You thought you had found a guy worthy of being your boyfriend, but lately you are beginning to see the signs a new relationship isn't working. There are certain things that scream a relationship is headed for doom. Hopefully the following list enlightens you on the signs a new relationship isn't working, so you don’t waste your time on the wrong guy.
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1. You Are Unhappy
The first couple months of a relationship are typically called the honeymoon stage, because like newlyweds, you can’t get enough of each other. This is the time when you should be deliriously happy with your man. One of the warning signs a new relationship isn't working is when you aren't happy with him or where the relationship is heading.
2. You Aren't His Priority
He doesn't make an effort to spend quality time with you. Quality time is essential for the survival of a relationship because it makes your bond with each other stronger. A good partner knows that his woman should be a main priority in his life. Never chase a guy that doesn't seem interested in the relationship because you are so much better than that.
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3. Too Many Communication Problems
With all the important things that it takes to make a relationship work, communication is one of the keys to its success. So ask yourself: how easily can you talk to your boyfriend? A warning sign that the two of you aren't compatible is if neither of you are comfortable sharing your feelings with each other. Of course it takes a bit of time to share your innermost secrets, but there’s a problem if you feel like you can’t share your true feelings with him.
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Communication is crucial in any relationship, and it can be a major red flag if there are constant communication problems. This can include difficulty expressing oneself, not feeling comfortable sharing personal feelings, or having trouble understanding each other. In fact, a study by the University of Texas found that poor communication was the most common reason for divorce. Additionally, a lack of effective communication can lead to misunderstandings, conflicts, and a breakdown of trust. It's important to address any communication issues early on in a relationship to prevent further problems down the line.
4. Fantasizing about Others
All of us occasionally fantasize about attractive people, like the new visually delicious coworker or the hottie at the coffee shop. Those racy fantasies are usually a blip in our thoughts but when they seem to consume the majority of your thoughts, you should pay attention. If you can’t stop thinking of other guys, it’s your heart’s way of letting you know you aren't happy with your partner.
5. You Can’t Be Yourself
You should feel like you can be yourself at all times even when the relationship is new. A major red flag is when you feel like you have to act a certain way just to keep your guy happy. You pretend to like things that you don’t, or hide your true feelings just because you fear he will like you less. But the right guy will love every aspect of you so you won’t feel the need to put on an act for him.
6. Quirks Are Annoying
If he were the right guy, you would at least tolerate his weird quirks that make you say WTF or huh? Unfortunately this guy’s quirks are making you insane. You might notice you like him less and less each time one of his quirks pop up. If this relationship were meant to work, most of his his quirks would be endearing, funny and cute to you because they are a part of who he is.
7. More Bad than Good
It’s time to thoroughly analyze your relationship with a classic pros vs. cons list. Make a list of all the positives and negatives in your relationship. For example, a positive would be if he’s a great listener while a negative would be if he’s constantly accusing you of cheating. Now add up the score. If the negatives win and you feel these are issues that can’t be fixed, its time to walk because you won’t be happy.
If you realize that your current man isn't the one for you, let him go. I know that is be easier said than done, but life is much too short to cheat yourself out of happiness. What are your new relationship red-flags?
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Josie: I want more, it's only been 5 weeks... We only spend a couple of nights together a week, since football started we are down to 1 night
Greta: I have to say, these aren't necessarily true. When my boyfriend and I first started dating, we had horrible communication problems, I would constantly think about another guy and I was unhappy. But I decided I would stick around and try to make it work. And now, a few months later, I am madly and unconditionally in love with him.
splashhhh: Totally agree
Nicole: Good to know I wasn't the only one with a boyfriend like this. Def time to move on...
Nioosha: So hard to get over him, sometimes I doubt if I'm on the right way or should I give it a second chance!
craycraybitch: My advise, dont use facebook. It is a relationship killer. My fiance and I were deffinatly all of these. i stayed with him tho because he is soo amazing. an all it took was deleting the facebooks an cutting out the negitive people we were extremly happy to have eachother. we made our mistakes, the mistakes we made only added a stonger bond between the two of us
Rafter: There is good advice here But and I mean but If your a social butterfly and rely on friends and social networks to guide you threw. Then don't blame him are her. Blame yourself. Life is hard enough, the only opinion that matters is yours.
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