Why not try it?
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RhondaJames: Good stuff.
Diana: You just gotta know that there is more to life, you'll meet more people as time goes by, and you have to leave the past in the past. Just let it make you grow, and let it make you stronger.
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